u/Bruvsmasher4000

I (34M) have been no-contact with my brother (36M) for several years due to a long history of abuse, manipulation, humiliation, and boundary violations.

I’m currently talking to a woman I really like, and if things become serious, I plan to tell her that my brother is the one person I don’t want involved in my life or relationship in any capacity.

I have no issue with a partner having male friends, a social life, or independence. This isn’t about controlling who she talks to. It’s specifically about a person I’ve intentionally removed from my life after 30+ years of toxic behavior.

Some family members and friends still have relationships with him, and I don’t try to control that. I just feel a romantic relationship is different.

AITAH for making this a firm boundary in a serious relationship?

I (34M) have been no-contact with my brother (36M) for several years due to a long history of abuse, manipulation, humiliation, and boundary violations.

I’m currently talking to a woman I really like, and if things become serious, I plan to tell her that my brother is the one person I don’t want involved in my life or relationship in any capacity.

I have no issue with a partner having male friends, a social life, or independence. This isn’t about controlling who she talks to. It’s specifically about a person I’ve intentionally removed from my life after 30+ years of toxic behavior.

Some family members and friends still have relationships with him, and I don’t try to control that. I just feel a romantic relationship is different.

AITAH for making this a firm boundary in a serious relationship?

How would you feel if someone you were dating had a one-time, years-old fling with a friend or acquaintance of yours?

Not every thought needs to be shared with every person.

Being honest doesn’t mean saying everything that comes to mind. Wise people learn when to speak, when to listen, and when to let a disagreement go.

You don’t have to prove yourself to everyone. Some people will understand your ideas, and some won’t. That’s okay.

Daily Law: Think before you speak. A little self-control can save a lot of unnecessary conflict.

People trust people who work hard, help others, and do what they say they’ll do. But if you stop listening and start acting like you already know everything, people stop wanting to follow your example.

The best leaders never think they’re finished learning. They listen, adapt, and stay open to new ideas.

The world changes. Successful people change with it.

Daily Law: Keep learning. Stay open-minded. The moment you think you know everything is the moment you stop growing.

I’ve never found the “AI art isn’t real art” argument very convincing.

To be clear, I’m not talking about someone typing “generate a dragon” and accepting the first result. I’m talking about someone who has a specific vision in their head and spends hours refining prompts/compositions/lighting/colors/character designs/details until the final result matches what they imagined. Is that not creative direction?

As a musician, this argument reminds me of producers who use virtual instruments/drum libraries. Is their music not artistic bc they didn’t physically play every instrument themselves? The creativity is in the decisions they’re making, no?

The biggest pushback I hear is that AI lets people bypass years of technical training. Fair enough, but technical skill ≠ artistic imagination. Skill is just a way to bring an idea into reality. So is AI. While I don’t hold the position that every AI image is good or every prompt writer is an artist, I don’t think the tool is what determines whether something is art.

If art is the act of turning imagination into something tangible, then I think AI-assisted art can absolutely be art.