u/Brassavola_and_Peony

I hope this isn't forbidden in this sub, I just wanted to share that I've been feeling depressed for many years. I don't have any diagnosis, but I think I have depression because I've been like this for years, and I feel like my life has been fading more and more. Now I would like to read about the experiences of people who have been like this for years, or what has helped them improve, perhaps so I don't feel alone and to find some advice that can help me. I just wanted to share this with people and feel understood.

I've spent about 5 years in fantasies where I imagined the ideal life I would have liked to have, and the truth is that they entertained me a lot and made me feel happy because I felt like I had the life I wanted and I could spend a lot of time in them and I didn't even realize how time passed, literally, but for a long time now I've stopped feeling that way because now in every moment of fantasy I also feel sad, because I know it's not real, so it makes me sad to be in them and then come out into reality. My question is what do you advise me to do to stop living in my fantasies. I already tried to stop doing them once, but lately I feel sad every time I remember that it's not real, but it's very hard to stop doing them, so the point is that they are affecting me emotionally, what do you recommend to get out of this situation?

Tengo 18, y Estado pensando en varias carreras para estudiar, pero siempre escucho que hay muchos profesionales que siguen sin poder ejercer, entonces me pregunto que carreras puedo estudiar que de verdad vaya a conseguir trabajo, y claro yo se que aquí es bien difícil el trabajo, pero carreras me recomendarian ustedes, pero siendo realistas, carreras que de verdad me den trabajo, he pensado estudiar algúna ingenieria pero soy malísima en matemáticas, pero como dicen que las ingenierías si da trabajo he pensado en intentarlo, pero que carreras me recomendarian ?

Without talking too much, I feel like life has been difficult lately, although I've been feeling this way since I was a child, and recently I've started to feel anxious or guilty about many things, and I always live like this, and I can never feel calm, I know they will tell me that God will help me with this, and I know I'm still working on my relationship with God, but lately another situation is happening, I've been looking for a job since February, and my dad always tells me to calm down and pray and have faith, and I'm aware that that's the best I can do, and I know I'm impatient, and that I sometimes want to be in control, because sometimes when my dad tells me that I get angry because I feel like God isn't helping me and I know I have to wait, it's just that I don't see anything and I feel sad and desperate and like I will never get that job, I even feel like I'm giving up on asking God for a job because I feel like it will never come, I think I'm exaggerating a lot, but since I feel this way I wanted to tell someone.

Before they delete my post, I'm not asking for prayers, I just wanted to share what I felt, if anyone wants to give me advice I would greatly appreciate it if it doesn't break the sub's rules

Without talking too much, I feel like life has been difficult lately, although I've been feeling this way since I was a child, and recently I've started to feel anxious or guilty about many things, and I always live like this, and I can never feel calm, I know they will tell me that God will help me with this, and I know I'm still working on my relationship with God, but lately another situation is happening, I've been looking for a job since February, and my dad always tells me to calm down and pray and have faith, and I'm aware that that's the best I can do, and I know I'm impatient, and that I sometimes want to be in control, because sometimes when my dad tells me that I get angry because I feel like God isn't helping me and I know I have to wait, it's just that I don't see anything and I feel sad and desperate and like I will never get that job, I even feel like I'm giving up on asking God for a job because I feel like it will never come, I think I'm exaggerating a lot, but since I feel this way I wanted to tell someone. Before they delete my post, I'm not asking for prayers, I just wanted to share what I felt, if anyone wants to give me advice I would greatly appreciate it if it doesn't break the sub's rules

I am someone who feels that melancholy and crying make me feel better, so I tend to cry often because I feel it helps me release what I feel, I feel like I can get out what I have, I mean, I like to do it, feeling that melancholy, and even though it's about remembering things from the past that still hurt me, I do it precisely because I feel that crying helps me, that I can let myself feel that, and it helps me feel better afterward, as if I could be free, I cry often because for many years it has been as if I never stopped crying or venting about those things that I have been crying about for years.

Not long ago I saw a video that said that although that person didn't know whether to categorize melancholy as a sin, they did say that melancholy does not align with the will of God, since one of the fruits of the Spirit is joy, and if that goes against what God wants, then one should pay attention to it.

And I too, for some time now, had begun to wonder if melancholy was a sin, I still don't know what to think about it, but now I feel sad and even angry because I feel like I won't even be able to cry peacefully anymore 😢

But what is your point of view on this?

I am someone who feels that melancholy and crying make me feel better, so I tend to cry often because I feel it helps me release what I feel, I feel like I can get out what I have, I mean, I like to do it, feeling that melancholy, and even though it's about remembering things from the past that still hurt me, I do it precisely because I feel that crying helps me, that I can let myself feel that, and it helps me feel better afterward, as if I could be free, I cry often because for many years it has been as if I never stopped crying or venting about those things that I have been crying about for years.

Not long ago I saw a video that said that although that person didn't know whether to categorize melancholy as a sin, they did say that melancholy does not align with the will of God, since one of the fruits of the Spirit is joy, and if that goes against what God wants, then one should pay attention to it.

And I too, for some time now, had begun to wonder if melancholy was a sin, I still don't know what to think about it, but now I feel sad and even angry because I feel like I won't even be able to cry peacefully anymore 😢

But what is your point of view on this?

Soy mujer y busco una moto para uso personal, mido 1.51 y peso 93 libras, osea no podría con una moto muy alta o pesada, y saben que como esta la económia necesito una que no gaste mucho en gasolina, también una que sea buena en calles de tierra con baches, por que las calles de mi colonia son difíciles y mucho peor cuando llueve, de preferencia me gustaría que fuera una de estilo Urbano o estas que parecen deportivas pero son largas ne vez robustas, que me recomendarian

I don't know if I explained myself well or if you understand what I mean. Not long ago I heard this concept of leaving your burdens or control to God to rest from your problems and that he will fight for you, but that's basically all I understand, but I don't understand how I hand over that burden or control and what I do to truly trust in Him and have that peace of mind. I really don't understand that concept very well nor how to truly put it into practice. If anyone understands what I'm talking about, if you can give me an explanation or advice, please help me. I've tried to search for information online and haven't found much.