u/Capable-Bumblebee-88

So, i have been a little down recently because of not having a job (got married, moved to a different continent, unfortunately not enough experience so finding a job has beenhard)

it's not like i have to work, alhamdullilah we are well off and my husband is completely fine with me staying at home and he buys me whatever i want but it's just i want to spoil him too! i want to have a job and work. I love to work. It feels like i am wasting my degree by not working. i have even started applying to positions for like baristas etc because i just want a little money of my own.

Whenever i say that i want to work to anyone, they are like why do you want to work, just stay at home and enjoy, you want something to do, have a baby like ?!?!?!? why are those the only 2 options!?!?!

it's getting bad enough that i have been been having an extremely low mood recently, i used to wake up for fajr everytime but now i feel too tired to do so, i don't pray like i used to, no specific duas to make either.. i just feel very done.

pLEASE i need mint chocolate but i am tired of eating baskin robins ice cream and lindt...😢

It feels very weird writing this but i do need some advice.

My husband 30 and i 29 have been married for about 1.3 year. We met via an app and immediately hit it off, got married about 6months later.

Alhamdullilah our marriage has been really good so far. Minus this little problem. We don't really get intimate, we have done it like 7 times only. We have both talked about how i guess we should we having it atleast once every week (i think that's how much other couples do?) From what i have seen, there are 2 problems.

1- I am maybe asexual, sex doesn't really appeal to me. I do get aroused and have fun during the act but i can live my life without it. I am fine with just talking to my husband and going out with him.

2- His work is very stressful, almost 11hrs a day and when he comes back home, he is always tired. We tried being intimate during the weekends but he is usually so tired and we just end up watching netflix or going out. I have asked him if everything is okay physically between us and he has assured me multiple times that his work just takes out so much of him that he feels physically exhausted

I don't know if i am overthinking this all but i worry as i see online about how couples do it all the time and men sometimes cheat to satisfy themselves. Please do advise.

As someone who usually reads ebooks and only buys hard copies of the books i really love, I have yet to find gold at DBF.

Please share your hauls/ reviews/ any stalls to look out for.