Brand new bike. Took it out for first test ride today and at the end the front brake started clunking/squeaking. Before this it was making kind of a shhhing sound but thought it was just braking in.
Anyone else experience this? Only does it under load, cannot recreate the sound while stationary or simply spinning the wheel.
TL;DR: During a standard massage I repeatedly felt what seemed like unnecessary pelvic/crotch contact while face down. On my head, shoulders, arms, and hands. Even moments that seemed like thrusting. The therapist briefly moved my arm around his waist, and I told him I felt uncomfortable and he stopped. At the end he removed my covering entirely and then just massaged my chest/head… I recently experienced an assault and I’m trying to figure out whether this sounds unusual/unprofessional or whether I’m overthinking it.
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I’m looking for perspective because I left a massage feeling uncomfortable and I’m not sure whether I experienced something inappropriate or whether I’m reading too much into normal massage practices.
I’m (32M) and the therapist was male (maybe late 40s) This was advertised as a normal full body massage.
From the beginning of the massage, while I was face down, I repeatedly felt what I believed was the therapist’s pelvic/crotch area making contact with me and with the table near me. I felt it against the top of my head, shoulder, arm, and at one point my hand. Because I was face down, I couldn’t see what was happening, so I can’t say with certainty what the contact was, but it felt frequent enough that I became increasingly uncomfortable. At moments even felt movement that felt like thrusting, although I want to be careful because I know I couldn’t see.
At one point he moved my arm and placed it around his waist while working on my shoulder. I pulled my arm away slightly and told him, “You’re making me uncomfortable and I feel like you’re crossing a boundary.” He didn’t really speak English, so I’m not sure he really understood the gravity of what I was saying but he immediately removed my arm and didn’t do that again.
The rest was mostly normal, but near the end he removed my covering entirely (I was still wearing underwear) and then only massaged my chest and temples. I didn’t understand why the draping needed to come off, and nothing was explained.
One additional piece of context: I recently experienced an assault, so I’m aware I may be more sensitive to touch and boundaries right now and I’m trying to account for that instead of jumping to conclusions.
Does this sound within the range of normal massage technique/body mechanics, or does this sound unusual or unprofessional to people with massage experience? I am, admittedly, pretty inexperienced with getting massages.
I know Canada denies entry to U.S. Citizens with a DUI conviction - does that also apply to layovers? I am booking a flight home to CA from Lisbon and the cheapest options route through Montreal.
My conviction was in October of 2019.
Anyone have any experience/knowledge with this?
I’ve got 76 days. It hasn’t been easy but it’s been manageable. I’ve been able to subside cravings after a few moments but I had a really tough and busy weekend and had some real core insecurities/wounds come up in a major way.
I got home from work today and literally all I want to do is slam a bottle of whiskey. I haven’t done it but god damn I can’t shake the craving. I told my partner and she’s being helpful and supportive but fuck I want to drink so bad. In a kind of burning desire way that I haven’t experienced since I got sober.
What do you do when you experience these kind fo intense cravings? I really just want to say fuck it.
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