When you are the only single person at a family function
Long time lurker here. Not exactly about AP but more like aunts and grandparents, and I am sure a lot of yall here have been in a similar situation as me. As a woman in my late 20s, I somehow managed to be the only person who is single among all my cousins and younger aunts/uncles. Everyone else is either happily engaged or married. I don’t go to family gatherings often but whenever we do have lunch or dinner together I feel the unease; yes, you know the deal about “wHeRe Is mY gRandSon-iN-law?!””why are you still coming alone??”
This year is the worst so far as the cousins younger than me all have their SO. When I greeted my relatives they didn’t even bother to ask about how I’ve been, they just flat out asked why didn’t I bring a boyfriend, told them that I needed to “Hurry up” because “nobody wants a woman in 30s”. They used to say how they are proud of me for my academic performance, now they said I spent too much time in study work and I “must have isolated myself and lived my life as two-point-one-line”. One of my grandparent flat out told me this is my last warning “You have to find a man within this year” otherwise he’s going to me sign up for those local chinese match making services (which costs a LOT imo and completely not something I would use).
I just feel so defeated and annoyed. Nobody cares about me but wants to not “lose face” because their niece or granddaughter is not getting married. They don’t know what I like to do, what I am doing. I don’t even bother to explain to them that I have my own plan and I have a very different idea about how a SO would be like if I ever want one. The more I try to explain the more they are going to pressure me. A few of my family members actually tried to defend me but we all got bashed out lol.
Sorry for the long rant. I don’t know how should I even feel about them.