Am I (26F) being too harsh for ending my talking stage because he (30M) took 2+ days to reply?
I (26F) have been seeing this guy (30M) since late March. I think we have great chemistry, I loved how he was treating me. He regularly planned dates, we bond over our love of the same video game, he texted me good morning every day etc. there was a 2 week stretch where we were seeing eachother every few days. After about a month of talking I raised the topic of exclusivity and he said he wanted something casual. His reasoning is that he has a lot going on with work and travel. I was bummed but I said Ok, and planned on talking to more people once I finished my finals season (I’m in grad school right now)
I also noticed that after this convo he didn’t text me for like a day, which was unusual. I thought he was ghosting me because I asked about exclusivity, but he eventually replied and said he was just hungover and that’s why he took so long to answer (he was out of time this weekend to party, which I knew and didn’t have a problem with on its face).
Fast forward to now. We hung out after that talk, but I had finals the past 2 weeks and I wasn’t able to hang out. He still texted me every day and wished me good morning, but the convos def felt…shorter? Like he was sweet but didn’t have much to say. I finished my semester on Wednesday, but he never asked me to hang out. I guess a part of me expected him to want to see me since we haven’t been able to see eachother for 2 weeks. I brought up the topic myself and he said he probably would’ve be able to hang until sometime the following week because of work and him traveling out of town to party this weekend. Ok fine.
Friday he texts me good morning and everything’s chill. We start chatting but then he abruptly stops replying mid convo…..and he doesn’t reply for 2 days. What really got me is that he posted to his Instagram story in that time but never texted me, so I felt ignored. I texted him yesterday that I would be taking a step back because it seems like he’s lost interest. He finally replied last night and apologized for not communicating with me. He said he’s been on a bender this weekend, and generally more locked in with his goals recently. I haven’t replied to the text. Everyone says I shouldn’t, at least not for a few days if I do at all. I’m torn because I do like him a lot and now that I’m finally done with school I actually have time to date. Plus im torn on if 2 days is worth being upset over. I don’t know if I will reply, but if I do, feel like not answering for days as “punishment” is immature.
Is not replying for 2 days enough to cut someone off for good? And should I respond to his text?