▲ 2 r/DepressionBuddies+1 crossposts

How can I help my adult kid?

Hiya there...I am a mother of a 22yo that just graduated college and they is in a major funk. This kid THRIVED in college-graduated near the top of their class, took Japanese 'for fun', really peaking. They have never really had friends-social skills are tricky for them. They are working a p/t job, not in their field. Immediately after graduation-they started sleeping all the time, not leaving the house, really struggling (mind you, these behaviors are normal for them in the summer-no structure is super hard for them.) Now we are a month into graduation, they have put their resume out there (no bites) and they are stuck. Still going to the gym/martial arts classes-but other wise sleeping a ton and not doing anything else. I encouraged them to go to a therapist, which they did and are seeing regularly- but what else can I do? They don't want to talk to me (sometimes they do, when they think I may be helpful) and I keep reaching out to them...I encouraged them to join the gym (which they did) and to get dressed and shower/eat every day but I'm at a loss. I'm trying baby steps. I don't know how to help my kid. Any advice? I know the world seems so bleak right now, I get how they feel, but I want to help. Thanks for your thoughts.

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u/Chrissybozz — 1 day ago

Losing best friend as an adult

We are in our 50s now, and been friends for a very long time. Have had our ups and downs, but managed to stick together. Now my bestie has a boyfriend and has zero time for me. I feel her pulling away; and only putting in the bare minimum- just checking that box bc a I guess she can cut the tie just yet. I don’t know if her boyfriend is advising her to dump me (I wasn’t completely onboard with their relationship at first- lots of messy adult reasons why) and i only gave my 2 cents about it when she asked… I think she didn’t like my answer. But as an adult woman- it hurts so bad. I have very very close coworkers but I feel I’m leaning on them too hard… and my husband is my best BEST friend, but I need a girl friend. I’m so sad, lonely.

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u/Chrissybozz — 25 days ago