Boyfriend called me disgusting
My boyfriend and I had an argument, and I genuinely want outside opinions.
We were talking about another couple, and I said " men don't understand they don't give attention to their wives and they are shocked when the relationship falls out " I apologise in advance- I tend to generalize men because of my own bad experiences. He obviously got angry and pissed at me for generalising. I know that's not fair, and I admitted that to him. But I also said that many women grow up constantly being careful around men because of the reality of harassment, assault, etc. If we are scared or if women are restricted bcs it's Men people fear.
He got upset and said I shouldn't generalize. I asked him, "If your niece grows up and wants to go out alone at midnight, would you stop her?" He said yes. I asked what he would actually be afraid of. He replied - The law and order is lacking in our city. I said - Or the fact that men are the ones most likely to harm her?
My point wasn’t that his niece specifically would be attacked. My point was that almost every woman is taught to be careful because we know who usually commits these crimes. I was trying to explain why many women end up becoming cautious or even fearful of men.
He got extremely angry and said I was disgusting for even bringing his niece into the example and that I was imagining horrible things happening to her. I kept telling him it was just an example to explain my point, not a wish or prediction about her.
So… AITA?
We women are constantly imaging the worse for us and the women around us - we always are in fear that we will be attacked somewhere. Thinking such comes naturally to me. Idk if guys think like this ? Was it wrong to use his niece as an example, or did he misunderstand what I was trying to say? I honestly want unbiased opinions.