u/WishPsychological990

Hello,

could you guys please share any trick or tips to move out from very conservative, strict and toxic family? please share your experience of moving out due to toxicity.

for context: i am 26F, financial independent and sole breadwinner of family since 2021, but my father is extremely strict and conservative and he is the one who make all decisions, communicating with him is not a way as he is very rigid and angry person. Going through alot of things but the main issue is i work remotely(freelancing) and i am not allowed to go outside alone. so there is no way for me to move out due to job, study or any other excuse. I even tried for abroad scholarships, but my father didn't agree. He is now looking for my marriage proposal, but I do not want to step out of one hell only to enter another. I want to live my life for once before getting married.

how i can leave the house? like call police to help me? or call women safety organizations? because i can't step out without anyone's help, money is not an issue, but i also don't want to make a scene in my area, as we live in area surrounded by close relatives so i don't want to ruin my family's izzat as well. i am from pakistan.

so please share the possible ways. Thank you

Hello,

could you guys please share any trick or tips to move out from very conservative, strict and toxic family? please share your experience of moving out due to toxicity.

for context: i am 26F, financial independent and sole breadwinner since 2021, but my father is extremely strict and conservative and he is the one who make all decisions, communicating with him is not a way as he is very rigid and angry person. Going through alot of things but the main issue is i work remotely(freelancing) and i am not allowed to go outside alone. so there is no way for me to move out due to job, study or any other excuse. I even tried for abroad scholarships, but my father didn't agree. He is now looking for my marriage proposal, but I do not want to step out of one hell only to enter another. I want to live my life for once before getting married.

how i can leave the house? like call police to help me? or call women safety organizations? because i can't step out without anyone's help, money is not an issue, but i also don't want to make a scene in my area, as we live in Muhalla surrounded by close relatives so i don't want to ruin my family's izzat as well. i am from faisalabad.

so please share the possible ways. Thank you

Hello,

could you guys please share any trick or tips to move out from very conservative, strict and toxic family? please share your experience of moving out due to toxicity.

for context: i am 26F, financial independent and sole breadwinner since 2021, but my father is extremely strict and conservative and he is the one who make all decisions, communicating with him is not a way as he is very rigid and angry person. Going through alot of things but the main issue is i work remotely(freelancing) and i am not allowed to go outside alone. so there is no way for me to move out due to job, study or any other excuse. I even tried for abroad scholarships, but my father didn't agree. He is now looking for my marriage proposal, but I do not want to step out of one hell only to enter another. I want to live my life for once before getting married.

how i can leave the house? like call police to help me? or call women safety organizations? because i can't step out without anyone's help, money is not an issue, but i also don't want to make a scene in my area, as we live in Muhalla surrounded by close relatives so i don't want to ruin my family's izzat as well. i am from faisalabad.

so please share the possible ways. Thank you

26F, sole breadwinner of my family (of 5) for the last 4 years, doing freelancing.

belongs to very conservative and abusive family, like I am not allowed to go outside. since my bachelors ended, I have been stuck at home since 2021, and can only visit relatives with my family. Now I have become very antisocial and depressed. My family is quite toxic, father gets angry within seconds and uses abusive language. I am very fed up living there.

My father doesn't like a woman who says "no", he can't digest anyone's opinion that is opposite to his. we always did what he asked us. He used to physically abuse us, but now after so many years I realize he was very wrong. I feel very suffocated thinking about what he has done. I just lost respect and love for him, but now he is 70+ and ill, and I feel sad too that he is my father, provided me food, money, and education throughout my life. I shouldn't have hate in my heart for him, but i would have forgotten the past only if he had changed, but he still shouts in the same way.

I am the only one earning here my brothers don't work and father is retired. I used to give all my income (3,4 lac/month) to my father, but now I save a portion in my Payoneer and give the rest to him, and he doesn't know about it.

He is very abusive to my mother, she will come to me and cry for a few minutes, and after 2, 3 hours they both will be normal, leaving me in trauma. other family members are also like this, my mother keeps shouting at my elder brother because he doesn't earn, and he shouts at the younger one, so it's a loop and I am stuck in it. I don't like anger and try to stay calm. Now I don't care what they all do, but it still affects me. I have become very stressed and even lost interest in my work due to this environment.

I thought I would apply for a masters in china, and if I secure any scholarship then will try to convince my father to let me go, as living in China will help in my online business as well. But unfortunately, due to incomplete documents, I couldn't secure a full scholarship, and now I have to wait for next year admissions.

I also don't want to marry of his choice, as my parents are searching for me and they don't even ask about my likes or dislikes. Because of this situation and daily cases of harassment and SA, I started hating men and don't want to get married for the next couple of years. I have never been in any relationship and want to live a childfree life, but I can't tell this to my family and they won't agree with me.

I can't run away from home, can't tell any relatives because we are considered a very respectful family. living alone in Pakistan is scary. My last hope was to get a scholarship which i couldn't secure. I tried to get a job in foreign companies that can sponsor me, but it's also not realistic because I don't have any office job experience, only freelancing experience.

I know this is the common issue in Pakistani homes but i feel like i am living in a prison, so just wanted to vent out. Thanks for reading.