u/Busy-Session2340

Hello everyone.

I'm involved in a paternity recognition case in Italy. This is only about legal recognition, not child support.

A DNA test has already confirmed paternity, and there is a court hearing scheduled for September.

I'm not Italian, so understanding how these procedures work has been very difficult. I chose to bring the case in Italy because I believed it would be faster than pursuing recognition internationally, although after almost a year I'm no longer sure that was the right assumption.

For months, the case was delayed because the father could not be served. That issue has now been resolved through service by public notice, so the proceedings are finally moving forward.

Recently, the possibility of voluntary recognition before the hearing was raised. My lawyer asked me to prepare a public deed of consent, but it is an expensive document and still requires several formalities before it can be used.

What makes me hesitate is that the father's side has never confirmed they will actually go through with the voluntary recognition, and my lawyer's last message asking for confirmation has never been answered.

At this point, I'm honestly wondering whether continuing to prepare this document still makes sense, or whether I should simply let the judicial process continue until the hearing.

Would you see good faith in this situation, or would you also start questioning whether the proposal of voluntary recognition was genuine?

Se un uomo scoprisse di stare per diventare padre per la prima volta a causa di una gravidanza non programmata con una persona di un'altra nazionalità, con la quale non ha mai avuto una relazione, pensate che questo possa influenzare il suo interesse a essere presente nella vita del bambino?

Oppure, secondo voi, il fatto che la gravidanza non fosse pianificata non dovrebbe cambiare il desiderio di fare il padre?

Mi piacerebbe conoscere diversi punti di vista

My one-year-old son's father has never legally recognized him, so I'm currently going through that process. We were never in a relationship, and I've been raising my son alone since my pregnancy.

What hurts me isn't the legal process itself, but the indifference. During my pregnancy, we took a DNA test together. I went to the clinic alone, he came with his brother, barely looked at me, and we've had no contact since. Everything goes through lawyers.

I know this is about my son's rights, not mine. But sometimes it still feels as though I'm the one begging for the bare minimum of acknowledgment, and I hate that feeling.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you stop taking someone else's indifference so personally?

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I'm not looking for legal advice

I'm looking for emotional support.

My one-year-old son's father has never legally recognized him, so I'm currently going through that process. We were never in a relationship, and I've been raising my son alone since my pregnancy.

What hurts me isn't the legal process itself, but the indifference. During my pregnancy, we took a DNA test together. I went to the clinic alone, he came with his brother, barely looked at me, and we've had no contact since. Everything goes through lawyers.

I know this is about my son's rights, not mine. But sometimes it still feels as though I'm the one begging for the bare minimum of acknowledgment, and I hate that feeling.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you stop taking someone else's indifference so personally?

Queria ouvir opiniões de pessoas que já mudaram de carreira ou trabalharam para empresas internacionais.

Hoje trabalho com Customer Support em tecnologia. Falo português e espanhol fluente, mas meu inglês ainda não é suficiente para vagas internacionais. Meu salário é baixo e, pela minha realidade financeira e familiar, não consigo fazer um intercâmbio nem investir em uma mudança tradicional para outro país.

Minha dúvida é estratégica: vocês acreditam que vale mais a pena insistir em construir um inglês profissional permanecendo no Brasil ou buscar uma oportunidade de viver algum tempo em um país de língua inglesa para acelerar essa fluência e, depois, disputar vagas internacionais (mesmo que esse país não seja meu destino definitivo)?

Gostaria principalmente de opiniões de quem realmente passou por algo parecido ou trabalha com recrutamento internacional.