u/Beneficial_Map1828

I've just started dating someone who i really like (30's) but i just found out about her wild sexual past and it really has changed the way i see her. I wish it didn't bother me because its in the past and we align on so many things.

She told me she has had 60 partners in her past which is much higher than mine. Since i found out i've been struggling with feelings of insecurity. This is a feeling i have faced in my 20s with partners but as i got more sexual experience and the gap shrunk between partners experience and mine it went away. Suddenly i am faced with this same feeling again.

I want this to work out, but another part of me worries if i don't get over this feeling i can never be a solid partner if this gets serious. I hope i can, but I am struggling right now.

I've just started dating someone who i really like but i just found out about her wild sexual past and it really has changed the way i see her. I wish it didn't bother me because its in the past and we align on so many things.

She told me she has had 60 partners in her past which is much higher than mine. Since i found out i've been struggling with feelings of insecurity. This is a feeling i have faced in my 20s with partners but as i got more sexual experience and the gap shrunk between partners experience and mine it went away. Suddenly i am faced with this same feeling again.

I want this to work out, but another part of me worries if i don't get over this feeling i can never be a solid partner if this gets serious. I hope i can, but I am struggling right now.

My RJ tends to get triggered when i find out a partner's sexual past is way more experienced than mine. This is a feeling i have had in the past making me very insecure. And I know its not a competition but i cant help but want to know about a partners sexual past. In doing so i found out that the person im dating had quite the wild past in her 20's, and has had double the number of partners that i have had.

She has made it clear that right now we are in the dating stage and non exclusive. The only way i tend to feel secure with a new partner is if i have had more sexual partners than them or at least be in the ball park other wise i feel completely inadequate and emasculated. Prostitution is legal in my country and so i am planning to visit a few service providers to help me feel less inadequate and inexperienced and to 'catch up'. This has helped me get over RJ in a previous non exclusive dating experience i have had in the past.