u/BlueCam1998

Since being on Elvanse i've found that when i'm in contact with a mirror anywhere, I often find that I stare at myself while messing with my hair for unusually long periods of time.

I get that this is the hyperfocus coming into play but I thought it was unusually funny that I do it either way.

There have also been times where i'll be that focused at picking at any spots on my skin or perfecting my hairstyle whilst maladaptive daydreaming that i've been caught by a work collegue or by my mum at home multiple times, and they always give me this weird look. My mum has even asked why I keep staring at myself in the mirror like a weirdo lmao.

I'm curious to see if anyone else does this whilst on adhd medication?

For 5 months I got to know this girl at work and was good friends with her until she decided to leave about 2 months ago. Me and another guy coworker who I’m friends with were the 2 people she got along with the most. We had each others contact info and would occasionally game together.

My limerence very quickly manifested as we both had so much in common and I felt like it was easy to talk to her. There were also times where I would get jealous when I saw her laughing and joking with my guy friend. And I also knew he had a thing for her too, as he told me in confidence.

The main issue was she had a boyfriend but as weird as it sounded it fortunately prevented things from getting awkward between me and my friend as we both knew she was already taken.

A month after she left I sent her a message asking how things are going, it took her 4 days to respond and when I did send a follow up message, she ghosted me.

And that was more or less it, up until this past week where my friend told me he just randomly got a message off the girl asking if he wanted to meet up for a drink.

Hearing that felt like a gut punch. But what gave me hope was that it was just as friends since she had a boyfriend after all.

But earlier today he told me that she dumped her boyfriend and is now constantly messaging him and wants him to come over to her house to watch a movie Saturday night. And we all know what that entails 😞

Also confirms every interaction I had with her thinking there was something in it was just me being delusional and she had a thing for my friend after all.

Said he’d let me know what happens on Monday, I’m also dreading it sigh

Every once in a while I’ll come across a post on social media from one of those pro masculinity pages that says something along the lines of “never make yourself too available as people will be put off by you yadda yadda”.

I never really take notice of all that and try to be my authentic self but I’ve noticed a pattern with a few of my friends from work where I’ll normally be the one to initiate a text first after we arrange to do something in work to do outside of work and they’ll sometimes take hours to respond.

The more I text them the longer they take to respond if not at all (no I don’t bombard them with texts if that’s what you’re thinking, I only ever message them again when I get a response)

Then when we’re back in work they’ll come up with excuses like they were hungover etc so couldn’t respond and of course I have to act nonchalant about it.

It really frustrates me too because a specific guy who I get on really well with does this a lot with me yet seems to get invited out quite a lot by other people via message, even this girl who left the work place a few months ago who I secretly liked and had the number of randomly messaged him out the blue to go out drinking despite him usually taking hours to respond my messages, which makes me think he only ever takes hours to respond to or ghosts only me for whatever reason.

Any advice on what I might be doing wrong or how to handle it?