u/Capital-Implement152

we dated for over 2 years. We broke up for around 6 months. During this time she made out with one of her coworkers multiple times. Soon after we broke up she was also in love with one of her coworkers who is an older woman. She met up with me to tell me she may have feelings for them but that she might be confusing romantic and platonic. She also told me she started having feelings for them while we were together but near the end of our relationship and thought it’s not fair to me so she left. Now when I ask if she ever liked someone while we were together she says she never did. She met up again with me and told me that she only has feelings for me and nobody else and that she never actually liked this girl.

The stories never add up, so I figured she was lying because there’s always inconsistencies and it just doesn’t make sense. So I went through her journal. I’ve never thought of doing this before but that’s where I found she wrote about how she hoped i wasn’t over her so she could come back to me if nobody else wanted her. She also definitely sounded incredibly in love with this woman too much to be confused with platonic feelings, only 5 days before we met and got intimate.

I told her if she ever liked her I’d never want to get intimate, and she promised me. She wrote how her feelings for this older woman might not be as serious as she thinks because she “used to be obsessed with one of her old coworkers but now that she doesn’t work there anymore she barely gives them a thought.” We were together the entire time she had that job. I confronted her and she said it was just obsessed with them “as a friend.”

Do I leave her or do I talk about it or what?

we dated for over 2 years. We broke up for around 6 months. During this time she made out with one of her coworkers multiple times. Soon after we broke up she was also in love with one of her coworkers who is an older woman. She met up with me to tell me she may have feelings for them but that she might be confusing romantic and platonic. She also told me she started having feelings for them while we were together but near the end of our relationship and thought it’s not fair to me so she left.

Now when I ask if she ever liked someone while we were together she says she never did. She met up again with me and told me that she only has feelings for me and nobody else and that she never actually liked this girl. The stories never add up, so I figured she was lying because there’s always inconsistencies and it just doesn’t make sense. So I went through her journal. I’ve never thought of doing this before but that’s where I found she wrote about how she hoped i wasn’t over her so she could come back to me if nobody else wanted her.

She also definitely sounded incredibly in love with this woman too much to be confused with platonic feelings, only 5 days before we met and got intimate. I told her if she ever liked her I’d never want to get intimate, and she promised me. She wrote how her feelings for this older woman might not be as serious as she thinks because she “used to be obsessed with one of her old coworkers but now that she doesn’t work there anymore she barely gives them a thought.” We were together the entire time she had that job. I confronted her and she said it was just obsessed with them “as a friend.”

Do I leave or talk it out or AIO?

I (18F) and my gf (19F) kind of got into a fight last night. I compliment her excessively ALL the time, I clean her room and make her bed every time I stay over, I write her sweet notes, I text her first and multiple times throughout the day while she leaves me on delivered for hours and says she’s “busy”, etc. However, she rarely compliments me and when she does it’s when have to pry it out of her by asking “do you think I look pretty today?” And I’ll get a “yeah” most of the time. So I communicated that I would appreciate if she complimented me more because it makes me feel appreciated.

She proceeded to say she’ll compliment me when she wants and feels like it, that she doesn’t because she “hates repeating things” and then said when I compliment her all the time it’s annoying. She also told me that there’s just “more important things we could be talking about” even though complimenting someone is such a minimal effort? What she said just made me question if my needs will ever be met and if I should leave. She also mentioned that’s not her love language, but shouldn’t that mean how I love her should be in HER love language and how she loves me should be in MINE to make both of us feel appreciated and loved? Is this something to break up over?

P.S. before anyone says anything, I spent hours communicating about this and she refused to hear me out. All she would say is she knows how I feel and she’s sorry but she can’t and won’t do it anyways.

I (18F) and my gf (19F) kind of got into a fight last night. I compliment her excessively ALL the time, I clean her room and make her bed every time I stay over, I write her sweet notes, I text her first and multiple times throughout the day while she leaves me on delivered for hours and says she’s “busy”, etc. However, she rarely compliments me and when she does it’s when have to pry it out of her by asking “do you think I look pretty today?” And I’ll get a “yeah” most of the time. So I communicated that I would appreciate if she complimented me more because it makes me feel appreciated.

She proceeded to say she’ll compliment me when she wants and feels like it, that she doesn’t because she “hates repeating things” and then said when I compliment her all the time it’s annoying. She also told me that there’s just “more important things we could be talking about” even though complimenting someone is such a minimal effort? What she said just made me question if my needs will ever be met and if I should leave. She also mentioned that’s not her love language, but shouldn’t that mean how I love her should be in HER love language and how she loves me should be in MINE to make both of us feel appreciated and loved? Is this something to break up over?

P.S. before anyone says anything, I spent hours communicating about this and she refused to hear me out. All she would say is she knows how I feel and she’s sorry but she can’t and won’t do it anyways.