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So I broke up with my boyfriend and it's been a long time. But I still have pictures and videos of us, him being silly and caring, us together, us at different places. I just can't bring myself to delete them because those are very good memories :(

Our breakup was unfortunate because my family did not agree due to his income.

I cant delete them because I smile to myself and feel so happy when I look at them but now I also want to move on in life but I keep going back to our pictures chats etc.

Also I look good in them too like happy and pretty yk how women glow when they're in love.. it would be like deleting myself too... What should I do girls? :(

He lovebombed me so much and called me all the time and we sat together at campus all the time and he made me feel so happy. He told me we can’t be in a relationship and then he was like let’s not sit together in campus but he still called me all the time and we talked for hours and everything was fine until all of a sudden yesterday he texted me saying he’s getting engaged. I couldn’t stand looking at him at campus today. It hurt my heart so much and my heart is breaking. I want him back knowing it’s not worth it but my heart hurts so much. I don’t know why I am talking about this here I guess I just needed to talk to a woman. (I know he’s not getting engaged he’s just a psychopath and I was his newest victim he has done this before too. He has a type: naive, trusting girls, he deliberately targets them).

Okay so lets say two people get engaged without hsving the conversation about kids. The woman doesn't want any (fear of pregnancy, health anxiety, mental health problems etcetc) but the man really wants them. Anytimr the topic comes around she says something about not feeling like kids he gets upset-ish (goes silent, facial expressions change) or tries to talk her into it by saying stuff like I'll be there the whole time or i know u can do it you're just underestimating yourself etc etc.

What would you do if you were in this situation? Put yourself in the woman's shoes and answer.

P.s: they both love eachother.

29F.
I’m looking for recommendations for private, confidential online therapy (call or text preferred). Prefer female therapists who understand Pakistani cultural/family context.
Discretion is extremely important — I need options that won’t involve any shared billing, family accounts, or anything that could be noticed at home.
If you’ve used any platforms or therapists that felt truly private and professional, please share and if possible kindly share personal experiences, Thank you.

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On my wedding day, I’ll be on my periods . and I need some information about adult diapers or period underwear. Which brands are the best, and has anyone tried them? I feel that sanitary pads may not be a good option for that day because they aren’t suitable to wear for long periods of time.

Hello,

could you guys please share any trick or tips to move out from very conservative, strict and toxic family? please share your experience of moving out due to toxicity.

for context: i am 26F, financial independent and sole breadwinner since 2021, but my father is extremely strict and conservative and he is the one who make all decisions, communicating with him is not a way as he is very rigid and angry person. Going through alot of things but the main issue is i work remotely(freelancing) and i am not allowed to go outside alone. so there is no way for me to move out due to job, study or any other excuse. I even tried for abroad scholarships, but my father didn't agree. He is now looking for my marriage proposal, but I do not want to step out of one hell only to enter another. I want to live my life for once before getting married.

how i can leave the house? like call police to help me? or call women safety organizations? because i can't step out without anyone's help, money is not an issue, but i also don't want to make a scene in my area, as we live in Muhalla surrounded by close relatives so i don't want to ruin my family's izzat as well. i am from faisalabad.

so please share the possible ways. Thank you

Does anyone else feel really isolated by having dark skin sometimes? It comes from comments from my closest family members and in subtle ways shows up in my interactions either others where it weakens my confidence. I feel like having darker skin and wavier hair means I have to do more work to look put together and building a healthy self image is really hard. I feel frustrated that there’s not enough representation of women with actually deep and dark skin as symbols of beauty in the media. Anyone who’s felt similarly in Pakistani society, how do yall cope and what helps you feel confident?

Is it normal to still use biodatas in America?

I recently made a post about some issues at home, and the response was to move out. I am surprised if we are living in the same country or I just don't know.

I know girls live in hostels when their family is in a different city than thier job or studies, otherwise no parent let's you live outside the house.

Are women actually living on their own, especially in Lahore, while still keeping a healthy contact with thier families?

Is anyone else looking to make new friends, meet some cool women & get out of the usual routine? I'm organising a meet-up to make new friends.

I'm in mid thirties. I have lived with depression for like a decade and Bipolar for a year. My parents are very controlling even though I am an adult now. I know they are caring but they need to let me make my choices.

I recently lost my job and want to relax for a minute before I start next chapter. I want to spend a month in some scenic area, preferably foreign or go to local tourist areas.

I tried to convince them with so many suggestions but they are not agreeing to anything. First I said I want to go abroad an Asian country, they said how can you be alone in a different country and that I'm Bipolar what if I get an episode so I said I will go to the country my sister lives in, to that they said save your money, then I said let's all go to northern areas together to that they said they have things to do in this city.

Then I made the mistake of saying that last time they did not let me go to the big city I had a manic attack, I know this was emotional blackmail. But I do not share my mental health with them so last time I wanted to go to the doctor in bigger city, they did not let me and my condition worsened, in their defense I did not tell them the actual reason just used job as an excuse.

Now, I am exhausted and want to breath in different air. But my mistake of doing emotional blackmailing did not work in my favor and they have become more sensitive and booked the ticket to visit my other sister in different city so that I will cheer up when I meet the nieces and nephew.

I really need a change of environment, preferably going abroad. How do I convince my parents? What I need is a solo trip to Asian country but going to sister's country is possibly more likely approval.

Sorry, I do not know how coherent my post is, my mind was all over the place when I wrote it.

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Greetings everyone !

Yesterday I was walking and minding my own business till I saw a guy in front of me approaching two girls in hope of getting the number of one of them, however things looked like they have taken an escalating turn therefore leading the guy to insult one of the girls ( go fuck yourself bitch… ) which resulted in the girl spitting right at his face. Thankfully bystanders came ro de-escalate the situation.

I understand that he crossed the line by degrading her trough insults, however don’t ya’ll think she also crossed the line by spitting at him ? and would cursing back or ignoring him would have been the better alternative ? because it could have gotten way more serious after the spit. If someone of you ever did spit at someone who was harassing you before I’m just curious to know what was the reaction of the person ? If ya’ll don’t mind sharing ofc ?