u/Cheap-Ad1005

11 months ago, my avoidant ex gf dumped me. I found out later that she had actually self sabotaged and manipulated our entire relationship to initiate the breakup because she was lining someone else up. She ended up monkey branching to a guy in her class.I went completely no contact with her during that time as well.

Instead of rebounding, I channeled the breakup pain into pure fuel. I spent the last 11 months focusing completely on myself: I got my athletic physique back, started making more money, and launched my own tech startup.

Despite moving on immediately with the guy from her class, she obsessively watched every single one of my Instagram stories during this entire 11 month period. I assumed she was happy with her choice, so her keeping constant tabs on my glow up really threw me off.

I recently finally started dating again. I posted a story of my new girlfriend, who is way prettier and hotter than my ex. Literally the moment I posted that story of my new relationship, my ex completely stopped watching. She hasn't looked at a single story since.

My Question for the Community: I am sure that I shouldn't be concerned about her anymore, and I am very happy with my life right now, but I am genuinely curious about the psychology here: Why would an avoidant ex who monkey branched obsessively watch my stories for 11 months, only to abruptly vanish the exact moment she saw I moved on with a massive upgrade, and is this purely a shattered ego and loss of control, or is there something specific to avoidant attachment driving this behavior?

11 months ago, my avoidant ex gf dumped me. I found out later that she had actually self sabotaged and manipulated our entire relationship to initiate the breakup because she was lining someone else up. She ended up monkey branching to a guy in her class.I went completely no contact with her during that time as well.

Instead of rebounding, I channeled the breakup pain into pure fuel. I spent the last 11 months focusing completely on myself: I got my athletic physique back, started making more money, and launched my own tech startup.

Despite moving on immediately with the guy from her class, she obsessively watched every single one of my Instagram stories during this entire 11 month period. I assumed she was happy with her choice, so her keeping constant tabs on my glow up really threw me off.

I recently finally started dating again. I posted a story of my new girlfriend, who is way prettier and hotter than my ex. Literally the moment I posted that story of my new relationship, my ex completely stopped watching. She hasn't looked at a single story since.

My Question for the Community: I am sure that I shouldn't be concerned about her anymore, and I am very happy with my life right now, but I am genuinely curious about the psychology here: Why would an avoidant ex who monkey branched obsessively watch my stories for 11 months, only to abruptly vanish the exact moment she saw I moved on with a massive upgrade, and is this purely a shattered ego and loss of control, or is there something specific to avoidant attachment driving this behavior?

11 months ago, my avoidant ex gf dumped me. I found out later that she had actually self sabotaged and manipulated our entire relationship to initiate the breakup because she was lining someone else up. She ended up monkey branching to a guy in her class.I went completely no contact with her during that time as well.

Instead of rebounding, I channeled the breakup pain into pure fuel. I spent the last 11 months focusing completely on myself: I got my athletic physique back (complete with a six pack), started making more money, and launched my own tech startup.

Despite moving on immediately with the guy from her class, she obsessively watched every single one of my Instagram stories during this entire 11 month period. I assumed she was happy with her choice, so her keeping constant tabs on my glow up really threw me off.

I recently finally started dating again. I posted a story of my new girlfriend, who is way prettier and hotter than my ex. Literally the moment I posted that story of my new relationship, my ex completely stopped watching. She hasn't looked at a single story since.

My Question for the Community: I am sure that I shouldn't be concerned about her anymore, and I am very happy with my life right now, but I am genuinely curious about the psychology here: Why would an avoidant ex who monkey branched obsessively watch my stories for 11 months, only to abruptly vanish the exact moment she saw I moved on with a massive upgrade, and is this purely a shattered ego and loss of control, or is there something specific to avoidant attachment driving this behavior?

Edit: I noticed some commenters are upset by the word upgrade. To clarify, my new girlfriend is genuinely an upgrade in all aspects, including physical, personality, and education. People do not know the full extent of what my ex did, and I chose not to include every detail in the main post. For context, we were together for over two years, and I was an incredibly supportive boyfriend. She did not have a job, so I helped with her tuition fees, took her to fancy restaurants, and never once let her pay for anything, all while providing constant emotional support. Because of all this investment and betrayal, it definitely was not an easy breakup for me to go through. And no i was not stalking her i already removed her from instagram and she was still viewing my stories from her personal profile while we don't follow each other