u/Catmama-82

We’ve been telling her for four years that she needs an agenda to keep track of assignments, deadlines tests, etc. To no avail. It’s literally a screaming match every couple weeks because she falls behind on everything then winds up with terrible grades on her report card.

What is so hard about writing things down, then crossing it off when it’s completed? As a Type A personality, I can’t function without a constant to-do list, calendar and whiteboard, helping me during the week.

What can I do to get her to listen? She is on Strattera and will be increasing the dose soon. But ultimately, this is her issue. She will be an adult in three years, and I cannot constantly babysit her, reach out to her teachers, beg for more time, etc. What’s gonna happen when she gets to college and can’t function?

I just don’t know what to do anymore. We’ve tried therapy, it did nothing. I’m considering an ADHD coach, but I don’t know anything about it and I’m just exhausted from life.

I need to increase my 15 year-old daughter from 24 mg to 40 but she’s very sensitive to medication. I’m wondering if 36 mg would do her any good? Has anyone ever tried this? Are doctors open to it?

Is it all it’s cracked up to be?

I’m so sick of taking care of these people…

Does anyone else experience this? From adding ingredients, to stirring, then getting more ingredients, making sure the food doesn’t burn constantly running around the kitchen. I experience such horrible dizziness, which is why I barely cook for my husband and kids. I hate this.

I’ve tried doing it little by little but to no avail. It seems like when I have to move around a lot in a small area I get dizzy. Same thing happens when I get out of the shower and I am getting dressed, putting lotion on, hanging my towel, then combing my hair, etc., etc..

I’m a 43-year-old woman with an 80-year-old father. I’ve had lots of ups and downs with him mainly because he hasn’t always been the best father. He hit me a lot, drank a lot, said a lot of horrible things to me.

Had years of therapy and healed through it. Or at least I thought I did. He wound up leaving the country for almost 20 years to work elsewhere. He’s been back for a couple years and it’s been OK between us. I pop in every week or two for a couple minutes to say hello to him and my mother. Me and my mom have always had a great relationship.

Lately things have been going downhill. He’s pretty rude to my teenage daughter. She spends the night every weekend with them because her best friend lives next-door. At one point, my father clearly said to my daughter that nobody likes her. He often gives her dirty looks if she’s goofing off too much. He openly tells her how immature she is, that the girls “back home” are so responsible and well mannered blah blah. He’s just an overall unpleasant person to be around.

To top it off every time, every time my daughter informs me that he was rude to her I have horrible flashbacks of things that he did or said to me. And it brings all the trauma and anger back. He doesn’t know about this, of course.

He’s still under the impression that I should be coming by every week or two to say hello but I’ve stopped doing that for the past two months or so. I’m just pretty much done. I feel stupid… it’s like… I thought he changed but clearly not. He’s still the same asshole. Also I come from a culture where you respect your elders no matter what, which is why he expects me to come around.

I’m just putting this out there… Wondering what you guys think? Should I just suck it up and see him for five minutes every once in a while or just continue to ignore him. If I ignore him then he’s going to call and pester me about why I don’t come over. Cutting him out of my life would be impossible because my mother lives with him.

TLDR: abusive father is now verbally abusive with my teenage daughter. Bringing back traumatic memories. Should I continue to visit him or limit as much as possible? When I limit my contact with him, he calls and pesters me about coming over. I also come from a culture where you must respect elders. My relationship with my mother is good.

My kids are 15 and 11 both very skinny and petite and will be starting Strattera. My 15 year-old will be on 25 mg and my 11-year-old will start on 18 mg for two weeks and then work his way up.

I’m pretty terrified for my daughter because she has so far done horribly on all ADHD medication’s. She’s gotten horrible insomnia, nausea, throwing up, awful grogginess, sleeping 15 hours.

Questions: when is the best time to take it— a.m. or p.m.? On a full stomach or empty stomach? I just feel like her doctor doesn’t know much about medication’s!

Any other tips would be great.

I posted about my lack of friends on here before. Recently, I reconnected with two of my friends from 20+ years ago. One initiated it and I initiated the other.

Both were super excited to reconnect with Me and both asked to meet up. When I provided my availability… Crickets. I have not heard from them since.

This is just really disheartening. Like how are we ever supposed to get together with people or make friends when people just stop communicating? The minute they get cold feet or preoccupied they just ignore you.

At this rate, I will never make a friend.

One of my old friends reached out to me to reconnect. She said she wanted to hang out and so I provided my availability. Never heard from her again. The other friend I reached out to and she was so excited to hear from me after two decades. She initiated us getting together and once again I provided my availability and she disappeared.

What in the world is going on? I’ve literally been trying to make friends for well over a decade now. Nothing works. Everyone says to take a class, do something where you’ll see the same people regularly but unfortunately, I don’t have time for that right now.

I’m not looking for a best friend… I just wanna have a meal with another human being once in a while. I don’t know why it’s so hard. Like everybody is so so busy that they can’t take out one hour of their time every three months just to have dinner and catch up?

Truly mind-boggling.

I’ve had androgenic alopecia since 13, I’m 43 now. Been on spiro for well over a decade. Just started oral minoxidil after being on topical for many years

I also Started perimenopause and chunks of hair are falling out every single day for the past six months. Started HRT, the estrogen patch and progesterone. It’s helped with the oiliness of my hair but it’s still falling out in chunks. What other options do I have? This perimenopause is killing my hair!

When I was 17 year old I got caught skipping school by my Dad . We already had a horrible relationship and it was clear he didn't like me, vice versa. He reacted by screaming and hitting of course, but for the first time he took it a step further. He said I'd never be anything in life, that I'd be a failure and that I'd never be as good as my friend "Tiffany." That really stung and hurt me deeply, even though I knew it wasn't true.

I eventually went to college, got a bachelors, but never really had a passion. Didn't know until my late 30's what "I wanted to be." Anyway, overall I'm happy in life. I graduated college, which was difficult for me, been married 20 years now, and have 2 kids, a home, etc. Work for me is just a way to get money...I am NOT a career person at all. I have no desire to get a promotion, or to work over 40 hrs a week.

My friend went on to be a doctor who has now opened up her own practice. We lost touch 2 decades ago. Plus, how could I ever be around her after what was said... even though it wasn't her fault.

I got curious and searched her up and she has tons of great reviews.

I donno--perhaps my father was right...? I'm not sure why weeks after checking her practice I still feel sad, empty, hurt. What's annoying is he's in his 80s now and always want me to come by. He lives 15 mins away.

I just don't know how a parent could hurt their child this badly. It just sucks.

And don't say Factor. I love CookUnity but my cholesterol has skyrocketed.

Anybody know when I’ll see any change? I started taking 2.5 mg of oral about three weeks ago.

What am I missing here? I know way too many people that have father issues. Either their dad was abusive, or a drunk, or he mistreated their mom… So many other scenarios.

No, hate please… I’m not implying that fatherless are unimportant. I know how incredibly important they are for a healthy society, which is why this topic saddens me.

I have had AGA for 30 years now. I’m wondering if anybody knows what the strange buzzing sensation is that I get on my scalp occasionally. Probably happens every couple months.

It’s been six months now that I’m having chunks of hair fall out every day, in addition to random strands falling out all day and night.. and a super oily scalp despite being on spironolactone for almost a decade. I got my blood work done and I’m almost certain they’re not gonna find anything as always.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I started HRT because I’ve been having some other perimenopause symptoms as well. My gynecologist said the HRT probably won’t help my hair.

Where do I go from here? After 30 years of this bullshit I probably have a third of my hair remaining. My mom and aunt are in their 70s and almost totally bald so I guess I’m fucked either way.

Thanks for reading if you got this far.

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Also, the doctor said it will not help my hair loss, which was pretty disheartening. I’m losing chunks every day for the past six months. Have bald patches all over the place.

Sigh

I’m new to this whole perimenopause thing. I got my period today and I had such a horrible deep fatigue, like I ran a marathon.

Does anyone know if this is related to my period or just general perimenopause?

So I’m 43 and have been dealing with androgenic alopecia for the past 30 years.

I’ve been taking 200 mg of spironolactone for the past few years in addition to minoxidil. I grow some hair, but I also lose a bunch.

In the past couple months, I’ve been shedding like crazy! Not to mention I have a super oily scalp and I’m growing a lot of hairs on my chin. In addition to sore breasts and feeling fatigued on some days. I’m gonna see my obgyn to maybe get some hormones. Not sure what is needed exactly.

My question is: Do doctors ever give HRT based off of symptoms and not bloodwork? It’s gonna be pretty much impossible for me to get off the spironolactone, then do bloodwork, then start spironolactone and any other HRT.