Ex having poor boundaries about sons medical info with family
Anyone else’s ex have poor boundaries with their family of origin (parents, siblings, etc), particularly around your child’s medical information?
We are in the middle of a divorce with a 2.5 year old. My stbxh has no boundaries with his parents related to our son’s medical info and insists on telling his mother everything about our son from a medical standpoint and getting her input. His lack of boundaries with his mother and inability to separate from his family of origin is a main reason why we are divorced.
It is also tricky bc I recently tested positive for a certain genetic marker, so if our son also gets tested and he tells his family that will in turn reveal my medical information which is completely inappropriate.
My opinion is that our son’s medical info is no one’s business but his, ours, and his providers.
When I brought this up in TP he just responded “I can talk to my mother about our son” no conversation, no nothing.
Has anyone else navigated this? Is this just something I have to let go of and accept that if there were no boundaries in the marriage, there certainly won’t be any in the divorce, even for sensitive medical info?