u/BlueRumor2000

Hey!

So I was scrolling through Pinterest and got distracted by the Zutara art. 😂

So I'm now on the lookout for EITHER:

AU/modern era Zutara.

Pregnancy/post pregnancy fics! I do like reading about the spoils/attention etc the FMC gets when pregnant, and the baby scenes? Cuddles? Etc? Aww!

Not too dark or angsty, but some drama is nice!

Happy endings!

Thank you. 🤗📚☕😊

Hi! 😊

For a while now I have been wanting to travel/move/study in the UK...the history, architecture, and smaller cities/Highlands have appealed to me for a while now...

That and the more sensitive topics of the current South African climate (although I know the UK is experiencing some of their own complexities) has been, yeah...

I have a BA in Psychology and English (Magna Cum Laude) and did my Honors in Applied Psychology last year.

Alas, the process of studying one's Masters in Psychology in SA is very competitive due to the lack of space and my current degrees are mostly decorative at this point...

While I did manage to find a remote (working for an American ABA therapy company) job, it took me a year+ of searching (so much stress, anxiety and depression etc...)

Based on what I have found, simply doing ones Masters in Psychology (for example) does not mean I could practise in the UK as a Psychologist as I believe they need at least a Doctorate, and if I were to come back to SA after studying that UK Masters program, it may be difficult to convert that degree due to the difference in curriculum which means I may not be able to practise as a Psychologist if I move back.

But I have been thinking about it, as I could possibly do other work in the UK with a Masters in Psychology over there? I will need to do more research into the Skilled Worker VISA etc and desired jobs over there, but I am curious and would love to gather as much information as I can from those who have studied a degree in the UK or from those that have moved there.

For example:

What are the chances of getting into a Masters program in the UK? Are there more spaces for Psychology (including international) students in such a program?

Which universities offer the best chances for bursaries etc?

What university and surrounding areas would be more affordable and safer, as well as could possibly bring about more opportunities for someone like me?

Listen, I know this is somewhat wishful thinking but I would appreciate any additional information or advice as to where I could find good sources of information from certain sub-Reddits or websites etc.

Thank you! 🤗

I have always had a love of books- reading, writing and the collections of literature (both classical and contemporary). 🤭

I would say that reading is something I am incredibly passionate about, and over the years I have engaged with/learnt so much about the indie editing/writing space in terms of: what sells in niche markets, content creation/makers in the indie publishing/reading space and all things trending.

I do enjoy writing in my free time and while I would love to write something of my own one day (don't let me get started on the notebooks filled with story concepts and scenes 😂), I have often thought about doing remote work in the book or writing space.

I have a BA degree in Psychology and English (Linguistics and Literature), as well as an Honors in Applied Psychology. While both brought about an almost 2 year long "looking for work" journey, I am currently remotely employed in the mental health space working for an American company...

However, while I am really grateful, books and writing are my passion and I would absolutely love to do something in that field. 🫠😅

I have done research, writing and editing freelance work before, and I have spent hours looking into online platforms that may offer such positions, but nothing seems really steady.

So, I wanted to see if there was anyone on this sub-Reddit that does something similar professionally? Remotely? And they're making a living off of it?

Honestly, any advice would be appreciated!

This would preferably be a remote type of position due to personal reasons, and while I do know about South African publishing houses, they are mostly settled in the larger South African cities and do not seem to offer remote positions.

While the writing space has become a little more...different due to the rise of AI as well as how some people view work in the writing/creative space as not something particularly lucrative or always realistic...

...I would love to get any advice or just general information from those who are big book/writing lovers and have managed to find a professional career doing something they love in this industry.

Too often as young adults/adults we are informed/made to do work we don't always enjoy because "money runs the world" and we to join the masses.

Honestly, I'd love to hear some positive/happy stories of someone finding something they are passionate about and doing it for their career.

Thank you! 📚😊

Hi!

I have looked into several possible remote business ideas or jobs one can learn based on my interests and current skills (although I am always working on them!).

Are there any local Social Media Managers here that work for local or preferably international markets? Especially in the wellness, mental wellness, publishing/writing/author etc industries?

I'd love any advice regarding:

Best free tools (Canva has been fun to use and I have been working on content creation/design skills on there for a while now).

Best platforms to find clients (UpWork is always recommended but one needs to buy credits and...so while I am willing to try it out, any other suggestions would be nice too!).

Best way to advertise your portfolio.

Etc.

Any advice would be appreciated!

Thank you. 😊

Hiya!

I really love Greek mythology and I think the Hades and Persephone story is probably one of my favourites.

So I'm looking for a possible RH (or not) retelling or with a couple/group with a similar dynamic.

Think dark, brooding, quiet and misunderstood older MMC/s and softer, cottage-core, younger more inexperienced FMC.

Not too dark or angsty.

Lots of fluff and spice.

I have read some of A Touch of Darkness and know about Neon Gods. So any RH/other suggestions would be great, especially if they incorporate Greek mythology. 😊📚

Hi!

So this is super random but I often think back on the books I remember reading in school (I am a major book lover) that I would love to read again, look through.

Some of the greats include:

Buckingham Palace "District 6"- grade 8.

Hatchet- grade 7 (I think this inspired my love for reading survival books...really good book!)

Holes- grade 7 (another great book and movie too!)

Love, David- grade 7

The Picture of Dorian Grey- grade 11/12 (absolutely LOVED this book and have my own copy!)

Tsotsi- grade 11

The 8th Man- grade 11 (really good crime drama! I should read more of this authors series featuring the detective in this book...) AND interesting fact! The author came to our high school to talk to us and offer advice to those wanting to write! He was so nice! 🤭🩷

Die Krupple Engel

Lien se Laangstaanskoene (listen, Afrikaans was not my favourite and neither did I understand most of it without translations but this book was good. Emotional and just well written. That and I remember our Afrikaans teacher playing "Moon River" and the movie).

Etc.

Some of these really introduced me to the amazing writing of local South African writers. 🤗

One in particular I don't remember the name of and while I don't remember if it was by a South African writer or had any big life lessons etc it was intriguing and weird enough to be entertaining from what I remember. 😂

So:

I'm trying to identify a novel I read as prescribed reading in Grade 7 in South Africa around 2013.

It was a chapter book with talking rats who wore clothes and lived like people, possibly around a harbour or docks.

The male rat narrator was in love with a female rat called (I think) Esmeralda, who had many sisters and liked dresses/shopping.

The narrator mentioned that many of his siblings had been eaten by their mother or a cat.

I vaguely remember rats being involved in business or gangs. It wasn't illustrated. Does anyone recognise it?

Thank you!

And for interest's sake, besides the expected Shakespeare we read in school and other popular American novels (although please feel free to mention your favourites or what you read as required reading in school, I am very interested!), what South African books did you read/were your favourites in school? 📚😊

Hi. It's me again (ovulation time? Idk, but I'm on a roll).

I saw a similar post on another sub-Reddit so I thought why not ask for something similar on my favourite sub-Reddit. 😂

So I am looking for a shy/awkward/virgin FMC who has no idea how to flirt or understand romantic intent and where she has multiple scenes with the MMC's where she either feels or notices his excitement/attraction to her and either accidently rubs up against it or the whole scene is just full of that juicy tension and chemistry.

Spice is a must!

Preferably she's either sitting in his lap. They're sharing a bed. He's up against her. Or SOME capacity in which she FEELS or NOTICES his physical attraction to her. 😂

I'm hoping for some awkwardness and blushing and also that curling excitement in ones stomach when the tension and chemistry is just *chefs kiss*.

Preferably featuring wolf/shifters or supernaturals. Idk, they seem more animalistic/in tune with their base desires and wants.

Not too dark or angsty.

I want:

SPICE.

FLUFF.

DRAMA.

TENSION.

CHEMISTRY.

Off you go my fellow smut-erflies!

Bring me back some of your favourite suggestions. 🤭🤪

Thank you!

Hiya lovelies!!!

So lately I've been seeing lots of AI (cringe) and poorly done short form videos of the whole, "they have a one night stand, she ends up pregnant, a d he returns a few years later and has his baby" trope which I remember reading so often on Wattpad back (when it was good and ad-free😭...rant for another day) in the 2010's. 😂

So I am wanting to read something similar! Just with a few tweaks.

Preferably a shy/virgin/introvert FMC

MMC's that aren't the typical dbags in this type of trope we usually see so often...maybe they had to leave because there was work)war? I don't really want them to be mates if possible because then that leaves the question of why sleep with her, most likely find out she is your mate, then leave? Too much angst for me. I want something less...romantically sad. Maybe they really liked this girl and thought of her often but couldn't find her again after sleeping with her?

I'd LOVE if they came back when she was mid/end of pregnancy. Idk, I feel like reading some doting and caring partners while their love is pregnant and all that. Some domestic bliss and fluffy? Yes please!

And maybe I'm in the mood for some pregnant spice? Idk. I ain't pregnant but I don't read it often so why not! 😂

Supernatural/paranormal romance would be good...like imagine these big protective wolf shifters? Ugh...yeah.

Not too dark or angsty please! I do expect and want some drama and some feels (she's left alone and finds out she's pregnant and the MMC's will preferably have to do some loving, caring, showing her they want to be with her and NOT only because she's pregnant with a baby (litter 🤡) or two).

Now that I'm thinking of it maybe I'm in my ovulation, who knows? Unfortunately my period isn't regular so maybe so and this explains it! 😂🤡📚🫠

So, any suggestions?

PLEASE! I am hoping for some good ones to devour even though I'm in the middle of reading a book series (shifters) and my reading list is longer than my will to live most days...🤡

Thanks a bunch

Happy reading. 🤭

Ladies. Please. I need some suggestions if we actually have any here locally (Clicks/Dischem etc).

I (26) have PCOS symptoms and often have infrequent periods.

About two months ago I had the heaviest most painful period I have ever had in my life. It lasted almost 2 weeks with constant heavy bleeding, frequent bathroom trips and laying in bed and whimpering in pain. I experienced such an intense wave of pain and dizziness one day I actually thought I was dying at one point and I was so scared.

Eventually it tapered off and after seeking some advice on a Period sub-Reddit I found that it can sometimes be semi normal for those with PCOS...but I should have seen a doctor. It was not good. 🥲🙈

I started my period yesterday and I am once again bleeding heavy (which isn't unusual for the first day/two of my period) but it is slightly heavier and I have been often going to the bathroom needing to pee and wearing like half a dozen pads so I don't leak absolutely everywhere like I did this morning. 😭

I also work from home and sit at my desk for 9 hours (I really wanted to take today off...), so sitting like this just makes the possibility of leaking even more frustrating.

I have come across some women mentioning period diapers or adult diapers and I am BEYOND embarrassed to even look for them but I simply can't go about my day during the heaviest part of my period wondering if I am going to leak like a faucet. 😭🙈

So, have any of you seen something similar in local shops like Clicks etc? Something I can wear that is FULL coverage? Like front to back? 😂🤡 Ugh, I am so frustrated about this...

Please, any advice would be appreciated...

Thank you.

Hiya!

Guys...PLEASE ASSIST WITH HELPING ME FIND A BOOK/SERIES.

I'm trying to remember the name of a paranormal reverse harem (or MMF) series and I'm hoping someone recognizes it!

From what I remember, the main character is a female werewolf (maybe silver or blonde in colour and I think she has blonde hair?) who is already involved with a male werewolf.

At some point a vampire also becomes part of the relationship/with her. I believe there is mention of energy or magical energy between them as when they...couple...I think the vampire mentions that he can see their auras or something and that they are compatible.

The scene I remember most clearly is a Halloween party where the heroine is dressed as Little Red Riding Hood.

She and the male werewolf sneak outside behind the building for some private time, and then the vampire ends up joining them...

I remember that the male werewolf is leaning against the wall and the FMC notices him look up mid...passion...and realises the vampire is watching them. Further passion ensures between the trio during that scene. 😅

I may be getting this mixed up with another book but there may be a murder plot or mystery happening in the story too?

Also, I read this on my new Kindle I got when I was like 13 and my mom's friend had downloaded these free books for me...not really knowing I don't think that that had exposed me to some spicy...indie paranormal erotica for the first time. 🤔😂

That's about all I can remember! Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Please dudes I have been searching for so long. 😂

Thanks in advance! 📚

Hiya! 😊📚

So a few things first:

I live with anxiety and OCD that can sometimes feel really debilitating when triggered, and often get overwhelmed by things I am unable to control or expect. I prefer a set schedule and preparing/knowing what is expected of me that day so I don't get anxious or feel unprepared.

Lastly, I live in a smaller South African city where work is already hard to come by and I have, for the past 2 weeks, been training in a new remote role with an American company.

I feel that it is okay but I am still being heavily affected by the anxiety each day when I start work: 3pm to midnight, with sporadic meetings and sometimes communicating via call (shudder) with clients.

I've also been struggling with the strange work hours, not hydrating or eating as much and also not being able to spend time with my parents when they get home from work...I feel like I have so little free and non-anxious time.

I am so grateful for this opportunity but I would still love to work in a remote position that doesn't require lots of communication or meetings...

Think research, writing, editing, data work, personal assistance (indie authors or small business owners), social media content/writing creation and work focused on English (literature) and Psychology.

I love content creation focused on literature and psychology and also have experience doing research, writing and editing work which I also loved!

It gave me my own schedule and I had limited communication.

*Edit to add* I have an undergraduate degree in English and Psychology (Magna Cum Laude), and graduated with my Honors in Psychology last year.

What are my fellow shy/anxious/neurodivergent remote workers doing?

Where are you guys finding steady and paid remote work?

Is UpWork the main place?

I have been using LinkedIn and other job sites but have noticed that there also appears to be more data/CV farming shams out there that make the search a bit more frustrating.

Do you have any advice in working remotely and finding a suitable job?

I didn't study IT and it seems to be the most lucrative and less social of the remote work opportunities, so what are you non-IT remote workers doing?

Any general advice would be appreciated!

Thank you! 🤗☕

Hiya! 😊📚

So a few things first:

I live with anxiety and OCD that can sometimes feel really debilitating when triggered, and often get overwhelmed by things I am unable to control or expect. I prefer a set schedule and preparing/knowing what is expected of me that day so I don't get anxious or feel unprepared.

Lastly, I live in a smaller South African city where work is already hard to come by and I have, for the past 2 weeks, been training in a new remote role with an American company.

I feel that it is okay but I am still being heavily affected by the anxiety each day when I start work: 3pm to midnight, with sporadic meetings and sometimes communicating via call (shudder) with clients.

I've also been struggling with the strange work hours, not hydrating or eating as much and also not being able to spend time with my parents when they get home from work...I feel like I have so little free and non-anxious time.

I am so grateful for this opportunity but I would still love to work in a remote position that doesn't require lots of communication or meetings...

Think research, writing, editing, data work, personal assistance (indie authors or small business owners), social media content/writing creation and work focused on English (literature) and Psychology.

I love content creation focused on literature and psychology and also have experience doing research, writing and editing work which I also loved!

It gave me my own schedule and I had limited communication.

Edit to add I have an undergraduate degree in English and Psychology (Magna Cum Laude), and graduated with my Honors in Psychology last year.

What are my fellow shy/anxious/neurodivergent remote workers doing?

Where are you guys finding steady and paid remote work?

Is UpWork the main place?

I have been using LinkedIn and other job sites but have noticed that there also appears to be more data/CV farming shams out there that make the search a bit more frustrating.

Do you have any advice in working remotely and finding a suitable job?

I didn't study IT and it seems to be the most lucrative and less social of the remote work opportunities, so what are you non-IT remote workers doing?

Any general advice would be appreciated!

Thank you! 🤗☕

Hello, lovelies.

I'm currently struggling really badly with my anxiety in a new working position, even though it's remote, as the interacting/socialising via meetings and clients makes me so so stressed and anxious and I'm not coping well at all...add in the late hours (to midnight!) of working an international schedule and not spending lots of free time doing things I love (reading) or eating/drinking properly and spending time with my parents during the week, I'm feeling so depressed and anxious.

I'd love to read books with a FMC with intense anxiety/panic disorder or is a neurodivergent that struggles with socialising and anxiety...not from dark or angsty triggers but just...because. 🙈

I don't want to read anything too dark.

I want soft and cozy and comforting and doting MMC's.

Something similar I've read is {Highland Hideaway by Lily Gold} and it was lovely... although I'd love for even more mental health content if possible?

Happy endings and lots of love please!

Thank you. 🥺🤗🌧️🌞

I've lived with anxiety throughout my high school years, after I started developing chronic symptoms in grade 8.

There are times and scenarios that trigger it to the extreme, from shivers, shakes, nausea, feelings of doom and just general "intense flight responses", and this can happen because I'm simply going out to visit family or I'm starting work.

After a year and a half of searching for work I managed to find a remote opportunity working as a Care Coordinator for an American client. Hours are from the mid afternoon to midnight, and I have found that my anxiety is always rearing so badly the first few hours. In this role I sometimes have to phone or attend meetings with Americans and the constant bombardment of this strange new schedule, the ugly sickening anxiety and being unable to spend time with my parents when they get home from work is affecting me- it's been almost 2 weeks.

Is this how adult life is supposed to be? Pushing ourselves through these things just to earn a living? I'm feeling so negative and terrified of it- I know I sound childish but I'm not sure how to get through these surges of extreme anxiety. It makes me physically sick.

I am not hydrating or eating as much, and my sleep schedule is stuffed. If I'm not working those 9 hours, I then go to bed, wake up late morning and have a few hours by myself without truly relaxing because I know I'll need to be working soon and the anxiety will come on.

I sound unbelievably fussy and ungrateful. And I hate that I'm feeling like this because my parents are proud I've found work and I'm also able to earn some money...but this constant anxiety? I can't explain how it is affecting me. I feel so fragile and overwhelmed and it's embarrassing because I'm an adult and working is so normal.

I was on Serrapress for a few years to help manage my anxiety, depression and OCD but I didn't like some of the side effects, so I recently got changed to Fluoxetine. I feel it isn't working as much and my anxiety and OCD is triggered more easily and more intensely.

I'm not sure how to cope with these feelings. It's so incredibly debilitating and I hate speaking about it because it seems like such a first world problem in the grand scheme of things.

I just don't know what to do

How do I cope

I'm absolutely terrified and left feeling sick so many hours a day and I'm not coping. But I need work and where on Earth would I find a low contact/social position anyway?

Please, any advice from those living with Anxiety Disorders and experience Anxiety/Panic attacks are welcome...

Are there even many non-IT related jobs out there one can work remotely?

Thank you in advance. 🥲🩷

Hello, lovelies.

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I was chatting with a friend about a guy she's talking to and ugh! I was like, "this has me in the mood for a book with some good daddy/gentle/assertive Dom vibes!". 😭😂 Reading these types of books has totally influenced me!

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So, any suggestions?

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Not too dark or too much angst (I'm a major softy, have mercy asseblief)

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HEA (happy ever after) required

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Spicy-ness and tension and lots of chemistry is a MUST, PUH-LEASE

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Age-gap romance would be nice as I like the idea of a more assertive and experienced group of guys (or guy) and a more innocent/shy-er character (totally not a self-insert...ANYWAY)

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Please give your favourites!

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Thanks in advance! Happy reading. 📚🩷🌸🤗

Hiya! 🤗

I have been squirreling away the thought of possibly creating a separate Instagram account for purely bookish content- book moodboards, song recommendations that fit certain books/tropes and just general creative (faceless) content. 🤔

Since the end of last year I've been experimenting on creating content on Canva and have thoroughly enjoyed the creative outlet!

As a long time artist throughout school and a lover of writing, it has been so much fun creating moodboards and general still-posts!

Let me also bring in my absolute love (obsession) of reading:

It has been a big hobby (now daily routine) since high school and it doesn't only help me have fun and experience a wide variety of creation, but it also brings me comfort and happiness as someone who is neurodivegent and an introvert. 😅

From Wattpad to Fanfiction and AO3, to traditional and indie published books, my reading has covered so many topics- my favourites being centered on Harry Potter Fanfiction (and others) and romance (fantasy, supernatural, paranormal, reverse harem etc).

It's honestly something I love so much. 📚🩷

I'm often aware of book trends and tropes, and enjoy going through bookish content, so I had the idea of creating a little space of my own to just create content for books I've read. I want it to just be a fun little environment to post creative and pretty bookish things and just experiment with content creation; I'm not sure if it could ever level up to paid/business work (I'm not sure how lucrative or possible that would be considering I live in South Africa and most content/creators seems to center around US/UK/European markets) but it would still be fun to explore the creative side and share my favourite reads. 🤔🤗

Does anyone have any advice? In terms of:

Creating a separate account from my main one that friends/family won't see (I shudder at them discovering the type of content I read, OMFG! 😂).

How to create content that is desirable and trendy but also fun.

Best free platforms to help with the creative process and picture/video sourcing (etc Canva, Pinterest). Ps, do I have to use non-copyrighted images/videos to create moodboards? I don't believe many do but I wanted to get more information on that.

I'd love any advice or information!

Thanks in advance and happy reading! 😁📚🩷🌸

Hi!

After graduating with my Honours in Applied Psychology, I decided to branch out into doing some freelance work because, unfortunately, with my current degree it has been difficult to find work locally (I live in South Africa).

I also have an undergraduate degree in Psychology and English (Magna Cum Laude) and have dabbled in various research, writing, editing/proofreading, referencing and content writing/creation work on the side to gain some experience (and because I genuinely enjoy doing it!). ⭐

Unfortunately, I believe the recent updates/changes to UpWork's credits system has contributed in making UpWork a bit less accessible for those from countries with a lower exchange rates/lack of consistent income to find work on the platform- for example, I need credits to not only apply for certain freelance work but to also verify my account which I am unable to do so considering I have been looking for work for some time now, and the exchange rate between Dollars and Rands can sometimes be a bit...much.

It is both a frustrating and stressful thing to experience, but I know and acknowledge that UpWork seems to be THE place to find freelance work. Unfortunately, I am unable to use the platform at the moment due to the credit system requiring in-app/site purchases- I, however, hope to make use of the platform once I am able to because it seems like a really sound system.🤔🌱

With regards to this, I am also looking for similar sites where freelance work (particularly in the field/work I currently have experience in) is carried out on. Preferably these would be more affordable but also LEGIT platforms. Are there even any?

Unfortunately I'm not too tech savvy and IT has never really been something I excel in, but I know it's super popular in terms of it being one of the most common types of freelance work offered- I rather dabble in the field of virtual/research/author assistance or in creative/professional writing spaces with a focus on Psychology, Sociology, English, History and Art (although I know the writing space is experiencing its own unique set of complexities due to AI). Are there any good platforms out there besides UpWork that offer these services?

Honestly? Any advice or guidance would be greatly appreciated!

I thank you for your time and expertise. 🤗📚

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Before I have tried to use the Netflix Help option but it does not seem to work. 🙈 I'm not sure if it's a general thing or if the South African Help department just...doesn't work.

Last night, my dad was watching Netflix on his TV and then it suddenly said that the device was no longer compatible with Netflix (it has said this before I'm sure, but I managed to fix it somehow- I think I just had to clear the cache and sign out/sign back in?).

Anyways, I tried to log into my Netflix on my phone and while it didn't say it was not compatible, it still would not load a movie.

I tried signing out on the TV last night (didn't work) and then signed out and cleared cache on my phone (the app still didn't work on my phone either).

However, this morning, it was working again on my phone. 🤔

I tried to follow online instructions, like clearing the cache on the TV App settings as well as signing out/in again, yet it still says it's not compatible.

Any assistance? 😅🙈

Thanks in advance!