(25F) I sometimes wonder if this is true. I have trouble believing that I am someone He cares about. I have even more trouble believing that I am loved. I don’t feel loved or chosen by anyone. I am getting so tired.
I find comfort in thoughts I never think I would have.
I don’t get how this is apart of a good plan.
I'm not doubting Him… maybe I am. But I am mostly doubting myself.
I, 25F, feel like I exist to watch others be chosen and loved. I feel like I’m just a burden to others.
I've never been in a relationship. I don’t have close friendships. I have a complicated family history.
I'm so slow to achieve things. I feel like, if God ever wanted me to be with someone, I would have nothing of real worth to add to the relationship.
Many people have left me, since childhood, and I'm sure I'm at fault.
I don’t know if God has anything better reserved for me but, I'm getting really tired. My brain numbed out over the years to protect itself from hurting. I've found myself finding comfort in thoughts I've never thought I would have.
I don’t think that I can feel God's love even if I try because my heart is so broken.
I don’t know if He has a purpose for me but am I wrong for wanting more? Am I being selfish and ungrateful? Am I too rotten?
Hi :)
I am a woman in her mid 20s and, I can’t genuinely remember the last time I felt joy or happiness. (Yes I've been to professionals about it).
I know we live in a fallen world but, I know joy is possible.
I know that I am blessed because I get to wake up every day, I have water and food and clothes… I know I should feel grateful for it instead of taking it for granted… I'm not even ambitious (not in the worldly sense) . People around me don’t really understand me and I don’t really understand myself to be honest. I don’t want to be like everyone else but it would make life so much easier sometimes.
I still have things I want, don’t get me wrong. I want to have a stable job (even if it doesn’t pay a lot) that I know I can do well and that I feel good about. I want to make a friend one day, that I can trust and that I can be myself around… a friend that stays and that actually likes me and cares about me. I want to fall in love, even if just once in my life… I sometimes feel scared that my heart is too broken for it or that God is protecting others from me. I want to be a mom and build my own family and raise and love my children in a safe environment, and not repeat the mistakes others made with me. I want to feel loved… not yelled at or criticised constantly… I want love to feel safe and calm, not anxious and manipulative. I want to experience what it feels like to have my guard down and trust. I want to feel special to someone else, worthy of being loved.
Sometimes I think this is all just too much. Maybe I'm asking for more than I can get. Maybe I never had these things for a reason or maybe they don’t happen because they are not in His will for me. His will for me is perfect because He doesn’t make mistakes… I just hoped that it would be less lonely.
I just wonder if my heart will get a break. If I will ever feel okay. I know no one can predict this but I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for me. Thank you.
I'm sorry if there’s anyone reading this and going through hard things themselves. I know that I might come across as ungrateful because there are others with way worse to deal with. My heart is with you.
I have a question about the situations we are born into and how that is apart of God's will.
Jeremiah 1:5 says: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you (…)” which allows to understand that God knew who we were before we even knew ourselves. God knew who our parents would be, in which conditions we would live in, the relationships and dynamics of those who would raise us, etc.
We have free will, so any man and any woman can get together and have a baby. But, we also know that God's will exists. God has all the power in the world and in some instances in the Bible, He has intervened in human free will.
We know He formed us, so when a baby is born with some form of birth defect, was it Him or in His will? Or when a baby is born in a very dysfunctional family that causes the person to experience certain situations that leave “scars”, was it His will or was that free will (other's actions affecting the baby)?
Many people get to be born in families that, although have problems (all families do), are able to love them well (not perfectly, just well), which makes such a big difference in their future. Broken families are a very specific kind of pain (and come with a specific kind of grief) that follows someone even after they moved out or even distanced themselves. Some people get to be loved all their lives (family, friends, partners, etc.), some have it harder.
With this I am not defending people who become bitter and take their frustrations out on others… but I am saying that life is harder when you feel unloved. Feeling unloved and being unloved are different things. We can’t expect humans to love us unconditionally or perfectly because we would be setting ourselves up for disappointment…
But even Jesus had loving earthly parents that were able to provide Him with stability even amidst difficulties.
My question is (I am genuinely asking this, I intend no malice with this question): does God really love us all the same? I don’t doubt God loves us all but, does He love us all equally?
I am sorry if nothing I wrote makes sense. My heart feels heavy and I needed someone to talk to about this matter.
Does anyone have any stories about how praying daily completely changed their inner and outer life?
I'm in need of some encouraging stories :)
I have a rosary on my bedside table. I've had this rosary since I was really young. It was given to me by a catechist. I can probably count with one hand the amount of times I prayed it in my life.
I will be honest and say I never really understood this practice. I was always confused by it. But, I've seen many people say it changed their lives…
I was wondering if anyone here has any stories about how it impacted their personal life. I'm really curious and I want to hear more about real experiences :)
I've seen many interpretations of verses in the Bible (from both Christians and Non-Christians). One that I can point out is Psalm 37:4 : “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you your heart's desires”. Many think this means that if we get close enough to God in relationship, He will give us what we want most… I interpret it as an alignment with His will. In our lives, when we start spending a lot of time with a person, we start sharing mannerisms and expressions (without even realising it most of the time) and, with God, I think it’s similar: the more we spend time praying and following His teachings, the closer our will gets of His will for us.
Another one is: Luke 17:21 “The kingdom of God is within you”. I've seen many people online (I don't know if they were Christians or not) interpret this as if God was inside of us all. I personally think it means that God is within anyone’s reach if we want to build a relationship with Him.
What verses stick out to you when it comes to misquotes/misinterpretations?
Who's your favourite in the Bible (besides Jesus/God)? And why?
I've heard this statement before.
Many people say they prayed for years and nothing happened.
In the Bible, it says that we should pray to God, “Ask and it will be given to you”. Many say that when we pray for strength, God doesn’t automatically make us stronger but, He will place opportunities in our life so we develop that strength.
Did prayer change you, and is that what changed your circumstances? How and how often do you pray?
A few days ago, I've shared my singleness season here. I was genuinely touched by how much kindness I received from many of you, thank you ☺️
I've been pondering on my situation and, I've decided that, through doubts and fears, I'm going to give it to God. I'm genuinely mentally exhausted and, I don’t think overthinking the fact my life isn’t what I hoped it would be by now is helping me at all. I know we have free will to take the needed action to meet our future partner but, I don’t think I can do it right now. I still carry insecurity and many unhealed wounds that, although don’t disqualify anyone from deserving love, would be deeply unfair on my future husband.
I still long to be loved one day. Cherished. Chosen. I know God can do it all for us as well. I don’t doubt it. I know that nuns live joyfully and full of purpose, without a husband and children. I don’t believe religious life is my calling, I simply respect it.
I can’t tell you that I don’t dream of motherhood everyday of my life because, I would be lying. I won’t tell you that l don’t feel lonely a lot, I would be lying again.
I don't practice faith the way most of you do. Although I was baptised as a baby, did my first communion and confirmation, only as an adult am I beginning to feel a need to know God. I don’t have a supportive community around, but I am okay with learning about God slowly.
How could I learn to live this season better? Without turning it into sorrow and bitterness?
How can singleness be something that I surrender to God? How can I trust that He will bring a man along if it’s His will to do so?