u/CafeAntesDeTudo

5'7" (1.73m) male here.

Picture this: Ash Ketchum, but white and blond with green eyes. And instead of looking for a pet (I already own the world's cutest dog), I am actually looking for a life partner.

I am located in the US (PNW) and searching far and wide (read: domestic or international) for a woman to start a family with. I am open-minded with respect to race and body type, but would prefer someone my age or younger. My ideal partner would be someone who is drug and disease free like me (I am not trying to catch em all) and doesn't have any children already. I appreciate those who are chill and don't take life too seriously. I am irreligious and apolitical, if that matters to you. I don't smoke, but I do drink on special occasions.

I am a white collar homeowner who lives alone with one dog. In my free time, I enjoy cooking, doodling, hiking, playing video games and walking my dog. I also have somewhat of an interest in cars and computers. Any questions, feel free to ask.

Looking for some good BP YT channels to watch and listen to. So far I actively consume:

• Hat Flying (DBDR)
• Rehab Room
• savvy guy (aka Oreoman)
• Martin Goldberg (not necessarily a BP channel)

I've heard of some other smaller channels (Ascended something?), but I believe a couple of them nvke their own channels for whatever reason. Smaller channels are definitely welcome and encouraged.

Also, shoutout to and Rest In Peace zoomertrader :_:7 gone, but never forgotten.

Over the past couple years, I've seen people talk about the prospect of robot partners to replace human women (usually heralded as the solution to inkwelldom.) Let's break down how unfeasible it is to think you'll be getting a robot gf anytime soon:

• Technology. We are not yet advanced enough to create androids and that's probably not gonna change anytime soon. We can barely create automated humanoid robots as-is. AI is off to a rough start and just being used for meme purposes like cheesing one's way through college or making slop videos. Now you expect us to also pioneer technology that creates a lifelike entity?​ That leads to the next point...
• Morality. With the proposed creation of androids comes all the moral questions. Do robots deserve rights? Is it unethical to create a robot for the sole purpose of romance and sex? That's not even taking consideration how much human women will do everything in their power to stop robot gfs from becoming reality because it threatens the power they have over mem (particularly simps and/or inkwells.) I bet you women worldwide will push for legislation against the creation of robot gfs when technology gets to the point of being able to create them. It will be a years (if not decades) long battle before world governments decide whether or not robot gfs get the greenlight.
• High barrier to entry. Assuming robot gfs become a thing and are accessible to the public, they will command a high premium that prices them out of the grasp of the average man. Only the wealthy elite will be able to afford them and they'll be the ones to work out all the bugs. Once again, it will be years or even decades before robot gfs would become affordable to average men.

Basically, we were born too early for robot gfs. They'll probably first come around in the late 21st century and only become mainstream in the 22nd century. Sorry Blade Runnercels. No replicant for you.

Basically, I tend to avoid women with blonde hair and blue eyes and I perceive them in a negative light based on appearance alone. I think of them as conceited and entitled simply due to their features. Even sub-5 blonde blue-eyed women think of themselves as 10s simply cause men (especially ethnic ones) way overrate them. I try to minimise my interactions with these women as much as possible cause it's draining to have to even be in their presence. I know all women can have such an attitude regardless of their appearance, but it's especially apparent in this demographic.

Mind you, I am a blond guy with green eyes and I don't see the appeal of these women. I don't deny they can be beautiful (as any other woman), but mostly they overshadow sub-5 features with the halo effect of blonde hair and blue eyes. ​

This is just an observation I made about my experience on dating apps from this year compared to last year.

For reference, I am a 31 year old white American male with blond hair and green eyes. I stand 5'7" (I know, brutal height for a man) with an average body. I won't comment on my looks cause I don't think that's up to me, society already tells me everything I need to know.

2025: 2 dates​ (led to nothing), 5 hookups across the year, only one of which was with someone whom I wouldn't wanna be seen in public with. The others were mid-to-cute and two were at least younger than me. I got two matches with some mid-20s women that could have resulted in an LTR, but it wasn't what I was looking for.

2026: 1 meetup which led to nothing, otherwise 0 action on any of the apps. I've matched with a couple women in their 40s and 50s, but they were looking for something serious and we never met anyway.

It's not just about my results, but women's attitudes, too. Even last year, I could get phone numbers and women would entertain a conversation. This year, all my matches seem dry and distant if they're even real women. I had a trip to India planned this month (that I cancelled) and I'd been hella active on the apps looking for women in New Delhi and it was rare for me to get a match and even when I got one, the conversation was dry af. I only found one woman who seems gaga for me (when you'd expect a lot more women would give me that treatment if "JBW" was anything to go by. As far as I am concerned, things are only going to get worse from here and hypergamy is already infecting women worldwide.

What have your experiences been in this last year?

Considering the only matches an average guy gets are one or more of the following:

• escorts
• scammers
• bots
• real women who unmatch and/or ghost immediately
• foreign women very obviously just trying to get a green card

it's really better to not have any of those. There's maybe a 1 in a million chance you find an actual woman who entertains something with you, but that's getting less and less likely as time goes on (thanks, hypergamy.) some may call it cope, but I'd prefer to be just undesirable rather than getting swindled on top of it. what are your thoughts?

Yes, marriage is a joke and marrying a woman in current year and beyond is a death wish. However, your average man needs the concept of marriage in order to even entertain a relationship with a woman. Consider the following:

1. Sub-Chads don't possess the genetics that keep a woman around naturally and so they need to make up for that with provision of material resources (aka betabuxxing). Yea, it's not as viable a method as in the past, but it can and will always be a woman's backup plan once she has been ran through by X amount of Chads (this especially applies now that ENM/open relationships are so commonplace; women can have their cake and eat it too.)
2. Even if you resort to something like geomaxxing, marriage is realistically the only way you will be able to maintain a relationship (if you haven't yet realised, geomaxxing is just betabuxxing with extra steps). Whether you emigrate to her country (unlikely) or she immigrates to yours, marriage is the only way either of you can maintain residency in a foreign country because legal immigration from third to first-world countries is very restrictive. Also bear in mind that women in third-world countries are more accustomed to marriage and so that's what they'll expect anyway. ​​

You can decry marriage until the cows come home, but if it weren't for the institution of marriage, I bet 99% of men worldwide would be inkwells.

Like the title says, what are some BPs that your own family or friends have dropped on you over the years that maybe you only realised down the line? Mine are pretty tame, from what I can recall:

• My mom named me after a song solely because she found the singer attractive (Chadstruck back in the 80s!)
• Growing up, my mom always preferred my hair longer whereas my dad always told me I needed a "man's haircut" (read: 1 all over) and I believed him and always rocked a stupidly short haircut in my adolescence and young adulthood. My mom always tried dissuading me from getting such haircuts and told me I looked like a cancer patient after getting them. I only grew my hair out recently (no signs of balding at age 31🙏) because my girlfriend wanted it and I get compliments from women on it.
• My dad (a total 🔵💊'd Gen Xer) once "jokingly" commented that I should have a child with my equal height (5'7") girlfriend cause we will have taller offspring. This coming from a 5'10" guy who decided to impregnate a 5'0" woman.

You are reborn with all your current knowledge and your life will be the exact same, except you are born 20 years earlier (i.e. someone born in 1995 would be now born in 1975.) You don't get to change history in any way (i.e. investing in Apple or Microsoft early in their careers), you just experience things in a differenr era. Do you take this opportunity? Why or why not?

Me, I would probably do it. I would have been born in 1975. Even at 5'7", I probably could have found a decent partner in my own country (USA). I totally would have settled down with a virgin woman even if I risked divorce, because that's the only scenario worth risking marriage IMO. Otherwise, as a white blond guy with green eyes, I could have cashed in early on the whole geomaxxing thing (though it would have been more difficult to pull off, logistically.)

I am curious to know your folks thoughts and feedback.

The date is tomorrow. Seemingly overnight, everything has changed.

90% of women are viewed as unattractive by the male populace. Obese, sub-5 balding men are now banging the top 10% Stacies left and right (and that's what they want for a gf/wife.) The average man has 100+ bodies by age 30 before he settles down with a virginal MTB. A "catch" of a man is considered to be Danny DeVito with three children from three different women. Even into their 40s, 50s and 60s, men are able to have harems of young, attractive, fertile women. Women are expected to have D cup breasts, an hourglass figure and tight pussies in order to be considered "real" women. Women go above and beyond for their men, but are resented by said men, who are thinking back to the days of bedding Stacy. The average woman has to accept the fact that she will be a cuckquean at some point in her life.

Men are given priority in the workforce and education. They are the majority recipients of child custody, child support, alimony and welfare. Average dudes get plucked off the street and put on magazine covers, are given news interviews and make speeches at seminars worldwide about how men are oppressed by the "matriarchy" and "misandry". Men are encouraged to and given the right to impregnate any and all women without any repercussions and women have no say in the matter.

Imagine women have online forums discussing how hard dating is. These places are always invaded by men invalidating the women's opinions, telling them they need to "suck it up, buttercup," "work on your personality," "get interesting hobbies," and "take a shower." Men are actively advocating for eugenics solely against women. Men openly "joke" that only white, blonde, blue-eyed women with 36-24-36 figures should inhabit this world. Women have to put up with their boyfriends and husbands opting for an egg donor when it comes to conceiving a child (in reality, the man just impregnates a Stacy of his choice.) The average woman has to geomaxx to faraway lands to find a decent man (her looksmatch who has ran through dozens of women.) Women are mocked and openly discouraged from doing this and they run the risk of falling victim to a green card scam.

Does tbis sound comical to you? It's reality, just with the genders reversed. Women wouldn't last a day in our shoes. Just some food for thought.

I am a white-collar worker, been in my current job for 7.5 years now. It very rarely happens, but I've had clients I've worked with tell me I make them uncomfortable for no apparent reason. They usually get assigned to one of my colleagues and that's that, but it's a brutal reminder that I am a sub-5. I know in the professional world, you're expected not to take such things personally, but it hurts cause I know deep down inside the real reason as to why this happens. I've had good experiences and positive feedback too, mind you, but it's always the negative experiences that ingrain themselves in my mind. I do my job and that's it. Literally everything I discuss with my clients is strictly work-related. I maintain a professional attitude and am always clean and dressed business casual. It makes me wish I were Chad or a woman, because then I wouldn't have to deal with such nonsense.

Any other men here been through this, either in the workplace or at school?

He seems to have come up out of nowhere and he just happens to get connected with high-profile individuals like Andrew Tate and Adin Ross.

He is not particularly good looking (akin to a stereotypical "Chade"). My understanding is that he hardmaxxed (plastic surgery) and resorts to extreme methods (taking drugs) to stay lean, but his face still isn't very well defined or remarkable. His height adds to his so-called aura, no doubt, but I think he gets outclassed by naturally good-looking men (see: the photos of him getting mogged by taller, better purportioned men).

He acts as "the face" for lookmaxxing/the BP (at least, to normies) and co-opts BP terms as he pleases, but he has no substance. Normies are constantly trying to "one up" or "gotcha" him while proving his point. It all feels like one big charade to distract people from something (as for what, I am unsure.) It's like he is in cahoots with someone to create this big nothingburger. The worst part about it is when apparent "BPers" glaze this guy, acting like "he is on our team". You're no better than oofy doofies rooting for a sports team. There is no "us vs them" in this realm, but every man for himself. Your average inkwell would throw another under the bus for a chance at having sex.

I am sure a lot of people are going say I am coping, but this is just my observation.