u/BusterX49

Hey everyone! I’m (26M) planning to move to either Cuttack or Bhubaneswar from Delhi and looking for a decent room 1BHK/2BHK. Thought I’d ask here since locals would probably know the good areas better than I do 😅

My main thing is finding a safe and comfortable locality. My girlfriend would be visiting me quite often, so I’d prefer somewhere that doesn’t feel isolated, has people around and is generally safe for her to come and go.

At the same time, I’m not really looking for a place where the neighbours are super nosy or everyone knows everyone’s business specially something causing problems. .😂

I’ll have my bike, so parking is a must, and since I’m a bachelor, it would be great if the landlord society is chill about that and doesn’t make an issue out of my girlfriend visiting.

I’m okay with paying an advance/deposit if the place is good.

For anyone living there, which areas would you suggest I look at? And roughly what kind of rent should I expect for a decent room 1BHK/2BHK? Also, how much advance/deposit do landlords usually ask for?

If you know of any places available or have a landlord who’s decent and bachelor-friendly, or any brokers I’d really appreciate the lead. Thanks guys!

It is 5+ years of relationship (still is) and most part of it has been long distance. It was really great at the start and it almost felt like I have finally found my place and now I need to improve everyday. I also had life goals but with time they deteriorated and as circumstances kept changing I became someone who has given up on life, my person was having a transition into higher studies by that time and was done with my behaviour, not clipping nails, not brushing nothing I was a living corpse investing whatever money I had into games because that is the only thing that kept me going each day knowing I will not be able to study further and have to do mundane day to day jobs and the reality check of realising I am worst than an average person.

However when that transition happened, my partner came close to someone, someone whom they started to like as by that time we only had LDR all the tiny touches mixed with our distance and my nature of being succumbed into reality and paralysis to accept it. My partner almost fell for the person, the idea of being touched and having someone at one hand distance.

Well, my partner cried to me and I wailed, I grieved and begged to be better and I promised I will end the distance please don't replace me, it shook me the last thing I wanted was to be left alone with myself when I have lost everything from social life, to physical traits, to aim for future. My partner hesitated, but eventually allowed me to forbid them a farewell like 4 year old couple should, doesn't matter the long distance the feelings and every dream woven together was very real, I was more than a screen and my partner was more than a voice and a text.

We finally met, and as I knew I will never be accepted again and this is it... I received my partner's text saying they miss me already. And after a long time of begging and breaking and anxiety I felt a relief a sense of dizziness took over and my whole body fell weak.

I promised to become better, I made sure we meet often from now on, every month... I had no job by that time so I was using savings, games came in handy I sold them I salvaged all the games at loss because I wanted this to be alive and I knew as long as this person believes in me I will be able to fight anything. Arguments happened. Money started to fell short, I was able to provide for meetings but my future was still dark, my partner said so and no they were not wrong.

So, as I promised I got a job, I did everything to get a job and promised the person to move to their city, my partner also agreed. Until one day I noticed a shift, another friend coming more closer than they should've, meetings started happening more often between them and my partner suddenly started telling me things about myself, things that suggested I am not physically attractive enough or maybe a change of preference all of a sudden, and how seeing couples around my partner feels like they're missing out on alot.

Now, I am not naive I knew what was going on, working myself mindlessly and tirelessly with one aim to be close suddenly but I don't have one problem in me, actually I am the problem with brief short good parts, obviously not enough to compensate for the bad parts that I have.

However after multiple fights I broke down I don't know I don't like to admit I got cheated upon because It gives me anxiety but I know for the fact I did, their emotional dependency on the other person suggested that but every argument made me sound like a person desperate and someone of a self victimizing nature. Part of me has experienced it before but part of me defended their innocence conflict was too strong, but the part of me the animalistic selfish part who wants to be adored for the work I am putting in never ignored it, it fought, it argued...

And my partner confessed and finally broke in, they are having a thing with the third person more than a friend sex is the only thing that hasn't happened, it is not that I am projecting insecurity, it is not that all this time I was overthinking, it was real, the third person has also confessed and made it very clear but my partner never gave up the person, neither committed to any of us fully. But the other person was fresh with no past wounds or history so they naturally felt easy, me? I am wounded I weep I mourn I make things heavy, I reek of sadness.

We have fought countless time from last 6 months about the same person and how not a change is happening and I am growing impatient each day and they're being frustrated each day. A day we are great next week we are fighting. I demand the third person to be removed, my partner resent me for making them do it, but then this third person again finds their way in or idk maybe are simply allowed to.

3 months from now and I have to move I have worked for it, I have provided more than I could I have tried to set things right, I have tried to love them their way but they always make me feel like I am not enough, that third person is always in and out of the picture depends on situations where the other person has upper hand of being close and available at hours when miles of distance can feel like a true cage.

I don't feel like a human anymore sometimes I think to myself after all this? Am I still so unlovable? Have they made their mind already? I am doing anything I can and I make sure if I promise something either I deliver 100% or atleast 60% to 70% yes un-expected circumstances occurs but I still move towards them while my partner keeps telling me how I look a certain way but at the same time praise themselves it's creates a feeling of "I am better, I deserve better, not a sore loser who tries to hard"

Recently at my work space somebody has started to give me a bit of attention and I am finding myself thinking about them at times. I know they're filling the void while I actively avoid the person but I also want to say hello to them. And I don't want to loose the efforts and all these years I invested in my partner and this to be the outcome of the story, when I am so close to something... to allow brief relief or another uncertainty in, my perception of relationship has changed Inalways treated it as if it's something magical but now it has became scary, and I have became skeptical...

I wish my partner made me feel loved... I wish I was not worthless, I am not to anyone or myself but at the same time I am. It's a limbo. And I have developed anxiety, chest tightness body gets weak, cheating anywhere triggers me, neglect anywhere triggers me, head always race, and sometimes... Sometimes... I just want to prove myself as my last victory dance, to say I did it and end it...

To end this post I am certain I will not be able to break up, call it dependency, weakness or flaw I have tried but it feels like I will weep myself to death and I am really isolated and lonely outside work if that doesn't happen I will slowly die to some disease from the ammount of smoking I have recently started or simply go crazy.

Only thing I do is fight and argue and I know someday they will get really mad and leave and that day will be the idk end...