u/Charlotterae89

Ok, so I recently started talking to my past childhood crush.... once upon a time we were 13, had a 1 time "fling", and now fast forward im 37, and just friended him on Facebook and exchanged numbers. He lives like 4 hours away, so we only talk via text messages over the past few weeks or so. Anyways, all along I thought I was being cut e and flirty and playful with him, but today he suddenly for the first time gets really mean about it. Im so confused and hurt by it. I start off with a good morning playful text and he just seems pissed, and now im crying.

Me: good morning peaches lol

(And gif or meme of a character holding a big peach that also says "come to my island i got peaches... oh yes I do sweetie")

Him: yeah im still waiting for the real one

Me: (2 modest selfies of me in the mirror at work that show my back side... I thought they looked nice and wanted to share them with him... being that he has asked a few other time and I didn't feel confident just yet, but now I feel like things are warming up and progressing so i went a head and took those pic prior to even sending him the good morning text... i had already though it out and figured this would be palyful and cute)

Me: dont get too excited lol

Me: yeah, im not great at taking pictures

Him: oh alright my bad

Him: enjoy your Sunday

Me: u dont like it

Him: it's not that i just dont remember you being this sarcastic or telling me not to get excited.

Him: I asked for that picture more than twice

Him: and when you finally send it you tell me not to get excited LMAO

Him: oh right

Him: anyways you look angry in those pics...

Me: thought I was just trying to be playful

Him: dont worry I wont ask again.

Me: sad... not angry

Him: I thought so

Me: I didn't mean it like that

Him: maybe you have some more healing

Me: im just shy

Me: and broken

Me: yes true

Me: I'm sorry

Him: no worries take care

Me: (I went on and on about how it was a misunderstanding, and how I enjoy talking to him, and how I had took alot of time trying get just the right Pic to send to him and im not use to doing that sort of thing, and how I was sorry to upset him, and how now I feel like ive messed things up, and I feel hurt)

Him: look dude im trying to make you feel wanted but I dont fuck with that "dont get excited" and back and forth games your really barking up the wrong fkn tree.

Him: I hate a female who isn't submissive.

Him: I can accept being treated like shit and just used as a sex toy but dont come take out your anger here LMAO

Me: I wasn't mad

Him: whatever I dont need that shit

Me: (I went on still trying to apologize about hurting his feelings and asking him to please not be mad at me that it was all taking the wrong way, and that I dont know how to be submissive, and how I though I was being flirty, and how I still really want to get to know him)

Him: you can't hurt me lol

Him: im not talking anything personal

Him: I'll just tribute this to your past problems (emoji with its hands up)

Me: so do you still even wanna talk to me now... I feel like ive messed it all up

Me: all along I thought you were helping me to heal from my past trauma... you know, like by just simply giving me your time by talking to me.

Me: it has been helping me to slowly regain myself... but this hurts my feelings to be talked to like this, it's like really insensitive.

Me: it's insensitive because you know im in a healing phase.

Me: I dont know, maybe your just in a bad mood today or something. Are you?

He never wrote back after that..... what is anyone else's viewpoints on all this? Am I being to sensitive, too sarcastic, is it too annoying, point out what i might have did or said wrong.... do i just need to find a different way to heal and rediscover what dating is supposed to be like.......is it Him, like im starting to think he's probably a narcissist just like the other guy from my past who destroyed who I once was....

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