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1500's are a mess
▲ 9 r/AncestryDNA

1500's are a mess

Having the hardest time trying to unpack the 1500's in Lancashire. Ive got four different generations where all the men where, John, Richard, Ellis or Henry and all the women were Isabelle, Anne, or Elizabeth all living with in 10 clicks of each other. Ive got so much bad data of other people tree's to skim through and spotty data at best that cant be place on the right person with the samed named father or mother. I have some key individuals to work with so that helps with some solid points in the grid, but the rest is impossible. Any help would be apprecaited.

u/Binstien — 6 hours ago
▲ 12 r/Infidelity

Two parts to forgivensss.

Everyone always says forgiveness is the goal and damn it, it really is. Id love to get to a point where this doesnt spill over into what feels like sometimes every aspect of our lives. Id love to forgive her. Id love to put this down. I really would. And we're working towards it. The other part is not hating myself for wanting to forgive her. Not hating myself for staying. I do love her. I do want for this to work. I dont want her miserable choices to punish my children and honestly I dont want to only see them for half the childhood. But part of me hates me for being here, and if she wasnt the mother to my children I'd have walked away without a second fhought. But she is, and I didnt. Forgiveness is the path we're trying to get to, but damn if I dont hate myself just little less than I hate her for putting us and our family in this situation.

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u/Binstien — 2 days ago
▲ 24 r/somethingimade

Better late than never!

Garden beds I made the misses, little late for full use this year, but they'll be great for next year lmao. Still short a bit of dirt in the two tier one, and some lattice for the top of it but thats a tomorrow project.

Each box has a 2×4 skelington, plyboard framing the inside of the boxes, and 1×4 siding on the outside. Yes they are bloody heavy lmao. The outside was sanded and stained. The inside has weed liner on the base which is the only thing on the bottom of each unit to create drainage and the inside walls are covered in poly. Each box is half filled with wood I went a chopped down myself as well. There was supposed to be a trianglur three tier herb garden bed going in the far end as well, but as I had this idea in February, between being busy with life and the weather not playing nice living in Canada, I had run out of time.

I've never built anything like this before and I dont work with wood a lot so I'm very happy with how it turned out! I started with the two tier one and the entire skelington was a inch off square so it was a nightmare to make look straight lmao. But lessons learned and the misses loves them now she can finally use them! Seeing how well these turned out she's now asking for me to build her other things so I'm not sure what I've started but here we go lmao.

u/Binstien — 22 days ago
▲ 7 r/SupportforBetrayed

Asking for details.

Ive asked my partner to walk me through the night of the affair. Its been a year and a half since the event. We're working through it. Trying to at least. Situations fucked frankly. But we're, or I'm trying for the kids. We co parent really well at least, but I'm not sure we'll ever have a foundation of trust again, but I'm trying.

But I've asked her to walk me through the night of the betrayel. I know it happened. I know where and who. I know she left that night, and came back the next morning, kissed me like nothing happened and we all went to breakfast like nothing happened and I was allowed to believe nothing happened and found out the truth 8 weeks later. 4 days before Christmas. I hate the timeline on that.

But Im hoping that knowing what happened between her leaving and coming back will help me move past this, or at least stop the nightmares from being multiple things. I dont know what I want from it really, but part of me wants to know. I know its going to hurt, I know its going to suck to hear, but part of me feels like I can heal from knowing. Maybe I'm an idiot. I dont know. She's agreed to tell me, so theres that. We're going to sit down next week on it.

My question is I guess if anyone has asked for more details if it helped or not? If having more information helped move through it or if I know more than enough.

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u/Binstien — 1 month ago