u/BrilliantT27

My INTJ friend told me about some of his friends blowing him off, ignoring his texts, and flaking on hanging out. I told him he has plenty of great friends (including me) who wouldn't do that to him, so he should just prioritize us and deprioritize those people.

A few weeks later, during our hangout with his lousy friends who have been blowing him off, he gave all his attention to his bad friends while he barely acknowledged his good friends and he didn't even acknowledge my good night to him as I was leaving since he was in the middle of a conversation with one of the people blowing him off.

It does make me wonder about INTJs and what they value most in friendships. I value reciprocity, reliability, and moral compass over all else. I wonder if INTJs value things I perceive as unsubstantial.

I really feel like they had at least another season left in them to dive so much more into Rebecca's life after Jack, reconnecting with Miguel, and their early relationship,. As much as I loved Rebecca and Jack, what Rebecca and Miguel had was beautiful. I think Miguel said it beautifully. Something like "[they] had a void in their hearts that they both filled for each other; Jack for Rebecca and Miguel's kids for Miguel".

I also found teenage/young adult Kate fascinating, tragic, and realistic, so seeing her living at home, working at the diner, while navigating the new Miguel and Rebecca dynamic would've made for an interesting plot. More of Beth and Randall's early relationship and Randall's impact would've been cute.

I know Dan said his vision for the show was to have six seasons, but he really did us dirty by counting the covid season toward that lol

I honestly just miss this show so much and wish we had more episodes!!

Questions: Is my friend's lack of initiative with hanging out in person but eagerness to text normal for INFPs? Does this signify anything about how she perceives our friendship?

I'm an ISFJ. I feel my INFP friend and I have a soul level connection where we catch up, care for each other, celebrate each other's successes, and there for each other when we need to vent.

My one gripe with her is she is awful at initiating hanging out. I find myself scheduling 80% of our hangouts. And, I was really excited about her finally taking the initiative to schedule one recently, but she kept punting it to other days and ultimately decided to cancel the plan and suggested I go on my own since she had a writing workshop that day 😞. She balances this out by initiating 80% of our texts.

Other context is we have slight differences that I couldn't care less about, but maybe she cares more. For example, she's a writer and goes to writing events solo, but I support and buy her work and ask her questions about it. She's also always in a relationship while I don't date.

[EDIT] Thank you for your comments. They're all so helpful. I'm upvoting everyone.

I'm an ISFJ. My INFP friend is really sweet and we text all the time. I feel we have a soul level connection where we catch up, care for each other, celebrate each other's successes, there for each other when we need to vent.

My one gripe with her is she is awful at initiating hanging out. I find myself scheduling 80% of our hangouts. And, I was really excited about her finally taking the initiative to schedule one recently, but she kept punting it to other days and ultimately decided to cancel the plan and suggested I go on my own 😞. She balances this out by initiating 80% of our texts.

I wonder if her lack of initiative with hanging out in person are typical for an INFP or just generally speaking, I wonder what your thoughts are on her really being lovely and initiating texts but not hanging out so much.