u/Bubbly-Plum-8491

Couple of days ago I posted in r/ghosted about my situation with a guy who was medical worker. We hooked up and I texted them the next day. Waited a week for a response. Nothing. I texted them today because they were active on instagram liking womens posts and all. I told them “hey i dont appreciate being ghosted you can tell me if youre not interested or just busy. I wanted to let you know the condom was expired and you never replied”. Apparently after I sent that message they put on DND. I am so disappointed. After last year, being sa’ d on a first hangout(not even a date) ive been bumping into very closed off avoidant men and its deeply hurting me. My sexual encounter with this person was very passionate and comforting however the cold dismissal after feels very numbing to me. Is this what dating is now ? After my sa this is my second experience getting ghosted after sex. Now i have to go through the trouble of getting tested for stds and pregnancy bc the condom was expired by 2 years.

I recently hooked up with someone whos an emt. I texted Monday and havent heard anything back today(friday). Their instagram is also pretty dead, maybe like 1 repost but thats really it. I know emt, firefights, etc have crazy schedules so im trying to be considerate.

Im wondering if its worth it to shoot another text because I would like to hookup/hang out again but dont want to come off as desperate.

Hi

I recently hooked up with someone whos an emt. I texted Monday and havent heard anything back today(friday). Their instagram is also pretty dead, maybe like 1 repost but thats really it. I know emt, firefights, etc have crazy schedules so im trying to be considerate.

Im wondering if its worth it to shoot another text because I would like to hookup/hang out again but dont want to come off as desperate.

Hello i am writing my story because I feel very alone. As a heads up I am mixed black woman and this person was a white man who is a self proclaimed white supremacist.

I went through a very intense and emotionally damaging situation with someone I briefly “dated” after meeting them through work. The entire dynamic became extremely unhealthy very quickly and left me with a lot of confusion, fear, anxiety, and emotional trauma that I’m still processing in therapy.
The first incident this person penetrated me so hard without my consent they tore my cervix. The 2nd time I fell asleep at their house and I woke up to be being penetrated. Things were extreme even when I consented such as choking, bruises all over my body, and degrading talk calling me a fucking bitch.
At the time I tried to control the situation as much as I could but eventually it became more dangerous as he started to threaten my life, blackmail with nudes, i found out he kept my bloody sheets of when my cervix was torn. I got knocked up and ended up terminating it which is when the racism kicked in about my hair texture, his true feelings towards black/mixed people.

I feel so embarrassed that I didnt know this person was using me as a revenge fantasy of some sort. He hated black people so much he baited me and ruined my life.

If theres anyone dating such as in person, using apps, etc ALWAYS do a background. He had racist posts I didnt know about until I did my own research. It hurts me to this day bc I never got justice the way I wanted. It hurts to know hes going around dating women and they have no clue. If anyone has a similar story or wants to talk im here to listen and share. I just feel very alone