u/Beneficial-Guitar311

My girlfriend of 4 months can’t show me the affection I need to feel loved and wanted in a relationship because of what happened in her last relationship. And that leaves me feeling resentful towards her, I’ve never given her a reason not to show affection towards me. I’ve got her flowers, love letters, taken her to lots of places, concerts, etc etc. which I cover the bill for, when I brought this up with her she got mad at me saying that obviously she’s not gonna be affectionate when her last relationship was as it was. It seems to me like she’s holding resentment from her last relationship and making me pay for it. what would you do?

I’ve known her for 6 months been gf and bf for 4 months, I’ve been struggling for most of our time together because of the lack of affection, and overall just not feeling wanted or loved. We see each other on weekends but only if there’s something for us to do together, which I pick up the bill for, (for reference we live 45 mins away and she also drives), I drive us everywhere and anywhere, I take her on cute dates, take her to concerts, zoos. Museums. And other things, shopping etc etc. I’ve bought her flowers many times, handcrafted her gifts, love letters, bought her nice things, and made my love for her very very clear. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and have told her and reassured her plenty that I just want to make her as comfortable as possible, still I’m rarely getting any affection at all, and the relationship is feeling like a platonic friendship, it’s my first relationship, and she has had relationships before. She says that due to what happened in previous relationships,she isn’t very affectionate anymore and when I asked her if she would be comfortable being more intimate with me, she said due to her last relationship, she didn’t feel any desire to be intimate anymore, and I feel like she’s holding resentment from her previous relationship and letting that carry into our relationship, which isn’t a nice thing, I’m really struggling with this because I love her so much but she just doesn’t seem like she even loves me? She seems like she just puts up with me because of what comes with being with me. I asked her previously if she could be more affectionate with me and she said she’s not affectionate anymore because of what happened in her past relationship. I’ve tried to push further ahead but my mental health is the worst it’s been in a really long time and I don’t know how much longer I can cope with feeling like this. I feel like I’m not asking for much am I?

TL;DR the relationship feels completely one sided.

I posted once but I feel I didn’t post the full story correctly