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This might be long but bear with me, the late degrees and Moon’s movements and receptions are making my brain short circuit lol. At first I thought this was an obvious “yes” until I looked closer and now I’m confused. To be fair I’ve been looking at charts all day today and my brain is kind of scrambled and fried so I’m wrestling with what I see here, any input is appreciated.

Scorpio ASC, L1 (me) is Mars in 6H at 29 degrees Aries, L7 (him) is Venus at 8H 28 degrees Gemini.

Moon as co significator/ flow of events is 13 degrees Gemini 7H.

So I saw Venus is in a tight applying aspect to Mars so I thought, perfect! But then I realized they actually are not going to perfect a sextile until after they have both changed signs.

The Moon would also translate light between them, but again, after a sign change. It’s at 13 degrees right now and the next aspect it will make is the conj to Venus at the end of Gemini. The next aspect the Moon makes is a sextile to Mars, however at that point, Mars will have moved into 0 degrees Taurus and the Moon will be at 0 degrees Cancer. Same with Venus, and it will also then sextile Mars.

So it’s like all 3 main significators ARE going to perfect, and they are so close, and there’s *technically* a translation of light but its after a period of a brief Void Moon….. but still, they all have to move into new signs in order for the perfection to occur.

I honestly don’t know how to take this. I’m wondering if this means that yes , we will eventually commit to each other for the long haul, but we have to go through some shit first? This relationship is relatively new. So I am wondering if it’s saying we have to withstand some real difficult times before we commit to each other? It’s very much giving “new chapter”.

The Moon also has a long way to travel from 13 degrees to 29 degrees before it aspects Venus. Is that the horary chart essentially telling me “Girl slow down you gotta give it time?” lol. It also technically crosses houses too but remains in the same sign. So that’s why I’m wondering if I’m asking the answer too soon and it’s too fresh. Like, we are in the happy 7H relationship (Moon in 7H) but we gotta go through some 8H type shit and be tested before we can confidently say that this relationship is ready for commitment.

It’s also interesting that I will be moving from a sign that I have strong dignity in but Venus has poor dignity in (Aries), to a sign that I have poor dignity in and Venus has strong dignity in (Taurus), but also Venus will be in a sign that I have poor dignity in (Cancer) while the Moon will be domicile and translating light. Like seriously I am so confused. Maybe the reception isn’t important in this case, but it’s hard to wrap my head around how this chart is *clearly* showing that some big shift is coming under way. I can’t tell how that shift is going to go.

But it does eventually all sextile and perfect in different signs so I’m thinking the answer is “Yes, for now, but this is not absolute and it is not any time soon , focus on the now, and trust it will work out in the end”?

Steak (cooked for me by my boyfriend) and One-pot homemade alfredo pasta using ditalini noodles (cooked by me). This might be a long one but I think it’s important for everyone to read.

It makes me so sad to see some girls on here post about how their shitty boyfriends aren’t putting any effort into the relationship. It makes me sad because truly that was me less than a year ago. So with some newfound wisdom Ive gained since then I wanted to share it and hopefully empower some of you beautiful women to demand more from your men, and leave if they cannot meet your needs.

Girls, I have learned a lot of valuable lessons just over the last year. My background: I was in a horrible and unhappy relationship for 4 years. He wasn’t a bad guy, he was a good guy who did shitty things. He cheated on me twice despite also worshipping the ground I walked on. He wasn’t toxic or abusive , day to day he actually treated me very kindly. He was just… lost. It was hard to leave him even though I was unhappy because he wasn’t a *bad* guy in the traditional sense. I thought I loved him and I thought he loved me. In hindsight, while we might have had love for each other, I don’t think we liked each other at all and we brought out the worst in each other.

It got to a point where I would physically recoil in disgust if he tried touching me, I stopped feeling excited when he got home and would just feel annoyed, etc. I thought the issues we were having were just “normal life things” that couples have to put in the work to navigate together. I thought “okay couples go through growing pains , we just have to put in the work”, etc. In reality…. a healthy relationship shouldn’t feel like *hard work*. That’s not to say couples can’t go through rough patches or conflict, but if it’s getting to a point where it’s draining the vitality out of you and it feels like you’re having the same fight all day every day and there’s no progress….

I’ll spare the details but we broke up and I moved back to my hometown a state over. I left that relationship thinking I was not a “physical touch” person and wasn’t super wild about sex. I left that relationship thinking I’m okay with having to be the breadwinner or having to be a mother and take care of everything. I left that relationship genuinely believing that relationship was the best that it would get. I thought it would be impossible for a man to ever fully meet my needs, because if I put together a list of the things I expect from a man, it would be near impossible to find a man who checked every. single. box.

Until I found him. Girls, if they wanted to, they would.

First of all, to my Gen Z girlies in their mid-late 20s, please date a slightly older Millenial man. Women mature quicker than men and while you’d think 25-30 is the time most men wanna settle down, you’d be wrong. They’re not grown enough and not ready to settle down. My boyfriend is 35 and i’m 28. If we met when he was 27-30 he wouldn’t have been ready to settle down.

(That’s also because people go through their Saturn Return from ages 27-30… yes I’ve been an astrologer for the last 3 years and yes I used astrology to find my now boyfriend LOL).

When I decided to start dating again I had spent some time alone and decided idc if my standards are too high , I’m not settling. So I did just that. All I kept telling myself is “I am someone’s type , and someone’s dream girl, and they wouldn’t risk doing anything to lose me” and I wouldnt stop until I found someone who made me feel like I was every prayer answered. One thing led to another and I do some shadow work with the Moon (lol) and I match with my now bf on Hinge.

When I tell you this man is my dream man and I am his dream woman. It’s like he can read my mind and I can read his. There never had to be a “this is what I expect” talk because he does everything I want without me having to ask because he *knows* me and Vice versa for him. It’s easy and it’s light. It’s nothing but mutual admiration.

This is the most important part. He told me he was never this good of a boyfriend to his ex girlfriends… and he was kinda going down a red pill pipeline (thank GOD I got there when I did lol). He asked me to be his gf in 3 weeks, with his exes they were just hooking up for months until he decided “eh why not”. He never got them thoughtful gifts, never did any cute favors or surprises, only hung out once a week and hardly talked. Meanwhile he texts me ALL day, we see eachother 3x a week, he showers me with compliments and gifts and acts of service, takes care of me, takes care of himself, every decision he makes is with me in mind and making sure I’m happy and safe.

I cook for him most of the time, but he cooks me steak while I’m on my period to replenish the iron. Before I come over, he moves the colder cans of Diet Coke that are towards the back of the fridge to the front of the fridge for me so I can grab a crisp one when I get there. He buys me flowers and chocolate once a month. He asked me to be his girlfriend under a Full Moon since I’m a witchy astrology girlie and he knew I’d feel so special.

We’re also both all of a sudden physical touch people but only for each other. Also, girls, sex is the first thing to go in a bad relationship. If the relationship is heading towards dead bedroom status, it’s as good as over. I thought this was normal too, that couples lose sex drive over time. While I’m sure that’s true to an extent, having sex once a month (if that) or so is not a sign things are going well…. now, I want to jump this man’s bones 24/7. I feel like a goddamn horny teenage boy. It’s just so incredible every time and we can’t keep our hands off each other.

I think you’re getting the point. If they wanted to, they would. It took my boyfriend 35 years of being a shitty boyfriend to find a girl he actually wanted to do all these nice things for. I check all his boxes and it’s easy for him to put effort into the little things because he cares and wants to. All those little thoughful gestures that dont seem ljke they require a lot of effort can actually be difficult if you don’t truly like the person. 35 whole years spent looking for his dream girl and just as he was about to give up on women altogether, I came along. And all of a sudden, he wants to do all these things for me. Neither of us realized it was even possible to find a love so perfect.

There’s no misunderstandings or miscommunications or fights or toxicity. Just …. love and ease and harmony.

Girls that’s how it SHOULD BE. It’s NOT normal for you to keep having the same fights, to feel like you have to sacrifice some of your needs being met, it’s NOT normal to feel drained and depressed, or to not want to have sex at all. You should bring out the best in each other. Your partner should be a net positive, making your life easier and lighter.

TLDR; don’t settle. Keep waiting until you find someone who takes care of you and lifts a weight off your shoulders. You are someone’s dream girl. That man is out there being shitty to his current girlfriend bc he doesn’t even realize he doesn’t like her , but when he meets you….. vice versa for the woman. It’s easy to be a good partner when you love the person you are with. If love feels hard , it’s not the right person. It’s never too late…this man waited 35 years for me.

Love you all 💗💗💗

the last few times i’ve gotten my hair highlighted , the root seems to turn brassy by the time I get home. Either that or the lighting is just poor in the salon.

Since this is not the first time it’s happened (and yes I’ve tried different stylists and it keeps happening) , I’m kind of tired of having to drive back and forth every few weeks. Is this fixable at home?

If so, what do i need to do? Is this just a matter of toning or do I need to bleach? This is just for the roots. I want them to be icy white blonde like the rest of my hair.

She looks fucking FANTASTIC. I’d always followed her and when she got with Mario I didn’t think much of their relationship , I thought they seemed happy. At the same time time I wasn’t surprised when they broke up, in hindsight it looked like it was a whirlwind of a relationship and it was probably really emotionally heavy.

Between her getting sober and losing weight after the breakup she just looks fantastic , like she is glowing. I don’t necessarily think Mario is a “bad guy” , probably just emotionally damaged and wasn’t equipped for something serious. It looks like she had her own problems too and the relationship was just no longer productive or serving them.

I wish them both well regardless and I just can’t believe how good she looks seriously!!

ETA: i’ve gotten a few comments about this already so let me clarify. She is/ was just as beautiful before the weight loss. When i say she’s glowing, I mean she looks a lot happier. I would attribute that to her getting sober too.