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Just want to vent or share my story here on Threads.
Maybe someone here can share their routine or give some advice if you’re in a similar situation. Being a parent in your 30s can be challenging, especially without a support system.

I’m 34F, my husband is 36, and we have one daughter who is 2 years and 6 months old. We’re both in the IT industry. He’s a Software Engineer, while I’m a UI/UX Designer.

I lost my job this year, in May 2026, because of retrenchment. I had been with that company for 7 years. But even before that, I had actually tried to resign but was convinced to stay. My daughter was diagnosed with GDD at 2 years old. She needs to undergo therapy and attend playschool, and I knew it would be difficult to manage everything, especially since I was working onsite at the time. Her schedule is 2 days of OT, 1 day of ST, and 3 days of playgroup every morning from Tuesday to Saturday.

My husband has 2 jobs that he manages at the same time, which is also why he encouraged me to resign and just look for side projects. And I did. Even before I lost my full-time job, one of my previous clients started giving me a few projects in May. But freelance work isn’t consistent, and there’s really no assurance when it comes to income.

My husband’s salary is enough to cover our bills. We have a house loan, car loan, and a nanny. But when we think about building an emergency fund, savings, long-term investments, or a retirement fund, it’s still not enough.

We have a good nanny now. She’s actually our second nanny because our previous one exposed our daughter to too much screen time. We also don’t have a support system like grandparents, siblings, or cousins who can spend time or play with our daughter, which could also help with her development. It’s really just us at home most of the time. We also live inside a subdivision where there aren’t many kids her age.

Since May, my routine has revolved around taking my daughter to and from her therapy and playgroup sessions because there’s really no one else who can take her. So from Tuesday to Saturday, I drive her to her sessions. My husband is also constantly stressed because he’s juggling two jobs. Sometimes his calls even overlap, and he just finds a way to make it work.

Now here’s the challenge. I decided to try applying for jobs again. I noticed how difficult it is to find work nowadays, especially in the IT field because of AI. Whenever you see a job posting on LinkedIn, you can see just how many people have already applied. So I started sending out resumes, mainly because I wanted to practice doing job interviews again.
Then, with only the second company that
interviewed me, I got the job. After one round of interviews and a hands-on exam, they skipped the final interview and gave me an offer! I just signed the contract today. I feel blessed because God made my job search much easier than I expected.

But right now, I’m starting to feel a bit anxious. How am I going to manage my child’s therapy and playschool? My mom brain is thinking about so many things. Should I hire a driver and an additional house helper? Or should I first try to see if I can manage both, like bringing my laptop and working while I wait for her during therapy or playschool? I think I need to see what my actual work setup will be like first. By the way, the job is fully remote. I just don’t know yet if there will be a lot of video calls throughout the day.

I also don’t think it would be a good idea for my husband to immediately resign from one of his jobs because we still don’t know if my new job will work out. We initially planned to start a business using the separation pay I received, but reality hit us. I know starting a business isn’t that easy. There are so many things to consider, and you really need to be hands-on. So here we are, still employees because this is how we know how to earn a living and this is what we know how to do.

I know I should be thankful because finding a job quickly isn’t easy nowadays. Life is also really expensive, and the cost of almost everything keeps going up. But at the same time, I don’t want to neglect or stop my daughter’s therapy and playschool because, since we don’t have other people around at home, the exposure she gets from these activities has really helped her improve.
If you were in a similar situation, what would you do?
Thank you for reading.

Just want to vent or share my story here on Threads.
Maybe someone here can share their routine or give some advice if you’re in a similar situation. Being a parent in your 30s can be challenging, especially without a support system.

I’m 34F, my husband is 36, and we have one daughter who is 2 years and 6 months old. We’re both in the IT industry. He’s a Software Engineer, while I’m a UI/UX Designer.

I lost my job this year, in May 2026, because of retrenchment. I had been with that company for 7 years. But even before that, I had actually tried to resign but was convinced to stay. My daughter was diagnosed with GDD at 2 years old. She needs to undergo therapy and attend playschool, and I knew it would be difficult to manage everything, especially since I was working onsite at the time. Her schedule is 2 days of OT, 1 day of ST, and 3 days of playgroup every morning from Tuesday to Saturday.

My husband has 2 jobs that he manages at the same time, which is also why he encouraged me to resign and just look for side projects. And I did. Even before I lost my full-time job, one of my previous clients started giving me a few projects in May. But freelance work isn’t consistent, and there’s really no assurance when it comes to income.

My husband’s salary is enough to cover our bills. We have a house loan, car loan, and a nanny. But when we think about building an emergency fund, savings, long-term investments, or a retirement fund, it’s still not enough.

We have a good nanny now. She’s actually our second nanny because our previous one exposed our daughter to too much screen time. We also don’t have a support system like grandparents, siblings, or cousins who can spend time or play with our daughter, which could also help with her development. It’s really just us at home most of the time. We also live inside a subdivision where there aren’t many kids her age.

Since May, my routine has revolved around taking my daughter to and from her therapy and playgroup sessions because there’s really no one else who can take her. So from Tuesday to Saturday, I drive her to her sessions. My husband is also constantly stressed because he’s juggling two jobs. Sometimes his calls even overlap, and he just finds a way to make it work.

Now here’s the challenge. I decided to try applying for jobs again. I noticed how difficult it is to find work nowadays, especially in the IT field because of AI. Whenever you see a job posting on LinkedIn, you can see just how many people have already applied. So I started sending out resumes, mainly because I wanted to practice doing job interviews again.
Then, with only the second company that
interviewed me, I got the job. After one round of interviews and a hands-on exam, they skipped the final interview and gave me an offer! I just signed the contract today. I feel blessed because God made my job search much easier than I expected.

But right now, I’m starting to feel a bit anxious. How am I going to manage my child’s therapy and playschool? My mom brain is thinking about so many things. Should I hire a driver and an additional house helper? Or should I first try to see if I can manage both, like bringing my laptop and working while I wait for her during therapy or playschool? I think I need to see what my actual work setup will be like first. By the way, the job is fully remote. I just don’t know yet if there will be a lot of video calls throughout the day.

I also don’t think it would be a good idea for my husband to immediately resign from one of his jobs because we still don’t know if my new job will work out. We initially planned to start a business using the separation pay I received, but reality hit us. I know starting a business isn’t that easy. There are so many things to consider, and you really need to be hands-on. So here we are, still employees because this is how we know how to earn a living and this is what we know how to do.

I know I should be thankful because finding a job quickly isn’t easy nowadays. Life is also really expensive, and the cost of almost everything keeps going up. But at the same time, I don’t want to neglect or stop my daughter’s therapy and playschool because, since we don’t have other people around at home, the exposure she gets from these activities has really helped her improve.
If you were in a similar situation, what would you do?
Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone. I just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced something similar with their child.
My daughter is 2 years and 6 months old. She was diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay (GDD) when she was 2 years old, and we’re still waiting for her next developmental assessment. I’m still hoping it won’t turn out to be autism, but if it does, we’ll accept it and continue supporting her the best we can.

One thing I’ve been noticing lately is that she’s constantly singing throughout the day. She also gets fixated on certain words. Right now, it’s “Kuya JJ.” Whenever she sees almost any man, she’ll point and say, “Kuya JJ,” even if it’s someone she doesn’t know. Before this, she would also go through phases where she’d repeat other words over and over.
I’m wondering if anyone else’s child—whether typically developing, diagnosed with GDD, or autistic—went through a stage like this. Did they eventually outgrow it?

She’s currently attending:
OT twice a week (since February)
Speech Therapy once a week
Playgroup three times a week (since May)

She has made progress in a lot of areas. She has good eye contact, responds to her name, follows instructions, enjoys being around other children, and can socialize. She’s verbal and knows many body parts, colors, animals, numbers, and other vocabulary. At the same time, she can communicate her needs. Before therapy, her communication was much more limited. Now she knows how to ask for books, water, and milk, and she points to things she wants. I also feel like she’s slowly improving, which gives me hope.

One of her current challenges is that she gets distracted easily. However, according to both her OT and playgroup teachers, she’s still able to complete her activities with some guidance, so that has been reassuring.

My biggest concern is that she’s still not conversational. She doesn’t consistently answer simple questions like “yes” or “no,” and instead of having back-and-forth conversations, she often sings or repeats words.

Has anyone had a child with a similar profile? Whether your child was eventually diagnosed with autism, remained GDD, or simply caught up later, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences. Thank you.

Hi everyone. I just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced something similar with their child.
My daughter is 2 years and 6 months old. She was diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay (GDD) when she was 2 years old, and we’re still waiting for her next developmental assessment. I’m still hoping it won’t turn out to be autism, but if it does, we’ll accept it and continue supporting her the best we can.

One thing I’ve been noticing lately is that she’s constantly singing throughout the day. She also gets fixated on certain words. Right now, it’s “Kuya JJ.” Whenever she sees almost any man, she’ll point and say, “Kuya JJ,” even if it’s someone she doesn’t know. Before this, she would also go through phases where she’d repeat other words over and over.
I’m wondering if anyone else’s child—whether typically developing, diagnosed with GDD, or autistic—went through a stage like this. Did they eventually outgrow it?

She’s currently attending:
OT twice a week (since February)
Speech Therapy once a week
Playgroup three times a week (since May)

She has made progress in a lot of areas. She has good eye contact, responds to her name, follows instructions, enjoys being around other children, and can socialize. She’s verbal and knows many body parts, colors, animals, numbers, and other vocabulary. At the same time, she can communicate her needs. Before therapy, her communication was much more limited. Now she knows how to ask for books, water, and milk, and she points to things she wants. I also feel like she’s slowly improving, which gives me hope.

My biggest concern is that she’s still not conversational. She doesn’t consistently answer simple questions like “yes” or “no,” and instead of having back-and-forth conversations, she often sings or repeats words.

Has anyone had a child with a similar profile? Whether your child was eventually diagnosed with autism, remained GDD, or simply caught up later, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences. Thank you.

Warning ‼️** Long story ahead. I just need a place to let this out. I’ve been carrying this for yea**rs.
I’m a 33F. My husband and I have been together for 18 years, married for 5 years, and we have a 2-year-old daughter.

My father-in-law is now 74 years old, but you wouldn’t guess it. He’s still very healthy and active for his age. He was a seaman and only retired after my husband graduated from college, so they never really grew up together. My husband is an only child, and his mother passed away when he was only 9 years old. His aunt was the one who mostly raised him.

My father-in-law and I have had a lot of issues over the years, and they’ve eventually turned into trauma for me. Instead of writing every single detail, I’ll just list the most painful moments. There are simply too many.

To be honest, I endured everything because I love his son. I honestly can’t remember ever doing anything bad to my father-in-law. I was never disrespectful, never talked back, and never argued with him. The real issue is that he and my husband were never close, and he became jealous. Almost all of my husband’s relatives have told me that they believe he’s jealous.

2015
This was the year I found out how jealous he really was of me, although my husband had hidden it from me for a long time.

From the time we started dating in 2008, I honestly thought my father-in-law liked me because he would always invite me over to their house. Everything changed after he retired and he and my husband started living together under the same roof.

One day I came over to visit, and out of nowhere he started yelling at me and told me to leave.

I still remember his exact words:
“How dare you come here? You’re not welcome here.”
“I never even liked you on Facebook.”
His reason?

I had invited my husband to my company’s outing, and he came home late because of it.
After that day, my father-in-law and I didn’t see each other for years.

He had no idea how many nights I cried myself to sleep because of what happened. I never told anyone—not even my own parents—because I didn’t want them to worry or get hurt. They all thought everything was perfectly fine.

That was also when I realized that my husband and his father didn’t have a typical father-son relationship. They were so awkward around each other, almost overly formal. They rarely communicated, and instead of talking about problems, his father would just suddenly explode in anger. My husband is always calm and never disrespectful and never talk back to his father.

Even though we no longer saw each other, he would still get angry whenever he saw us on dates or whenever I posted photos on Facebook. He even left rude comments on some of my posts. Whenever he and my husband argued, I somehow became part of the problem too.

I stayed silent through all of it. I never fought back.

2020
After several years, we finally saw each other again.
It was very casual, almost as if nothing had ever happened. My husband invited me to his father’s birthday, and I agreed because I thought maybe enough time had passed.

The problem was… we never talked about what happened before. We simply pretended it never happened.

That same year, we bought our first house.

That’s when another issue started.

At first, I appreciated how involved he was because I thought we had finally moved on. But eventually, he started reminding us of every favor he had done for us.

For example, one time we simply asked him to tell the contractor to fix the tile pattern because it wasn’t installed properly in one of the bedrooms. We even said it would be fine if they just corrected the living room.

Out of nowhere, he started cursing at my husband and called us overly picky.

The frustrating part was that he was the one who chose the contractor in the first place. I honestly couldn’t understand why he was so angry. He wasn’t the one paying for the house, and he wasn’t the one doing the work.

That incident made us realize we shouldn’t involve him in decisions about our home anymore.

He wanted to have a say in everything. Sometimes he would even come to our house while we weren’t there, without telling us.

As time went on, it felt like his jealousy got even worse.

He wasn’t only jealous of me anymore—he even became jealous of my parents.

He kept saying he noticed that my husband treated my parents better than he treated him.

The reason?
We celebrated New Year’s with my family because everyone was there, and my parents have always been kind and welcoming to my husband.

2021
We got married.
My husband and his father had another argument before the wedding. I honestly don’t even remember what it was about anymore, but it reached the point where my father-in-law said he wasn’t going to attend our wedding.

In the end, he still came.

2022
We went on our first vacation as a married couple.
As soon as he found out, he suddenly started saying he wasn’t feeling well and complained that my husband never checked on him.
This became a pattern.

Almost every time we went out or traveled somewhere, he would suddenly create some kind of issue.

Later that same year, we finally had our official honeymoon in Boracay.

The following month was the first death anniversary of my husband’s aunt—the one who had raised him.
My father-in-law wanted to hire a catering service, and expected us to pay for it.

From our perspective, we thought a simple prayer, candle lighting, and small gathering would have been enough. We didn’t think an expensive catering service was necessary.

They argued about the expenses because it wasn’t just the catering—we also had to pay for travel since we needed to take a ferry to get there.

What hurt me the most was that he later used our five-day honeymoon against us.

Before my husband’s aunt passed away, she and my father-in-law weren’t even on good terms. We felt like he was trying to make up for it after she died.
But how could anyone make up for lost time when the person was already gone?

2023
I got pregnant.
This year was relatively peaceful.
There were no major conflicts.
But even while I was pregnant, I never felt any support from him. He never even checked on how I was doing.

I invited him to our gender reveal party, but he didn’t want to come.

My husband had to convince him.

2024
I gave birth.
He was incredibly happy to finally have a granddaughter.

At first, I was genuinely happy to see him so excited.
He stayed at our house for almost a month after the baby was born.

He wasn’t the one taking care of the baby though. My husband and I handled everything ourselves. He mainly helped by cooking, and I was genuinely grateful for that.

But I couldn’t explain what I was feeling.
As the days passed, I noticed this growing irritation inside me.

I don’t know if it was because of all the trauma I had buried over the years, or if postpartum emotions made everything worse.

Maybe it was because none of our past issues had ever been discussed or resolved.

Everything had always been swept under the rug because everyone avoided confrontation.

So while he was staying with us, I realized that just hearing his voice irritated me.

Even seeing how happy he was with his granddaughter irritated me.

And even now, I still don’t fully understand where those feelings came from.

(To be continued in comment section)