u/Cautious_Egg_6395

Gonna start by saying I do not wear exposing clothing. Never have. Most of the time, I wear a binder, but I can only safely wear it 8-10 hours a day for five days in a row max, and bras make me dysphoric as a transmasc genderfluid person. So, definitely sfw (this is for you mods), and I am completely covered.

My mom often says things like 'Your dad is uncomfortable with you not wearing a bra.' and 'It makes him feel like a pedophile'. Mind you, I'm in my 20s. So definitely NOT a child, and I can absolutely consent to a sexual relationship, but not with my damn father. She also says, 'It's natural for boys to stare,' which demonizes young men and boys who can respect women if raised correctly.

I bring up how my MALE best friend never looks at me like that, and my parents say, 'That's because you're friends. Strangers will stare," As if it's MY fault for not wearing a bra in my own home that I get catcalled.

So, I've started PURPOSELY not wearing a bra. Only in the house, I still wear my binder when I go outside, and I just don't wear it on the Weekends when I have nothing to do and nowhere to go. It's been driving my parents nuts. They've only gotten more firm, and I just tell them, 'I'm in my house; who's gonna look?' They never have an answer because the only ones that can look are THEM.

(Repost to this subreddit, because I didn't know r/AITAH banned relationship posts in general lol, thought they just banned posts asking for advice in a relationship.)

Ok, so I'm not asking for relationship advice, I just want to know if I'm being an asshole for my reaction. My best friend got into a long-distance relationship with a girl from out of state, and this past weekend she visited him for the first time. She's really good-looking, fairly nice from what I can tell, and a pretty traditionally attractive woman.

Now, when she was visiting, my friend wanted to introduce us since I'd been his best friend for 10+ years, and we're like siblings. Now, I'll admit we did have sex ONE time, and neither of us really talks about it because neither of us enjoyed it. We were young, horny, and of opposite sex, so it happened. But we haven't had sex with each other in a few years now, and view each other more like siblings than potential partners.

My friend went to the restroom and left me alone with his girlfriend for a few minutes, and his girlfriend turned really serious and firm for a moment, saying- If you DARE have sex with my boyfriend again, I will make sure he never sees you again!' I froze because wtf right? Idk how she learned about our sex life in the past, and it was honestly a pretty uncomfortable topic for both my friend and me. I reply, "Ok? Cool. I don't really see him like that, so you're ok?"

She replied, "All exes say they no longer see them like that." She said this in a very condescending tone. Well, a few minutes later, my friend returns. It turns out he'd heard most of the conversation because of how loud she was being. My friend said. "Babe, I don't like you talking to my friend like that." (He's always been the type to play peacekeeper, and it's one of his best traits in my opinion). She scoffed and said- "I knew it." Now, I'm pretty protective of my friends, and hearing her talk down to him for standing by the friend he's known for 10 years over the girl he met a year ago really pissed me off. I replied-

"If you got a problem with me. Take it out on ME, leave (insert friend's name here) out of it."

His girlfriend went on a rant, and he broke up with her then and there. Now, he's really sad about losing his girlfriend, and I feel like the asshole for ruining his relationship. Because he really loved her, and this was just a first meeting, and I feel like maybe this was just a bad first impression situation.

Ok, so I'm not asking for relationship advice, I just want to know if I'm being an asshole for my reaction. My best friend got into a long-distance relationship with a girl from out of state, and this past weekend she visited him for the first time. She's really good-looking, fairly nice from what I can tell, and a pretty traditionally attractive woman.

Now, when she was visiting, my friend wanted to introduce us since I'd been his best friend for 10+ years, and we're like siblings. Now, I'll admit we did have sex ONE time, and neither of us really talks about it because neither of us enjoyed it. We were young, horny, and of opposite sex, so it happened. But we haven't had sex with each other in a few years now, and view each other more like siblings than potential partners.

My friend went to the restroom and left me alone with his girlfriend for a few minutes, and his girlfriend turned really serious and firm for a moment, saying- If you DARE have sex with my boyfriend again, I will make sure he never sees you again!' I froze because wtf right? Idk how she learned about our sex life in the past, and it was honestly a pretty uncomfortable topic for both my friend and me. I reply, "Ok? Cool. I don't really see him like that, so you're ok?"

She replied, "All exes say they no longer see them like that." She said this in a very condescending tone. Well, a few minutes later, my friend returns. It turns out he'd heard most of the conversation because of how loud she was being. My friend said. "Babe, I don't like you talking to my friend like that." (He's always been the type to play peacekeeper, and it's one of his best traits in my opinion). She scoffed and said- "I knew it." Now, I'm pretty protective of my friends, and hearing her talk down to him for standing by the friend he's known for 10 years over the girl he met a year ago really pissed me off. I replied-

"If you got a problem with me. Take it out on ME, leave (insert friend's name here) out of it."

His girlfriend went on a rant, and he broke up with her then and there. Now, he's really sad about losing his girlfriend, and I feel like the asshole for ruining his relationship. Because he really loved her, and this was just a first meeting, and I feel like maybe this was just a bad first impression situation.