r/Dating_Decoded

hi i (22F)and my boyfriend (22M) have been on rocky roads for the past month. he is on military duty so he is away for 2 months and this is my first relationship and his first time doing long distance. for the month he’s been gone we’ve been arguing a lot just about dumb stuff. but whenever we argue i get so sad and upset i can barely focus on myself. i just want us to be on good terms again. so recently we argued and he’s the type to need space afterwards so we didn’t speak for like a day. and the whole day i was very anxious and i just wanted to stop thinking about how upset he was so i sent him a text saying that i wanted a break from the relationship. he didn’t answer right away and shortly after going to my family for advice i quickly realized that was NOT the right move. now, he is upset with me (rightfully so) and for the past few months ive realized that i have been bringing up the same thing over and over again to him in our arguments. i know i am in the wrong and that text i sent to him was purely out of emotion. i wasn’t thinking. i’m afraid he wants to end things with me but i just love him so much. we’re still in minimal contact but what should i do guys? he’s really a good guys and i’m afraid i messed this up for good.

My bf (25m) and i (24f) have been together over a year now. He had a 3 year long relationship with his ex and ended on decent terms (still following eachother on social media). She got into a new relationship and recently posted bikini pictures on ig. I saw that my bf liked the post… i’ve mentioned to him before that I don’t really like him interacting with her posts (for other reasons) when we first got together & i also understand people are going to do what they want at the end of the day. however, him liking her bikini pictures felt disrespectful. Should i bring it up or since i’ve mentioned it before in general, to just leave it alone?

I’ve known her for 6 months been gf and bf for 4 months, I’ve been struggling for most of our time together because of the lack of affection, and overall just not feeling wanted or loved. We see each other on weekends but only if there’s something for us to do together, which I pick up the bill for, (for reference we live 45 mins away and she also drives), I drive us everywhere and anywhere, I take her on cute dates, take her to concerts, zoos. Museums. And other things, shopping etc etc. I’ve bought her flowers many times, handcrafted her gifts, love letters, bought her nice things, and made my love for her very very clear. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and have told her and reassured her plenty that I just want to make her as comfortable as possible, still I’m rarely getting any affection at all, and the relationship is feeling like a platonic friendship, it’s my first relationship, and she has had relationships before. She says that due to what happened in previous relationships,she isn’t very affectionate anymore and when I asked her if she would be comfortable being more intimate with me, she said due to her last relationship, she didn’t feel any desire to be intimate anymore, and I feel like she’s holding resentment from her previous relationship and letting that carry into our relationship, which isn’t a nice thing, I’m really struggling with this because I love her so much but she just doesn’t seem like she even loves me? She seems like she just puts up with me because of what comes with being with me. I asked her previously if she could be more affectionate with me and she said she’s not affectionate anymore because of what happened in her past relationship. I’ve tried to push further ahead but my mental health is the worst it’s been in a really long time and I don’t know how much longer I can cope with feeling like this. I feel like I’m not asking for much am I?

TL;DR the relationship feels completely one sided.

I posted once but I feel I didn’t post the full story correctly

This girl/women I made pretty big efforts in finding after we had a “eye moment”. She shows bashful appreciation and extreme interest, we booked a date. Continued commutation and flirt through fb txt ect. Then with no warning no disrespect or anything everything stopped. No more nothing completely radio silence. Is this like a thing ? Is it me? Or am I the one that lost coms ? Hah?

Hey as the title suggests I was talking to someone who is close friends with my close friends and out of no where he ghosted me.
I mean our last messages were making plans to go out lol very out of no where!

my question is should I text and make sure there’s no beef? I don’t want to date anymore but since I am guaranteed to see him should I make sure we’re ok? Not sure

Thanks for your help

Context: a fling type situation between me (21F) and an older guy(40M)

I’m really into this guy but I’m not ready for a relationship just yet, we’ve talked about actual feelings and experiences, been intimate, call each other after a long day, and ultimately have great chemistry.

I'd love to have the instinctive nonchalant attitude as opposed to sinking my teeth into a person I'm vibing with; but this is feeling a lot like the preview right before we might get into an actual relationship. I’m not sure how to figure out if that’s something I need right now, but I also don’t know think I want to put a stop to it.

The age difference between us can easily put me into a tailspin about having the conversation with my parents of
“I’m dating a 40yo”- I know what the instinct response to that will be from anyone who knows me but now him

TLDR;Is it unfair to stop what we’re doing since I’m unsure or is it more unfair to continue while being unsure. Also the age difference between us is a little jarring but I think we’re at a good middle ground maturity wise

For context we have been dating for about 8 months and have taken things at our own pace. As a child I went through some traumatic experiences that I won’t get into so when we were getting intimate he was really patient with me, which I greatly appreciated. We are both each other’s first experiences so it was a learning curve we both went through together. Sex with him is amazing and he tells me he really enjoys it too. Because we don’t live together whenever we would meet up we would do it. My needs were met and so were his. Recently, the last month or so he just completely shut me out when it comes to intimacy. He still tells me he loves me and does really thoughtful things but nothing physical. I also noticed that I was the one always initiating. He would tell me that he is tired or it’s too hot and that he wasn’t in the mood. Of course I respect his wishes and drop it but I feel really unfulfilled sexually. The lack of intimacy doesn’t change how I feel about him or anything. I still love him very deeply. We communicate in a really healthy way but whenever this topic comes up he just shuts down and changes the subject. I just don’t know what to do and would really appreciate some advice.