Cousins wedding date is the same as a friends who asked me to be a bridesmaid…what do I do?
I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. She asked the wedding party two years in advance (wedding is next May) which I felt was a bit too early and I was surprised she asked me considering we were only friends for a year at the time, but I was flattered nonetheless and happy to be there for her and her fiance who introduced me to her. I was already asked to pay for the bachelorette last week, which is not until the winter.
My 1st cousin who is like a sister to me, recently got engaged and chose her wedding date the same weekend. My nieces are flower girls and my brother in law is officiating the wedding. My parents are pretty old and my time with them at such events is dwindling. It is much more important for me to be there with my family. My cousin would also be mortified. If I weren’t already asked to be a bridesmaid, this would be different
Unfortunately, my friend is a bridezilla and I am afraid this will ruin our friendship, but to be truthful I didn’t think we were that close so she is not someone I thought would be in my life awhile. How do approach this without breaking her heart / avoid a falling out?
*Thank you all for your thought out responses. I never informed my cousin of the specific wedding date in advance. I just didn’t think to. Learned my lesson. Also didn’t mean to use bridezilla negatively, but I only knew her for a year before she asked me. I have obviously seen new sides of her since then. How should I word this? 🤷♀️