u/BigRNGO

Hello, just to keep things simple, and taking the advice from my other post from a comment. Does an employer have the right to check obituaries to see if your bereavement leave is legit? My Grandpa passed away this week and his funeral is on Saturday (May16) However in my email I wrote that the funeral will be on May 23rd. I’m not entirely sure why I said that. I think it’s because they would have made me work it off somewhere else even though I’m able to use those days as “days worked”. But there’s a very high chance that there will be a small gathering with others on the 23rd in his hometown. As I was corresponding with my manager about my bereavement leave. He called me out about the dates, stated that he would have given me those dates anyway but wanted me to be more honest going forward. He also posted the link of my grandfathers obituary in the email saying he has “reasonable expectation” to confirm these requests. I just feel like an idiot, I feel sick and like the trust is gone. I started this job only a few weeks ago and still in orientation. He wants to talk to me the next time I work and I’m not sure how I’ll take to it. I cry pretty easily, which I hate because 2 things don’t help as well: I was “caught” and I’m grieving. I’ll copy the reply at the bottom
Of the post. I know I’m on the wrong but just wanting advice on the best way to handle it.

“I do want to ask that in the future please be more honest in your requests. I would have approved it regardless as I stated it can be used for time with family or to attend the services and would have approved it. I do have a reasonable expectation to confirm these requests and this was the first link that came up.
https://v (link to obituary)
I would like to have a conversation with you about this on an upcoming shift.”

Just to preface, I feel awful. My Grandpa just passed away this past week and the funeral is on Saturday. I realized my company does paid bereavement leave so I wanted to take advantage to take some time and process. I was very close to my grandpa and I handle grief usually late and wanted to take a couple days off the following weekend to allow me to do things with my family, there may even be a celebration of life then too. Anyway, I told my boss that the funeral would be on the 23rd, but it’s actually on the 16th. I got an email after all the correspondence and he basically said I need to be more honest in the dates. He said he would have approved them either way but he then put the link to my grandpas obituary in the email because he has reasonable expectation to make sure requests are legit which I get. He wants to talk to me the next time I work and I’m afraid I’ll have no good reason and they’ll lose all trust in me. Anyway, I just feel like I’m the size of ant and my stomach is just on the floor. I feel terrible and like he won’t trust me. I know excuses stink but besides the death of my grandpa, I’m dealing with financial stress and trying to move, being away from my spouse and kids due to work and the job is a new job. Guess I’m just here to vent and get support but you can also tell me I’m an idiot because I know.

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