u/Capital_Respect_4994

I just have always wondered if I was being a big baby about all of this. My friend is a man who I have never met in person but we are friends who have known each other for years by the time this happened and we have always been very fond of each other.

I told him I would be coming to London, which is an hour and a half away from where he lives. I was going on a trip with family and told him that I wouldn't mind seeing him if he was open to it. He was, and we discussed what the plans might be. I told him he should meet me in London so we can spend the day exploring the city together and he was in agreement to the plan.

Fast forward to the trip, I'm in London, not feeling too great, but he didn't mind and still wanted to meet up. The evening before we were supposed to meet he says "I have a surprise for you" I open the attachment and its a bus ticket from London to the city where he lives. I'm annoyed because it was a two way ticket, but I wouldn't be back in London until around midnight at a bus station that was 30 minutes, IF DRIVING, away from my hotel. This is a country I am not familiar with and I have always had anxiety being a woman traveling alone.

I wont lie I was immediately turned off from meeting him, and he was nice when I told him I actually really do not feel well (which I didn't, I caught a nasty bug while I was over there) and he ate the price of the bus ticket. I regret not calling him out on the switch up, but I felt like if I did say something he would call me a baby or say something like "this isn't America, you'll be fine" so I just let it go. But ever since the non-meeting he will tease me about how we never met up because I was "sick".

Maybe if he was on the bus with me, I would be a little better, but he had implied that if he HAD come to visit me in London, where could we possibly go if things got a little more serious between us. And then that made me kind of feel cheap. It makes me feel like he didn't care about my safety as long as he could have possibly "got some" from me.

I listen to Welcome to Nightvale while I drive home from work pretending its like an actual town I live in. Seeing how Widow's Bay is a whole cursed island, it gives me the same vibe. A silly way to offset how disturbing it is. I love it so much.

I have very bottom heavy boobs. They are size G but they don't start until unmder my arm pits and are saggy, always have been.

I have always struggled with bras because they are too tight, but the cup doesn't sit flush against my chest so there is a gap, if i go smaller cup size they spill out the sides.

I feel like I have tried every single "wonder bra", and run into the same issues. Too tight around the back and get back boobs but the cup sits too far away from my chest, or its a nice fit around but the cup doesn't work due to spillage from the boobies.

I only find comfort and support in sports bras, but I don't want to only wear sports bras.

Help!

Hello,

I (30F) have been seeing this guy (30M) for a month, and I move slow so we hadn't really done anything besides kiss because I like to be sure how I feel about a person. Anyway, I am over at his place that he shares with his long time friend for a date. She isn't there as they have an arrangement that if either of them have a dare over, the other would vacate and leave the other some privacy.

When I get to his place we eat, watch a movie, talk, and then it starts to get a little flirty.

To skip ahead, we end up back in his room. Its our first time together this way and we hear his roommate come in. She doesn't make too much noise or anything like that, but he stops and goes "Im going to get some water and just go say hi"

It kind of interrupted the rhythm but I didn't want to say anything. TMI: I was naked from the waist up at this point. I thought he was going to come right back, but after awhile I didn't hear anything, and then it became awkward, and then 15 minutes go by and I hear laughing coming from the living room. I had started to put my top back on when he comes back in saying "they gave me some fries!" happy as all hell with water just for himself and no apology for leaving me in his room alone for so long.

I decided I was kind of over it and said it was getting late and I had to go which he understood. I am annoyed because I feel like I should have said something, but also I feel like I would be overreacting.

For some more context, I had asked him if him and his roommate had ever had feelings for each other in their 20 year friendship on our first date. He told me no and that she was family at this point, but again, it feels weird but again, am I overreacting?

Update:

If you don’t want to read all I’m about to say; i decided not to see him again. I sent a text message saying we just aren’t on the same page and it would be best not to see each other again. I sent a text because I figure it’s only been a month. He hasn’t responded yet, but even if he apologizes or calls me a bitch my thoughts and feelings will stay the same.

As for all your responses. Thank you. I was feeling the same but i had asked my friend who said he probably wasn’t paying attention to time and i have to not be so sensitive. Also i only brought up the female roommate because it felt weird to omit it! I would have felt the same way if it was a dude or his dog.