r/PakistaniiWomen

Hey girlies it’s me the creator of this sub. Recently I’ve been noticing a lot of creeps lurking around here. I was quite busy with my exams so I couldn’t moderate the sub properly or take care of things the way I should have. I sincerely apologize to anyone who felt uncomfortable disturbed or irritated because of these individuals. I promise this won’t happen again. Now that my exams are over I’ll be far more vigilant with moderation and keep this space safe and comfortable for everyone.

i just came back from a gynae visit, and throughout the meeting, i was trying not cry. came home, and had a whole breakdown. what is wrong with female gynaecologists in pakistan, and why is purity culture so engrained into our healthcare systems?

i have a sexual/bodily problem, or at least i think it is one. that’s what i wanted to get checked. for years, i don’t believe my body responds in a way a normal woman’s body does. i finally muster up the courage to go to a gynaecologist to get it checked, thinking i’ll be screened for vaginismus or prescribed an estrogen cream—i did a lot of research on women with similar issues to me.

but no, what i received was a lecture about how these are “married women problems,” and how i shouldn’t be concerned with these things right now because my husband will magically somehow fix them.

there is something wrong with me that gives me extreme anxiety about marriage and future intimate relationships, and you’re going to sit there and tell me how a woman doesn’t even feel arousal unless it’s for penetrative sex because that’s how “god designed female bodies”? how it only happens if you watch or read erotic material, implying it’s somehow not common among women to do this. how it only happens if you masturbate, as if women don’t. just continuous amounts of sexual shaming for even feeling desire.

mind you, i’m an adult woman nearly in her mid-20s, it’s 2026, and these doctors are still stuck in their archaic mindsets of the early 1900s, bringing up islamic values into a medical discussion.

funnily enough, somehow. all of this never matters when it’s a man struggling with ed. that’s a valid medical condition outside of marriage, but women are pure, nonsexual beings who don’t masturbate, have fantasies, or watch/read erotic material, and don’t experience real arousal without a husband.

tl;dr: i am so deeply disappointed. please never visit dr moazzia aziz at paf unit i/ii hospital islamabad. she’s truly the least understanding of women’s issues, and will islamically shame you for what’s natural.

How do y'all manage this in a country like Pakistan where this thing is a taboo?

I have been having menstrual issues from a very young age I went to doctors and one of them wrote PCOS on my report without ever doing my ultrasound or asking for blood tests. My symptoms are always the same. Acne, weight gain, extreme mood swings (especially anger episodes that I can't control) and eventually skipped cycles then cycles that don't stop unless I take medication which is usually birth control. During medication all of my symptoms go away.

Now, I am unmarried so my mother is heavily against this and I can't educate her either because she has old thinking she thinks some desi totka or bleeding for months will fix me and that birth control = only for married ladies because she doesn't understand it's a hormonal pill that also fixes menstrual issues literally she uses this to shame me when I gain weight and have these issues.

As of right now I have left birth control 10 months ago but my cycle length is still not normal. I am now starting to see same symptoms again and I am scared....

Pls tell me how are you all managing this in natural ways without medicine and stuff like that? I swear I am tired. I don't know which doctor to go to and how to get help in this hell of a country where people don't even take women's health seriously.

Nothing weird. I am a woman in early 30s and just feel lonely. All my friends have moved on with life and I want a woman of my age to be friends with.

I'm a woman of pakistani origin (born and raised abroad) and someting that has deeply bothered me is double standards between men and women. I never thought of marriage as a goal/dream because I have seen many unhappy marriages in my life. It is not to say if I do find somebody who genuinely aligns with me, I would be happy to consider marriage, but I have always been made to feel "lesser than" men and when people do suggest guys to me, it doesn't feel they are suggesting b/c of alignment but rather somebody who would marry me because of some incentive.

Alhamdullilah, by Allah(SWT)'s grace, I have a doctorate degree and masters. I work in a good company. I do not need a guy to have the same education as me, but when I get suggested guys, I am told the guy is "so amazing, ambitious, good looking and has a great career" and that I should be the one to run after him and show interest so that another girl will not take him. Upon looking at the guy's profile, there is nothing about the guy that suggests he's so extraordinary and above my level that I have to run after him - his job and education is either similar or even a little less than mine, his looks are okay and frequently I'm suggested guys abroad for whom the burden would be on me to sponsor and possibly financially provide till they find a job where I live. I've also been suggested divorced guys, and while again that's not a dealbraker, I'm told "that is even better as he will know what he wants next time".

Is it just me or do people not extend the same praise to girls? I am just as or even more educated than many men, but that's not celebrated the way a man is when he has a career. I have never been married but yet I am told to chase the "divorce guy" because "he's so much better". Would anybody say the same thing to a divorced woman? The double standards I am sorry to say drive me crazy - I am not saying this to necessarily criticize all men as individuals, but criticize the way people perceive men so differently and shower them for complements for doing the bare minimum whereas we can go above and beyond and people will still find faults within us. I feel this is why more women are getting frustrated and chosing to stay single in the modern age.

EDIT: If you are a man trying to slide into DMS, I will not respond.

How to do mange realxed t shirts with big bo*bs? What do you wear to inside avoid attention seeking 🙁

We have been ttc for a while and decided we should see a doc. Is there a good fertility specialist in lahore? Should we get tested first and then go to a doc or vice versa. Also is online consultation a good option.

I want to start an aesthetic business focusing specifically on a problem that’s super common but rarely talked about openly discolouration/hyperpigmentation of the underarms and intimate areas (down there). The treatment I’m planning corrects (cosmetically)the colour and typically takes two sessions to show full results.
I already have handson experience from a beauty gig, so I’m not starting completely from zero, but now I want to do this properly as my own thing in pakistan Or should i do collab with pre settled parlor…?
Secondly Is setting up in a DHA (or another posh area) worth the high rent, or would a clean, well-kept space in a decent “normal” commercial area attract the same clients and save huge costs? What’s the perception like?
I’m thinking around 30,000 PKR for the full treatment (both sessions), but is that too high, too low, or just right?
I don’t want to undervalue the work but also don’t want to price myself out of the market.
Should I strictly use imported products even if they hike up my cost, or are good-quality locally produced alternatives acceptable to clients?
Lastly about potential Do you think there’s serious demand for this in Pakistan right now? Am I sitting on an untapped market, or is it too early?
Sorry for long post but appreciate your participation

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I have pcos and my hair have shed out alot. Like I didn't control it before but now that I've opened my eyes, I have bald lines creating. Pls suggest any good hair regrowth serum. I'm thinking of using jenpharm anagrow serum.

Need Help!!!

I am looking for stylish type or floral maxis that are not too simple but under 3k budget anyone has any idea which online stores sell those? I checked major brands but I don't really feel interested in their articles it's too simple for my liking.

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Hi everyone.

This is still just an idea in my head right now, but I’ve been thinking about it for a long time and wanted to put it out there.

I’m based in , but this would ideally be for people across .

I keep thinking about how badly Pakistan lacks safe, survivor-centered support systems for people who experienced childhood sexual abuse (CSA), especially when the abuse happens within families.

Because the reality is: most survivors here don’t have anywhere to go.

There are barely any proper helplines.

Barely any safe shelters.

No real child protective system people can actually rely on.

And when the abuse runs in the family, things become even more complicated because the same people who are supposed to protect you are often the ones protecting the abuser, denying it happened, silencing you, or forcing you to continue living normally around people who harmed you.

A lot of survivors grow up completely alone with this.

People talk about healing as if everyone has access to therapy, money, safety, support systems, transportation, privacy, or independence. But many survivors in Pakistan are still trapped in the same environments because they’re financially dependent, emotionally controlled, isolated, or simply have nowhere safe to go.

And honestly, I don’t think survivors only need emotional support.

A lot of people need:

practical guidance

opportunities

safe connections

financial independence

remote work/online income resources

skill-building

community

people who actually understand

I keep wondering what could happen if the right people came together to build something better, even if it starts small.

Not just awareness posts.

Not fake performative activism.

But something genuinely useful, trauma-informed, survivor-centered, and grounded in the actual realities of Pakistan.

Some ideas I’ve thought about:

anonymous peer support spaces

moderated online survivor communities

trauma-informed discussions/resources

guidance for freelancing and online income

helping survivors build financial independence

connecting people to therapists/resources/opportunities

workshops about trauma, grooming, boundaries, body safety, consent, dissociation, etc.

culturally relevant mental health content

long-term child safety and prevention initiatives

I know spaces like this can become harmful if they’re not handled responsibly, so I’m not trying to play therapist or create some unmoderated trauma dumping space. I know this kind of thing would require structure, ethics, boundaries, moderation, and the right people involved.

Right now I’m mainly trying to see:

whether people even want something like this

whether similar initiatives already exist

what gaps people feel are most urgent

whether there are people willing to contribute ideas, resources, time, skills, or guidance

I’d especially love to connect with:

therapists/psychologists

social workers

lawyers familiar with abuse or child protection

educators

NGO/community organizers

people experienced in startups/nonprofits

people knowledgeable about freelancing/remote work

moderators/community builders

survivors who understand these realities firsthand

Even if this only starts as a small support network helping people access safety, stability, healing, or independence, I think that still matters.

Maybe nothing comes from this.

But maybe the right people find this post.

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