u/BreathAggravating967

We've been having problems for years, I became physically disabled and developed an autoimmune disorder in the past few years, and we've been in couples and individual therapy.

She made it clear she needs more help around the house and feels like she doesn't have a partner. Cool. I step it up, I fight fatigue I get every treatment I can to be "normal." I'm told that's helping but she can't communicate with me. Great. Let's work on communication. I expressed I need compassion and physical touch - not sex - touch, kisses, hugs. I literally just want to feel liked if not loved.

Things were improving, she was showing me more affection. Then our session comes up and I'm blindsided about how it isn't going well, she has compassion fatigue, and doesn't feel like putting in effort.

She asked me for a separation yesterday and I'm processing. But I can't help but feel I'm out of energy and effort here. Hard not to blame disability as a factor, I can't blame her either. I've sacrificed so much for our family, her, and her boys (whose father hasn't paid a dime)

I'm angry, but mostly hurt, I feel abandoned and betrayed. I have a history of being abandoned and the timing seems convenient for her birthday.

I have no friends, no close family, I'm utterly alone in this and have been sobbing in the basement since.

We've been having problems for years, I became physically disabled and developed an autoimmune disorder in the past few years, and we've been in couples and individual therapy.

She made it clear she needs more help around the house and feels like she doesn't have a partner. Cool. I step it up, I fight fatigue I get every treatment I can to be "normal." I'm told that's helping but she can't communicate with me. Great. Let's work on communication. I expressed I need compassion and physical touch - not sex - touch, kisses, hugs. I literally just want to feel liked if not loved.

Things were improving, she was showing me more affection. Then our session comes up and I'm blindsided about how it isn't going well, she has compassion fatigue, and doesn't feel like putting in effort.

She asked me for a separation yesterday and I'm processing. But I can't help but feel I'm out of energy and effort here. Hard not to blame disability as a factor, I can't blame her either. I've sacrificed so much for our family, her, and her boys (whose father hasn't paid a dime)

I'm angry, but mostly hurt, I feel abandoned and betrayed. I have a history of being abandoned and the timing seems convenient for her birthday.

I have no friends, no close family, I'm utterly alone in this and have been sobbing in the basement since.

After lurking here for ages, I decided to go with the Ibanez SRC6MS. It's more my vibe aesthetically and musically, I'm big into metal and super excited for the 30" scale.

I plan to throw on labella flats, refinish it black through the rest of body/headstock, swap out the stock monorail bridges for gold hardware (pain to find), drop in lighter weight gold bass tuners, upgrade the knobs, and eventually upgrade the pickups and electronics. I'll probably be happy enough with the Bertollinis for a while.

My wife has known I've had my eyes on this instrument for ages and I came across a great condition used bass at a decent price and a Darkglass combo amp at an even better price. She gave me her blessing and I pulled the trigger after running new and used costs through different retailers.

I went with the Darkglass combo since I was able to get it for way less than the cost of the DG Microtubes bass amp head alone. Plus 2 10" speakers with the Microtube flavor already built into the amp. I know, I'll want modularity and portability later, but it was too perfect to pass up for the tone I'm after. I've got a Fender FM212R and I'm looking forward to splitting the signal between the new bass and old guitar amp.

Pics will come when the gear does. 😁