u/Careless-Play3205

I’m honestly confused/a little hurt. I have a good standing with my current GM and store manager, even was encouraged to apply for the manager position. I updated my resume and talent card. Two weeks later, i checked my workday an hour ago and got a rejection notification. My application is still showing active, but probably hasn’t updated. :/ I just wanna know why. They didn’t say anything to me when I was at work yesterday. It felt like a normal day with them.

Three months ago my ex broke up with me because he couldn’t handle me being mentally unstable from reacting to his emotional abuse. 7 months together. A year of performance from him until we started dating. I moved two months ago to my dream state. He’s been blocked on instagram two weeks before I moved and people I know who’s close with him are blocked. I didn’t tell my only two friends and my parents who are aware of everything that happened or anyone in general to reach out to him and they’ve avoided him or don’t have instagram. Both of us never contacted each other. I did unblock a few times before the move to see his posts (not his stories) then stopped because it was making my mental health worse.

I made my instagram public again to make new connections. I’m happy with where I live, the people I’ve made friends with, being active everyday, making goals for myself and self care. I’ve been through enough in my life before him I’m better at handling hard changes than harmful coping/distractions. I don’t post anything about him, not even hinting at anything being about him publicly. I only have a little under a hundred followers.

I see random private accounts with no followers look at my stories, girl who I assumed he cheated on me with has viewed my stories, all blocked. His other family members I forgot to block showing up in my suggested. Couple of days ago, a girl who lives in my state wanted to be friends and hang out. Just looking to meet new people! Her account has a few hundreds of followers, posts in multiple locations in the state, and tagged. She just so happens to live in the same town! What a coincidence! Found me following my town’s county official instagram page, that has a large following, and messaged me. She moved to the state 10 years ago. Oh so where are you from? Oh well she’s actually from the same small town in the state my ex grew up in and his family live in. Girl. At least she’s honest. Blocked and privated my account for good.

Why. We’re over. He and his flying monkeys can have fun making up assumptions about me. When does it get old. It’s annoying, not boosting my ego. I don’t miss him or want anything to do with him.

I moved to my dream state two months ago, alone and didn’t know anyone. I’m pretty independent myself and active outside. Met a girl at work and we’re both in our 20s. We didn’t start hanging out until a mid July. Hung out a couple of times before I went to her house to meet her family. Her parents welcomed me as their own “second daughter” within the second visit. My friend started calling me “sister”. I was uncomfortable but brushed it off. I told them I appreciate them for caring and being supportive. I hung out with them a few times a week. I spent one day by myself at my place and I didn’t respond to my friends text for 15mins because I was cleaning and I checked my phone. She and her parents were calling and texting me that they were worried for me and were own their way to my place to “check on me”. Her parents said I should change my last name to theirs. Told me places where I shouldn’t go or they’d pick me up. Her and her parents made future plans with me, said I could live with them, even offered to give me a key to their home. Gave me gifts. I didn’t know how to respond either when my friend was telling me trauma in her life other than saying I support her. She would try to guilt trip me too when it came to our bosses letting me do more stuff than her because I have more experience in the company. She didn’t want to talk to our bosses about her frustrations either.

It’s been too much for me after knowing them less than a month. I had to tell my friend two days ago I couldn’t hang out and explained I needed a day to myself. That things were going fast paced. She said her mom was coming over to give me food and I had to tell her again I needed space. She said she understands. She texted me again yesterday wanting to hang out and I said no then said if we were going to hang out today and I told her again I needed space. Her mom texted me wondering what was going on and I just shortly explained to her that everything was going fast paced. She said she understood and told me to text her daughter that we were still friends. I haven’t responded to the text.

I don’t know what to do because we work together and her parents come to buy stuff often at our work. I don’t really want to be friends with her if she doesn’t respect my boundaries and I also feel guilty for her feeling hurt. I’m gonna do my best to keep the conversations work related and keep putting up boundaries.

It’s been three months since my ex and I broke up. I put up and got fooled by someone who was good at putting on a performance. For a year of knowing him before we started dating, I felt loved and could be myself. It was my first serious relationship. Small red flags I didn’t realize would be bigger ones later. The biggest red flag in the beginning was his persistence on getting into a relationship. I moved out of the state we met because I was miserable and moved somewhere I could afford with (now ex) friends and enjoyed better. He talked me into moving in with him and promised we’d move somewhere we’d both enjoyed and we started dating.

The performance ended. I met someone I didn’t know. Screaming at me in public and calling me names after he cheated on me or when I was having a panic attack. And acting like nothing happened. Talking bad or making fun of me in front of his friends and family. Making “jokes” about my appearance or interests. He would promise to change and didn’t act on it or take it as personal attacks. Those were the main things. I was miserable and lonely. We both knew I couldn’t leave due to my finances and a bad relationship with my mother. I felt like I couldn’t live without him because I wanted him to change and be the person I once knew. He would be so loving and caring (like in the beginning) then be avoidant and cruel. I thought it was my meds that were effecting me. I had low self worth. Almost everyone liked him. I didn’t have any friends or activities I enjoyed. I tried to find some happiness where I lived. I stayed mostly inside his place or went out with him or go to my job. He’d constantly change his mind about moving and that I should enjoy living there.

I thought about ending my life multiple times. He would talk me out of it or say I was being selfish and that I didn’t love him. I was the side character or afterthought. I was putting away my dreams for him. He wanted to marry me and have kids (and I never really wanted to become a parent but I did for him). Not husband or father material anyways.

It finally ended after 7 months and I’m thankful. I moved in with a co worker and got a loan to move to a state I’ve dreamed of living in. I feel confident and making connections and go out everyday. But when I think of him I get angry. We’ve been no contact but I have to hold myself back from checking his social media. I’ve come up with so many assumptions of how he’s feeling and what he’s saying behind my back. I know he’s victimizing himself.

I know time and talking to someone heals, but I feel a need to expose him. Warning his future supply from becoming his next victim. Getting revenge but holding back knowing I’m going to face consequences. I’ve worked so hard on dealing with my mental health and trauma. Cut out bad people from my past. Then I got fooled and fell back into old patterns.