u/Beneficial-Royal6872

Just curious and a little worried. Clicked on a url for pitch from tor.watch. I usually use taxi but just wanted to see what else was out there. Well, while loading, in the top left of torbrowser I noticed the onion icon had a lock on it. When clicking on it, it’s said “you have added a security exception for this site…” which I had not. I immediately closed out. I always use the safest option on the browser.

My question is what does this mean? Why did it happen?

I def won’t be using any other link portals but I was under the impression tor.watch was pretty reputable. It was only pitch (which I don’t have an account for and don’t normally use either). I practice pgp and opsec pretty adamantly; though, I am pretty new and don’t FULLY understand mirrors.

Disclaimer: to be clear my problem is not with parental issues as you will read later on, but the position it has left me in.

I’ll keep it short, but the main contextual points, and primarily to the situation.

Here’s the main question I have then I’ll restate it at the bottom: the correlation is incredibly strong basically 1:1 but what should I do?

We’ve been together for 2 years and have lived together for basically all of it. We started as rlly great friends and still are, we share humor, music taste, morals, hobby’s, interests, even parental trauma(mostly), we can talk and laugh for ages, it never gets old. Everything in common except for one major aspect. I’ve been living in my own since 17, traveled and lived all around the country, always had a full time job, and have to figure everything out for myself, just cut my teeth on life the hard way and am calmer and wiser because of it. Her on the other hand basically moved out of her parents to then move in with me, never held down a full time job, and is generally scared of everything and everyone. She’s brilliant but kind of needs somebody to guide her along.

Her dad is a convicted pedophile and a Schizophrenic that kind of lives in the middle of the woods, not rlly ever doing well but full of love and care. Recently she learned his conviction was pretty tame compared to what was assumed her whole life. He(dad) was 21 and she(girl) was 15 and both “consented” then went separate ways or something. Obv still disgusting and fucked but the semantics matter when it’s ur dad.

Until a couple months ago and the 4-5years prior including when we met, got together, and moved in together she was very minimal contact with him. Didn’t rlly ever see him, phone calls were stressful and an ordeal, that sort of thing. Well a big part of our early relationship was me helping her rekindle that relationship with him. (I went thru something similar with my parents so I know the significance of blood relations and parents and stuff, it was clear she cared about him, so I helped her along).

Well as of the past few months they’ve gotten closer and closer and closer, she now works for him (2 hours away), he helped us out financially a couple times, and he otherwise pays her to see him. Sounds fucked up but it had actually been rlly good for their relationship. Well in that she had spent about a week with him while I stayed home and worked, when she came home we got into an relatively minor argument and she broke up with me completely out of the blue. Our lease was almost up, We were planning on moving out of state together, I was planning school, apartments, the whole 9. Just completely flipped my world upside down out of no where. She pretty immediately changed her mind and said she was sorry, just overwhelmed, that sort of thing. We got back together pretty quick but things were different. I planned to stay in the city were at and she was going to move in with her dad when our lease was up.

Fast forward, the lease ends in a month and their relationship continues to strengthen, she spends more and more time away, I’m financially drowning(I have more bills) and working my ass off while she just couldn’t care less and farts around with her dad. Whenever she needs help she calls me, whenever she needs a favor she calls me and so on but especially as of late she’s become more and more distant. Just uninterested in what I have to say, making conversation is hard, when we argue she just shuts down and responds in single words, then leaves to her dads. And it’s been progressing. This all changes when she needs a favor from me and it’s right back to normal. Also to note a lot of the problems we’ve had in the past is our relationship is almost father/daughter in ways. I take care of her, have to remind her to do chores, make sure she eats, handle our finances, etc. the issue arises when she doesn’t equally support me in other wise, if she was my daughter she would have no responsibility to me, otherwise it’s like I’m constantly doing 190% work (emotional and physical) and she kinda just plays video games.

There’s ofc a lot more nuance and little aspects but this is the highlight of it.

Summary: basically I feel used, she came into my life, I dropped everything and took care of her thru thick and thin while playing a large part in rekindling her relationship with her dad. And now this guy just started being a decent person and paying her to see him she’s become totally unsupportive of me in anyway, and has put a significant lack of effort into our relationship, especially during a tumultuous time with the move and etc.

Question: the correlation is incredibly strong basically 1:1 but what should I do? How should I handle this moving forward?