If Vic has a boy, do we think she is going to spiral, or be weird and creepy and say that her and Aubs child are going to date and they will be future MILs together? My vote is both but def a spiral first.
A mom grief came up for me today that I hadn’t anticipated. My son (2.5) has a friend at school where the mom and I had just started getting friendly and trying to organize play dates outside of school. My son calls this little boy his “best friend” at school. The mom let me know today that they are moving to a different preschool next month that has different hours that better fit their schedule. She did say she still wants to organize a play date but we all know how that can go with our busy schedules. I don’t know why I’m so in my feels about this! Anyone have any tips to explain to their 2.5 year old that their friend won’t be at their school anymore?
I’m also in the middle of a divorce so maybe I’m just sad that it’s another change for my son
I asked my attorney about requesting my opposing party to pay part of my attorneys fees. We are in the middle of a divorce which includes a minor child. There was a TRO for 6 months which is now expired if that matters.
I am the higher earner and have a better financial picture on paper. I make about $20k more a year and have about $200k more saved for retirement than my ex. We both make low 6 figures with him at about $100k and me $120k. We also live in a VHCOL area in SoCal.
My family is not helping me with legal fees. Ex’s parents are helping him with his attorney fees. They are in their 70s and have at least $2 million saved for retirement, with a paid off primary home and vacation home. In his financial disclosures he stated the money from his parents is a loan, which I know is not true because before we separated his mom/my ex MIL said multiple times she would “pay for his divorce” to “get him away from me.”
I asked my attorney about my ex reimbursing me for some legal fees and she said she did not recommend pursuing that because a judge will only look at me and my ex (parties of the marriage) and does not take into account help from family. She said with my higher earnings and savings it could backfire and I could end up paying my ex’s fees, even with the DV and TRO.
Is this true? Does anyone else have that experience? I understand family is not a party to the divorce matter, but I thought judges were supposed to level the playing field when it comes to legal fees so it seems crazy to me that someone’s wealthy family can just get away with burying the other party in legal fees.
Anyone else’s ex have poor boundaries with their family of origin (parents, siblings, etc), particularly around your child’s medical information?
We are in the middle of a divorce with a 2.5 year old. My stbxh has no boundaries with his parents related to our son’s medical info and insists on telling his mother everything about our son from a medical standpoint and getting her input. His lack of boundaries with his mother and inability to separate from his family of origin is a main reason why we are divorced.
It is also tricky bc I recently tested positive for a certain genetic marker, so if our son also gets tested and he tells his family that will in turn reveal my medical information which is completely inappropriate.
My opinion is that our son’s medical info is no one’s business but his, ours, and his providers.
When I brought this up in TP he just responded “I can talk to my mother about our son” no conversation, no nothing.
Has anyone else navigated this? Is this just something I have to let go of and accept that if there were no boundaries in the marriage, there certainly won’t be any in the divorce, even for sensitive medical info?