u/Catalina_08

I have taken a Spanish one class, I have Duolingo and speak, and I could have short conversations, but I suck at conjugating, annunciation., and with words/ concepts sticking without continual reinforcement. More than what should be. I have ADHD if that helps. And after almost a year of me trying to speak, I still can’t drop that “white girl accent.”

I seriously need to learn Spanish fast. But I feel like everything is different depending on what kind of Spanish you’re speaking and it’s so difficult to remember small things.

my boyfriend wrote home talking about how he experienced some IT, and to search up what it was. I had no clue before about what it was, and I did a little bit of research. I was going to write back to him that I had read about it and that it seems kind of wild, but it seems that everybody eventually gets some form of IT.

I googled it, and Google AI said to not explicitly say the word IT, because drill instructors scan letters for use of IT to see if recruits are complaining.

This whole thing is a little interesting, because there’s a lot of things I’m not allowed to say which I would like to. It seems like every interaction from me and my boyfriend for the next few months is heavily monitored and I can’t even tell him how much I love him without being worried that it’s gonna flag a DI.

I’m trying to keep pet names, “I love you”’s and anything “lovey dovey” to a low which i guess is just bumming me out. Everything that I’ve read has said that DI is really heavily scrutinized and inspect every recruits mail. I guess I’m just wondering if this is true and if I’m allowed to talk about IT without him possibly getting in trouble.

I (17F) live with my mom ~50 F, my 13 year old younger brother and my sister.

my whole life I have been larger for my size - and recently I’ve slimmed down quite a bit. My mom seemed to take this personally as whenever I was larger and was insecure about my body, she would tell me I just need to “love myself as I am.“ she would always complain that she’s tired of hearing about me hating my body because I just need to learn to live with what I was born with. so I finally decided enough was enough and decided to loose some weight. I’ve slimmed down and I was talking about how proud I was the other day to my mom and she said “okay. I get it. can we talk about something else?” I just got quiet and stoped talking which she then complained “why are you taking it so personally I just wanted deeper conversation?”so I brushed it off.

for some context, I also recently just got my first boyfriend about a year ago. she would not allow me to date, and so I waited to date my current boyfriend. until she started saying “ well you don’t listen to me anyways you guys are always together. that is your boyfriend.“ is when we started dating. she’s also divorced twice and single.

with this new weight loss Ive been able to wear my younger brothers shirts because he’s going through that teenage boy phase where everything must be oversized, so a lot of his shirts have the perfect fit on my - not too baggy but just perfectly fit. I also buy all of my own clothes. she’s tried to convince me that theres no way some of the clothes I currently own and wear fit on me, and when I put them on Well she was shown clearly that they did. so I’ve been getting rid of a lot of my old baggier clothes, which my mom has forced me into- and said I can just buy new ones when I want. I don’t mind I need the closet space anyways. so when my mom was going through my brother‘s clothes and getting rid of his old things she asked if one of my shirts was his. I said no but if you’re getting rid of it I want it. she said “oh okay. no.“ I said “what? why?” she replied “because it’s too small.” I said ”well can I just try it?” she responded “no. it’s too small.” so I replied “if it’s too small what’s the harm in me just trying it?” she said “no. because I said so. you’re not trying it.“ I asked if she was serious and she said yes. we went round and round in circles until I said “this has gotta be about something else.“ to which she started screaming at me about something which I blocked out.

idk if this makes me sound like a brat - it’s just that my mom has been upset recently about her weight and lack of a husband I feel like she is really just jealous of me. so AITA about being ”pressed” over a shirt?

edit: yes my mom complains a lot about being “overweight” which she isn’t in my opinion. But we all have our preferences on how we want ourselves to look.