u/BusinessPitch5154

The village nowadays has to either come built in or be paid for because many elderly people are still working, as Social Security isn't enough to live off due to the rising costs of society. Many men have kids but aren't fathers, so believing men are the village is a mistake many women fall for sadly.  The majority don't participate in the child's life, and a lot use weaponized incompetence to avoid the responsibility and prevent you from asking again. Sadly, a LOT of women experience the second one. It's why we have so many single-mother households.

An example that showcases this is: A girl I went to middle school with shared this with me after the father-daughter dance was announced. My BFF and I were excitedly discussing what our dads had planned for us after the dance. She was sitting across from us at the tables outside when she started crying uncontrollably.

My BFF and I went over to console her. We asked why she was crying, and she told us that her dad left her mom when she was six months pregnant out of the blue. Her mom woke up, and he had left a note on the fridge stating that he had left. He was the sole breadwinner while her mom was going to be a SAHM, just like they had planned.

After waking up to the news, her mom called his job and was informed that he had quit. She called his friends to see if they had heard from him, but they said no. Then she called his phone, only to hear that the number was no longer connected. He had changed his phone number and completely went MIA. This was in the '90s, too.

Her mother luckily found a full-time job quickly, was up to date with the household finances, and moved her own mom and dad into the home to provide free childcare. Three months later, she gave birth and went back to work . In fact worked 3 jobs throught her life while her daughter was being raised by her grandparents.. Her dad never showed up and her mom couldnt even get child support and he was the one "who wanted a family soo fucking bad". Men are all TALK when it comes to kids but no BITE they dip as soon as reality hits.

This is just one of the many examples shown. Having a kid nowadays should be because the woman wants to be a mom because the kid is definitely mommy's baby and daddy's maybe a saying I live by.

I know this will be unpopular because this series has a massive fan base, but I genuinely don't think Haunting Adeline should be adapted into a movie.

Before anyone says I haven't read it, I have. I actually enjoyed the books for what they are. But enjoying a book doesn't mean I think every story belongs on the big screen.

The author has said that the movie will not censor or water down the content. That's exactly why I think this adaptation is a bad idea.

The story romanticizes and eroticizes sexual assault in ways that are far more difficult to separate from reality when presented in a visual medium. Reading something on a page is one thing; watching it portrayed on screen is another. Movies reach a much larger audience than books and have a different level of cultural impact.

Sexual assault is a violent crime, not a romantic gesture, regardless of how attractive or charismatic the perpetrator is. Turning those scenes into entertainment for a mainstream audience risks blurring that distinction for some viewers and is something many survivors may find deeply disturbing.

My biggest concern is the broader cultural context. In a country where abortion access has already become heavily restricted in many states, the last thing we need is a mainstream movie that romanticizes sexual violence. While most people understand the difference between fiction and reality, some do not. I worry that a small but real number of viewers could misinterpret these fictional dynamics as something women secretly want, despite the fact that they do not reflect real-life consent or healthy relationships. If even a few people walk away with that misunderstanding, it could make dating feel even more unsettling and less safe for women.

I'm also concerned about how social media will inevitably glamorize scenes from the film, especially among younger audiences who may not fully understand the distinction between fantasy and healthy relationships. We've already seen romanticized edits of toxic fictional relationships go viral.

This isn't about banning books or telling adults what they can read. People are free to enjoy dark romance as fiction. My opinion is simply that not every book needs a film adaptation, and Haunting Adeline is one that should have remained on the page.

I am not implying that all women exhibit this behavior.

I wanted to share this because I’m still processing everything through both a childfree and antinatalist lens, especially around how reproductive values and compatibility showed up in practice.

I was in a long-distance relationship where I was very openly and firmly childfree from the beginning. For me, being CF has always been a non-negotiable core value, not something flexible depending on circumstances or relationships.

Over time, several things started to seriously concern me and ultimately contributed to me stepping away:

• He previously reconnected with a woman who was not childfree after she made it clear that motherhood was still on the table, and he stated he “didn’t care” whether she was CF or not.

• He had a pattern of engaging with women who were not childfree and seemed to treat CF compatibility as optional rather than foundational.

• He repeatedly told me that being childfree was “negotiable” and not something that would bother him if a partner wasn’t CF.

• He also said he identified with antinatalism, but in practice he was completely against my stance against reproduction and would react negatively when I expressed views aligned with bodily autonomy and abortion rights, which felt contradictory to the values he claimed to hold.

• When he was upset, he would attack my childfree identity or question it instead of respecting it as a settled part of who I am.

• He disliked me participating in childfree spaces online (which is actually how we met), which felt confusing and contradictory given that CF discussion was part of how we connected.

• On contraception, he was strongly against condoms and preferred methods like pull-out, which created a major mismatch in how seriously we viewed pregnancy prevention and control.

For me, these weren’t small disagreements they pointed to a deeper issue: reproductive ethics and alignment didn’t feel like a real foundation in the relationship, even though it is for me.

I’m not trying to label him or decide what his identity “really is.” I can’t know that. But I can say that the way CF/antinatalist-adjacent values were treated in practice did not match what I needed in a partner.

Leaving wasn’t hard because it was the right decision for me, and I feel more aligned with myself now.

I’m sharing in case anyone else has experienced this kind of mismatch where reproductive values aren’t just preferences, but core ethical and lifestyle differences that show up in behavior over time.

I saw a video of high schoolers struggling to read basic words, and the school later claimed one of them is an honors student with a 4.9 GPA. How is it possible for someone to perform that well academically but struggle with reading aloud? Is this grade inflation, gaps in the education system, or something else? At what point does this become educational neglect, and who’s responsible?