My rapist is Trans and idk who to talk to
Hi everyone. Just as a heads up my current partner is trans and I’m a huge advocate and supporter of the trans community. This post is my venting about the fact that I recently learned that my rapist (who raped me for a year) is now trans. I don’t want my anger with this person to be mistaken with anger for the trans community since that isn’t true whatsoever.
Okay so about 7 years ago I was in a relationship with (at the time a man, Owen). Owen had abused, manipulated, and honestly just ruined my life. My parents were in a DV relationship so I didn’t really grasp the understanding in how awful Owen had treated me and what he was doing. I was in 6th grade at the time so I was also young and dumb. He would pressure me to have sex with him, manipulate me into it after I said no, and would force me to for almost a year straight. I finally had the courage to leave with support of some of my friends. Others didn’t believe me because I hadn’t told my parents. They didn’t think that someone who was being raped would keep it a secret from their family and assumed I was making it all up. I wasn’t. I cut Owen and his friends out of my life after that.
He then would show up at my school (which he didn’t go to) and harass me there, go to my schools homecoming/prom and corner me with his friends to laugh at me when I got a panic attack from being in the same room as him. He would caption on instagram “had fun messing with…(me)”. He thought it was so funny because I still hadn’t told most people yet.
I ended up talking to my mom about it around 4/5 years ago. It was horrifying but she comforted me and helped me heal from it.
Flash forward to about a month ago. I was looking on instagram and for whatever reason I had a gut feeling that Owen was going to be back in our hometown since college was ending soon. So I unblocked him and looked at his instagram.
Owen is now trans mtf and goes by Vivian. (The name we were going to name our daughter that I know she remembers). She does a lot of sneaky shit to mess with me. When I tried to tell people about the abuse Vivian would say (since she was a boy at the time) that she couldn’t have raped me since she’s suddenly gay now so why would a gay guy force a woman to sleep with him? I am a huge supporter of the trans community but I feel like this is another thing to mess with me. Not the whole identity thing but the name and if I try to be more vocal about what they put me through I’m scared they’re going to say I’m being transphobic. I would never want to make the trans community look bad but I also want people to know about what this rapist has done. I don’t know what to do. Thank you for listening to my rant