The mother 30/F of my 30/M kids just left. Took my sock money. $6,000 the kids and the carvI just paid off and bounced
With her stealing my money is there anything I can legally do to use that against her. I don't want to but just in case she tries to pull something on me I want to have something on her
Y'all probably I think this is a sob story but I'm so f****** happy. This woman gave me hell and all I do is try to help her
Real is rare. I love my spouse but I can't seem to understand her. Yes, we've had a rocky start 12 years. But we're finally getting together. At least I thought. We had got divorced for 2 years. Had a love child. Got back together. Side note I've always been a traveling worker decided to let her travel with me full time and it's been hell ever since. I honestly feel like she is very ungrateful. I've never made her worry. I'm not a cheapskate. Before we had the third kid, we'd gone at least two, sometimes three vacations a year
I've never made her get a job I do really well for myself in every aspect of my life I have status. I have finances almost everything in check but when it comes to her she's like a loose Cannon
It's almost like when I'm at my worst, she feels more appreciated and by worst I mean by being a s*** obnoxious narcissist. Those are the only times I feel like she has some kind of control And I'm not saying I have phases of where I do that, but it's something that was part of that Rocky Star I mentioned earlier this time around. Now that we're older, I've become somewhat of a love bug. Realized my mistakes. Try to make your life easier so that she can make my kids life better. But it's almost as if I take the struggles away she has more free time to Think about BS of what I m not etc. I was updated before. I don't know if I'm just lucky. Blessed. I really don't know but somehow I'm just really good at everything. I had a really rough childhood but somehow I managed to beat the odds and make something of myself but I am at my limit. And I feel like the next step requires me to be something bigger than myself I.e harmonizing with my partner to manifest a bigger, brig brighter and better reality. I've come to find out that you cannot speak these things into reality. You have to in a sense set the stage but it's lying every chance she gets to prove herself. She feels horribly arguments crashing out leaving in the middle of the night. And the only reason I try so hard is because she is the mother of my kids and I honestly feel in debt to her. I feel like I owe her but three kids through her and I communicate this to him and she seems to think that she's just a placeholder and thinks that I'm waiting on the perfect moment to find a better woman and it kills me because I have an understanding that when people think a certain kind of way about you is because that's the way that they are with themselves. Anyways, it's just a rant
I've come to realize that as a male in a relationship you have to be the one to make all the decisions otherwise your faced with the consequence of things not going right. IE not having enough for bills. Not having a savings not having the house not being financially stable etc. If you are to let your wife /bouse take care of the finances things happen and as a man of the house it's going to fall back on you.
I recently let my wife take care of our finances because I was struggling with substance abuse. I gave her full access to my checking and savings because I was spending a lot of money on the substances. Long story short, we went from $15,000 to $2,000 in a span of 3 weeks. Some of the expenses were accounted for like we bought an RV. Had to pay for moving from Abilene to Amarillo but about $4,000 is unaccounted for. And the money is going to get spent. But when you ask the person that is in charge of the finances and they don't have an answer, it's really discouraging. Even more so when we have to get a hotel for the week because my wife lost her debit card and can't pay the RV repair/hotshot.
Granted I have a really good job. I make like a quarter meal a year but that's working everyday and it's not hard work. I don't get dirty. I make reports all day. Sit in front of a computer and you know I'll have access to better yet I get to do whatever I want all day as long as I turn in my reports. But it just bothers me that some people don't know how to manage finances. How? I literally supports another adult and they don't understand the meaning of a dollar and it hurts because I grew up poor and it really just has me questioning. Am I with the right person? I give this person everything but it's like I don't even have a plan on what they want to do with their life. I worked hard to get where I'm at. I had a plan and I made it work but my my s/o has rolled my coat too since we were 16. I never made her work. I always encourage her to start a business, an online business. Which I did and I just don't see how they couldn't. I've come to the point where I realized today that I'm not going to get anywhere in life if I keep supporting this person. Yes it probably is a trauma bond. We've been together for 13 years but it's never been good. It's always just been all right. I live a good life but in this economy I have to work almost everyday to support my family. And I'm about tired of it. I want to get back to living these past couple years. I've literally worked almost everyday. I just want to travel with no destination in mind. I have a skill set and that allows me to get a job almost anywhere in the country and I am doing my own life by being with the person who just doesn't know anything
I've been trying to quit 7-0 for awhile now. I have a really high tolerance I take like 1,200 mg. I've tried cold turkey, did it once successfully. But if you know you know all that addiction doesn't get better. It gets worse. I've tried to quit culture again. Started tweaking now shaking and sweating and it gave me well. Better yet it made me feel hopeless like I could never quit this stuff. Tried to taper down. It worked. Try to substitute it with kratom. It worked for what I'm trying to realize is I just need a lifestyle change. I need to rewire my brain and create dopamine a different way because Quentin Cold turkeys definitely doable. I proved it today. I got transferred to the Midland nowhere and thyme and geographic location would not allow me to take the 7-0 there was no smoke shops in town. The lunch breaks here are only 30 minutes so I couldn't go and I went the whole day better part of 1415 hours without taking it. All I can say is it's all a mental thing. Yes I was shaking. Yes I was sweating. I want s*** myself. I don't know why but it's like my bladder stopped working and she started working out of nowhere and I almost pissed myself. But I realized it's really, really. Just the mind thing is to keep the mind busy. I'm glad grateful for today showed me that I can. I mean I still went and got 200 mg as soon as I could. The body aches were there. The sweats were there but it really wasn't all bad.
As the title States I am a first generation Mexican my Daddy has been here for about 50 years. Had me when he was about 30 something I am middle-aged adult. Do fairly well for myself. Got a family of five . Everything is good for the most part. Now that I'm a little bit older, I'm starting to see things for what they really are. And trying to progress in life but just like anybody without guidance. There's some things that I had messed up in my younger age that I am paying the price for now
I am a blue collar worker and like I stated I make pretty good money. Six figures a year trying to support a family of five. Everything is gravy till it comes to the question of trying to buy home. I finally got my credit in a decent spot but I need it to rise a little bit more in order for me to buy a house and get a good rate and this is where my rant starts.
I've Got the 20% down for a home here in the Dallas-Fort Worth area or even Waco and everything is good. You know parents encouraging me this that but it kills me that when tell them I can't get approved because of my credit they turn heir backs. Mind you parents have a couple of homes here in other countries they are on their way out so to speak in multiple ways, not just Death They are about to enter retirement and it just kills me that I can't get them to co sign. They don't want to help granted. Yeah I am my own man but it just kills me. I have a good job right now. I expect to have a good job for the next 3 years and I'm really trying to get a home for my family of five. Right now we're renting but it's like my brain just fully developed and I'm starting to see things a lot differently.
Growing up my mother well my grandma better yet had a home that her kids lived in and at the end of it they were all fighting for the house. When I was a teen I lived there. Moved out around 16. Didn't get no kind of encouragement. I remember leaving my mom saying can't wait for you to come back with your tail between your legs cuz you couldn't pay rent. I got a little bit older. I worked hard labor cuz like I said I didn't have any guidance and it got to the point where I would ask my mom. Hey Mom, can you put my money away so that I can save for a house? She gave me the cold shoulder and said you're a big boy. You make good money. You figure it out. When I started having marital problems. She came back around and started telling me. Hey son, do you want me to manage your finances? So of course I threw it in her face.
Anyways though it just kills me that as a son of an immigrant my parents aren't the stepping stone. Yeah they have helped me out in my life. But now like I said that I'm an adult. I'm not asking them for money. I was asking for a cosign and they can't seem to to help. And it kills me because my father always worked hard labor his whole life. He is an artist he does high-end stucco plaster repairs for museums. Always wanted me to help him start a business and I tried as hard as I could. But being that I don't know anything or anybody in the industry and he how he chastised me for trying to work with him to learn the ins and outs. You know I finally gave up and I finally realized I was trying to help somebody who didn't want to help me out. But whatever just a rant
Like the title States. I miss being single. I'm a young man. I do fairly well for myself. I would say I'm handsome 5'8 short but not too short medium build chiseled physique. I make good money I driving a nice car. Know how to dress. So naturally the confidence is through the roof. I work for an engineering firm around a lot of older white folk. My job entails a lot of interaction with the people in the field. Today a female from the field booty bumped me gave me a side hug in front of all the guys. Their Jaws dropped. So naturally I say some slick "y'all know I'm not the biggest. Just the baddest mother f***** out here" . And it just took me back. I have three kids. I have a beautiful wife but I miss being on the prowl. I'm Mexican and in my culture we say "La boy a conquistar" I'm gonna conquer her. And that's really what I miss. I miss going out seeing the girl I like/ find attractive reading the room, taking notice of every slight detail and using that little bit of information to conquer a woman. To get that number to get that smile to get that little bit of contact whether it be a handshake side. Hug, whatever. All my wife does is b**** and moan we've got three kids together. Nice beautiful family but I just don't get it and now that I'm a little bit older I see why mixed relationships are not okay. My wife has a luxury of being a stay-at-home mother she gets be there with the kids raise the kids from day one. They've all been titty babies. They've all had that nice skin to skin mother to child relationship all three of them. She hasn't worked in the past 8 years. I take care of her. I love life so I don't mind spending money on her wants and needs on top of already taking care of her basics. So I just don't understand how and why this woman isn't happy. Sorry a little off topic.
But like I said earlier, I miss being single I miss driving a girl Crazy playing the psychology tip in the bars when there's multiple women around.