AITAH for saying my brother should get a job?
My brother(M 20) and I(NB 17) have a great relationship, we were always very close and we joke around often and enjoy each others company. After the pandemic I became a somewhat depressed and we grew apart a little, with that we began to disagree frequently and bcs of my anger issues we sometimes have minor fights. He finished school 2 years ago and had to enter a preparatory course for university entrance exams(like ENEM, an exam you have to do to qualify for public uni, in the country i live) bc he didnt pass the exam the year he left school, and studied for that year, and passed the exam at the start of this year. He start his classes at uni in the second semester so he's been doing basically nothing all this time after he knew he had passed uni, playing games, watching videos, playing on his guitar and sleeping and waking up late almost every day, and that pisses me off for some reason(I know I might be in the wrong for that). One day i saw him playing on his PC and jokingly called him a addict, and he got pissed and told me to scram, i understand, I don't like being called name but it was a joke, and he usually does not get pissed at things like that. This year i got a job at my grandmas/grandpas company(an ice cream company at a small town) they make good money so they were willing to put me to work at the cashier and that was one of the best experiences i could've have to improve my patience and how i deal with strangers. So i wanted to brag about it to my family and i did, but my brother got pissed once more, saying that he didnt have the obligation and he did what he wanted, but i just can't get around how he spends our parents money with the things he wants and does not want his own money to be independent and buy whatever he wants without asking our parents if he can buy this or that. I told my mom that it was strange for me seeing me work my ass off studying(i'm not saying he did not study, he is very dedicated to studies and helps me when i don't understand a subject) and still wanting to earn on vacation, and he just sits there doing nothing all day just because he got into uni, if i were him i would have started applying for jobs the day i found out i had passed and wouldn't start immediately. And my mom told me that i was being harsh and he had all the rights to rest, but she understood me. I think being LGBT+ gives me a more weighted perspective on independence, but i'm not sure. What do you think, am i the asshole in this situation? Not a big deal but just wanted to know if i was being annoying by acting this way.