u/Butterfly12798

I’ve had issues with my MIL making subtle jabs at me or bringing up my husbands ex from years ago randomly for so long. This year I had a baby and the birth was extremely traumatic, 2 months early. My MIL has been difficult throughout with her insensitive comments. I had a placenta abruption and I could tell she was hinting at me being stressed out causing it.. which I found incredibly insensitive because a) wtf and b) she’s wrong. I also had texted out a set of rules we have for the baby, I.e no kissing, we don’t want baby leaving our home without us, etc and she got super butt hurt and texted my husband that she’s “still coming to terms with being a MIL”. This was while my daughter was getting a blood transfusion and I told grandparents they couldn’t visit the NICU. She’s also constantly continuing to call my baby “her baby”, even after my husbands asked her to stop. For context she had all boys and my daughter is the first grandchild so she’s been giving me creepy possessive vibes.

Long story short, Most recently my MIL brought over 3 baby books - one on why a baby needs their grandma, one on why a baby needs their grandpa, and one on why a baby needs their dad. Found it funny I was left out. Am I wrong for thinking it’s a bit weird? She also has changed her phone background to a picture she stole from my social media of just my husband and baby. I already don’t like her so it’s piling up especially being postpartum. Anytime we call her out she throws a pity party and says “she can’t do anything right”. It just seems like she’s trying to exclude me from my own baby.

I’ve had issues with my MIL making jabs at me or bringing up my husbands ex from years ago randomly for so long. This year I had a baby and the birth was extremely traumatic, 2 months early. My MIL has been difficult throughout with her insensitive comments. I had a placenta abruption and I could tell she was hinting at me being stressed out causing it.. which I found incredibly insensitive because a) wtf and b) she’s wrong. I also had texted out a set of rules we have for the baby, I.e no kissing, we don’t want baby leaving our home without us, etc and she got super butt hurt and texted my husband that she’s “still coming to terms with being a MIL”. This was while my daughter was getting a blood transfusion and I told grandparents they couldn’t visit the NICU. She’s also constantly continuing to call my baby “her baby”, even after my husbands asked her to stop. For context she had all boys and my daughter is the first grandchild so she’s been giving me creepy possessive vibes.

Long story short, Most recently my MIL brought over 3 baby books - one on why a baby needs their grandma, one on why a baby needs their grandpa, and one on why a baby needs their dad. Found it funny I was left out. AITA for thinking it’s a bit weird? She also has changed her phone background to a picture she stole from my social media of just my husband and baby. I already don’t like her so it’s piling up especially being postpartum. Anytime we call her out she throws a pity party and says “she can’t do anything right”. It just seems like she’s trying to exclude me from my own baby.

For those who have had a placenta abrupton and were never given a reason why, what tests did you do afterwards on you or the placenta to prevent it from happening again?

For those who have had a placenta abrupton and were never given a reason why, what tests did you do afterwards on you or the placenta to prevent it from happening again?

I (27f) had a partial placental abruption at 30 weeks and 5 days pregnant. My husband and I were intimate the night before (doc said this couldn’t be the cause) and I woke up the next day with contractions. This was my first pregnancy so I assumed it was just Braxton hicks and stayed in bed. That night I was having severe lower back pain and cramping so my husband ran me a bath. As soon as I got out of the bath blood started gushing from me and I had to idea what was going on and was rushed to the hospital. I soon found out I was having a placenta abruption and my water broke.

The next day I had an emergency c section. They said my placenta was in pieces. No known cause for the abruption they just found from post op placenta testing that my placenta had chorioamnionitis but they’re not sure if I got that after my water broke or before. I’m terrified of this happening again and am absolutely traumatized.

I want other children but I also don’t want to die or my baby to lose their life.

Has anyone had a similar experience with a placental abruption and gone out to have normal full term healthy pregnancies?

Any insight on your experience is helpful.