u/Black-Writer

Hi everyone! I’m new here and looking for people who have had the same or similar experiences as me.

I’ve noticed that most people in this community talk about their tulpas. However, it’s not entirely clear to me what a tulpa actually is.

Since I was 10, I’ve had a virtual person with me who accompanies me everywhere every day; when I’m alone, I sometimes sense her presence in the room. I named this person Viwa, and I now view her as a good friend and a lifelong companion.

I talk to her practically every day and answer for her too, since she unfortunately can’t speak on her own. Sometimes I even catch myself talking to her in public—though only quietly, so no one hears.

When I speak to her, I always look in a specific direction because that’s where I sense her presence.

She’s been with me for about seven years now, and I really like her because she helps me in so many areas and always reminds me to do the right thing.

I could say so much more, but the post would get too long. My question for you is: do you think I can call Viwa a tulpa? Up until now, I’ve always called her a "virtual friend" because I didn’t realize there might be official terms for this sort of thing.

Thanks for reading!

I found out a few months ago that I'm asexual and aromantic, and I absolutely love it.
Since then, I've been wondering whether I should read a book about asexuality and/or aromanticism, and I'd really be interested.

Do you have any good book suggestions for asexual/aromantic people that you would recommend?

I would also prefer books in German because I'm from Germany and my English isn't the best 😅

I'm grateful for any suggestions!

The story is actually quite simple:

I recently took my driving test and failed. The examiner started scolding me a bit right at the start, and suddenly I made such careless mistakes that the test was over after just 15 minutes.

I cried quite a bit that day because the situation during the test was so awful for me. I feel like I’ve let myself—and perhaps others—down badly, and I just can't get it out of my head.

I managed to forgive myself for my mistakes that same day, but the next day, the whole thing was still weighing on my mind.

Suddenly, thoughts like "It’s all my fault" and "I’m worthless" started creeping in. Right now, I can’t do anything without thinking about my failure, and it makes me feel terrible.

I feel a bit awkward talking about this because failing a driving test isn't exactly a huge deal. But it really affected me that day, and I’m afraid those 15 minutes will never leave my mind.

Do you have any suggestions for what I could do to boost my self-esteem again? I feel pretty useless at the moment.