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There's so much on "middle kid syndrome" "you need even pairs" "try one more time if you have the means and wish for it" "dont you want to try for 2 of each?"

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Anyone heard these or had these thoughts?

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We have 3 (b,g,b) and love them, they get along great and everything is so good honestly. We went back and fourth and back and fourth on a 4th...heavy and hard to say but got pregnant first try and the sweet baby got its wings at 9 weeks old.

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Idk if I wannna do it again, my husband says I dont think we should.

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The comments I started with chirp in my ear though like wouldn't my daughter love a sister? But I personally didnt have a sister and loved my childhood. Heck yes I think it would have been amazing but trying again could mean either another miscarriage, something unhealthy, or another boy,lol.

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So idk i always thought id be a mom of 4 but I think my 3 fulfill me more then i ever realized. Anyone else in a similar boat or head space or knew for sure 3 was it?

3 or 4 by 35, whatever happens; is what i told myself.

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I was over the absolute moon with my 2,4 and 6.

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Time was coming where we were trying to figure if we wanted that last try for a 4th or not. We got pregnant the first try! [I posted a couple weeks back on this]

My feelings were more mixed then I expected and I didnt know why;like i didnt deserve 4 healthy babies, it was so good to be true. Week 6 or so i allowed myself to be excited and got excited indeed but still felt a little uncertain. At 9 weeks, our baby got its wings,oof...not how I planned this to go.

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We were on the fence as is. The babe would have been born on Jan, and I turn 35 in May so was perfect. Now ill have to wait sometime and will likely already have turned 35.

I also am not one for huge age gaps.

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I know many people have kids over 35 but again this is just what ive wanted to do. Idk im just so torn over it all and didnt think itd go this way. Idk if i want to do it all again. I had an earlier on miscarriage between my 2nd and 3rd but this one was much different.

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I guess im just posting here to see if anyone has treaded similar waters.

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Like a family of 5 is still considered big right and can be extremely happy, where all the kids do get along im sure.

Anyone have a vision of kids and how many you'll have and then when it comes around to it everything changes?

I ALWAYS pictured myself with 4 kids. I love it. [I posted here not to long ago about that dynamic] but I also said 3 or 4 by 35, whatever happened.

Well, we got pregnant trying for a 4th and I doubted it from the start, a too good to be true feeling, but week 7 and 8 was hitting and then I started allowing myself to accept the excitement.

Well...sure enough...little babe got wings at 9 weeks. Oof.

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Idk if i knew the entire time something was off, or what. I already have 3 healthy babies, idk, idk if I wanna try again. Im over the moon with them.

I dont think back to back miscarriages are common but my due date was in Jan and ill be 35 in May. With waiting now Ill likely be over 35; could be April but one of my kids already have an April birthday. Im not one for the idea of huge age gaps and my oldest will be 7 in August. My kids ask when well "get another baby" since this one went to meet Jesus and said itd be sad if we don't, but i know that's their young precious minds.

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I had an earlier on miscarriage in between my 2nd and 3rd but it was nothing like this time.

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I guess I'm just here to see if anyone has treaded similar waters.

Hi!!

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New here. We have 3 amazing kids and my youngest recently turned 2 and we were so back and fourth for a fourth. Like we felt complete with 3 but still wrestles a little with the fact we'll regret not having a 4th. It wasnt until after the try for a 4th I felt complete and sure enough first try for a 4th we got pregnant LOL.

I just feel like im stuck in a weird between ive never felt before.

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Is anyone on here a sibling of 4? How did you love it?

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Anyone have 4? How do you love it?

Someone who has 3 siblings, so 4 kids totally. How awesome was life growing up?? I only had one sibling but my husband and I have wished for 4.

I posted a week or two ago about soon to be family of 6,come winter.

Im thankful I did everyone was ao great!

Just feel the need to chat some more (:

I know this obviously had all power to change as we had kids but I had always told my husband, and we agree upon having for sure three kids or 4 by 35 if the good Lord allowed soooo time was approaching and I wasn't tracking or anything and we gave it a try and, sure enough, first try we get pregnant!

It caught me off guard,honestly, and its funny because all of a sudden after thinking itll be 4,itll be 4, I was totally okay with 3. I believe thats because from a previous miscarriage between my 2nd and 3rd I was telling myself something will go wrong. We havent had an ultra sound yet but im sure all will be well.

Anyways! Excited to be a mom of 4 soon, it seems absolutely wild and will for sure be a full house. I understand why people choose ti stay at 3 but we just never felt settled without one last try. My husband would say it's up to me and didnt want to get snipped haha so he for sure wanted 4,haha. I had a lot of people say they could see us having more but I know people's comments dont determine those daily choices for us.

All this being said, parents that already have 4 that are a little older. Whats it like!? Are you still close and cuddly, we all love sleeping together but the kids do have their own space in their bedroom.

I know traveling will be different, I wish the great wolf lodge had 2 sets if bunk beds! Haha

I solo parent pretty often, any solo parents out there?

Was anyone a child of 4 themselves? What are some things you loved your parents and did and things you'd change?

I feel like i was over this pregnancy once I knew about it 😂 i want this little baby here and honestly probably older to just officially move on to the next chapter, it feels weird knowing theres one last round,lol. My kids when this baby is born will be 7,5 and almost 3.

Hiii!

New here so i really hope this is a safe place.

So my husband and I always wanted 3-4 that was it and I was going to be done by 35 no matter what.

We'll 3 came around and we were swoon, love it alllll.

Now oh crap...its time to try for 1 more if we want?

Whats one last try, right? But my husband is all up in the air about it and says its up to me which i hate that pressure lol. So anyways we tried and get pregnant the first time and we have baby #4 on the way.

My 3 are so close and we're so cozy right now so im starting to second guess a 4th but its to late...we had plenty of time to think that way.

I will admit its come with lots of tears.

What im looking for is a close knit family of 4 and their stories.

I love the idea of room sharing too. I think a lot say stop at puberty but I think that can be handled eith boundaries. I think as long as they desire it ill always encourage it. We live in a 3/2. I also solo parent and it seems so much easier.

Im excited to get excited. Its a weird feelings as we didnt know if my 3rd would be our last so I soaked it all in and now we know itll for sure be our last. Idk which way i'd enjoy more. For the first time doing it all again seems exhausting.

4 just seems like so many to me not that its real and it didnt before so I hate that.