u/Brilynne_Marie

Less than two years ago, I temporarily allowed myself to believe it was only intellectual curiosity that I had googled where the informed-consent HRT clinics in Omaha were. I remember feeling an intense wave of positivity that night, imagining what that might mean, what that might feel like to have the right hormones in my body.

The next day I thought "oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck" during my lunchtime walk at work.

I'm going to have to spend tens of thousands of dollars. I'm going to lose my friends. I'm going to just have to get another job. I'm going to be stuck on a journey that has no end.

I don't remember exactly when this was, but to the best of my memory it was around October, 2024. This was the moment of my "egg-crack." The moment I could no longer rationalize that I was just a sensitive man, someone who likes some feminine things, different, quirky, someone with a hobby, or, (and I never used or liked this term for myself), a crossdresser.

I realized I'm trans. I've known I was different somehow since I was 4. I was fascinated by the idea for years. I watched all the documentaries on Discovery Channel I could. I read the books. In college, I was intrigued with the idea of taking birth control pills when I heard that was a crude DIY form of HRT, but the risk of blood clots shut that idea down quick.

Now, all these years later, I knew it was real.

Less than 2 years later, on May 12, 2026, I have 100% completed gender transition from a social perspective.

Since approximately Thanksgiving, I have been out and living as myself with one glaring, and frustrating exception: Work. I defeated that monster this week.

This week at our team meeting, I made the announcement to the team and then sent an email to 50+ people including the techs and anyone I have worked with on a regular basis, then I closed my laptop and awaited what I would find the next day. I've had a handful of positive responses, nothing negative so far.

With that, my deadname is finally dead, I never have to boymode again, and I never have to use a men's room again. (They're making me use a gender-neutral bathroom at work but that's another story.) I'll never have to accept being called "sir" and I'll never have to pretend I'm anything other than who I am.

I now live female 100% of the time.

Life is just too short and precious to spend another second giving a flip what anyone thinks and I've come to realize that.

I can't express how much happier I am. It's not like I'm walking on sunshine all day every day, but I feel like I want to be alive. I want to do things. I want to meet people and talk to people. I've been waking up earlier because I actually look forward to the day. I have never felt that way before. I felt like a potato.

To celebrate what will probably be the biggest change of my life, I have booked a trip to Seattle from September 18-25. I have an awesome AirBnB booked and I have room if anyone would like to join me for any part of it. Airfare is on you, though.

I want everyone to understand the importance of gender-affirming care and how disastrous the election of Trump has been to us. I maintain hope that things will get better, and I will continue to speak out because so many well-meaning and good-hearted people have no clue about transgender issues and there's a lot of noise and mis-information being propagated under the guise of "common sense" or "biological reality" or even "fairness for women and girls."

Being transgender is a naturally occurring variation in human development. It has biological roots that begin before birth. It is documented across history and across cultures. It is recognized by every credible medical authority. It is not a trend, not a choice, not a mental illness and not a threat to anyone.

The argument that it is any of those things is not a scientific argument. It is a political one. And politics, unlike biology, can be changed

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