u/CinemaBud

I’m an adult female player, playing rec league in a women’s C-league and a coed D-league. Women’s league is very chill, but in coed I feel like some of the players are really obnoxious to female players. Is this normal/are there any solutions for it?

For example, I played D in a game last weekend where one specific dude (winger) was on my case the entire time. The puck would be nowhere near us and he’d be aggressively stick lifting me—and not just one lift, but like repeatedly wrenching my stick above my head and trying to stay entangled until I could wrench away. He also was skating up and ramming his shoulder into me randomly, again puck nowhere near us. Also rammed me into the boards a couple times. My team was already losing and none of this seemed to benefit him/his team at all.

Ive also had guys seemingly go out of their way to just run into me head on as their “defense” strategy. They don’t often do this with the guys, as far as I can tell. I’ve talked to other female players in my league and they think the players ram into us because we’re smaller and they know they can bully us more than the guys.

My female friend who played hockey with guys growing up said the men on my team should have my back there, but they don’t 🤷‍♀️

It’s genuinely so annoying that I’m debating dropping coed next season and just doing women’s league. The vibes of women’s league are way better, but I do like the faster play in coed and extra game per week in general.

Anyone have any insight on any solutions to this?

I don’t want to get too into the details, but there is a partner who is in my group but in a different office (I.e. not a direct supervisor of mine) who keeps drawing me in to do business development (non billable) work for him weekly.

He is genuinely awful to work with. He has me making presentations for him on weekends. He gives me 0 context on what he wants, won’t answer questions, and then makes me do ten different drafts of the same things (again, refusing to answer questions) until I can figure out what he’s looking for. Mind you, all for non-time sensitive non-billable work.

He is rude and insults me and my work. Genuinely awful to work with. Like he makes me want to quit the firm altogether.

Since he is not a direct supervisor or anything, can I ask to not work with him? How would I go about that?

I am a winger (beer league, D level) and have a question about defensive zone strategy for wingers.

My captain likes us to be hard on the back check and contributing. I do feel like our defenders are… inconsistent, and prone to running the puck up and getting caught too deep in the offensive zone. I’m also faster than a lot of our defenders and am sometimes able to get to the defensive zone faster than them when a player on the other team has a breakaway. Once in the D-zone, I try to focus on blocking their D-man on my side, or the center if the center floats up to my quarter of the defensive zone. Occasionally I cut deeper to help along the boards if the defensemen are too far away.

Still, I feel like I occasionally end up a little deeper in the defensive zone than would be ideal and probably am losing breakaway opportunities at times.

How do you find the balance between being a helpful, defensive winger and focusing on offensive plays?

Does anyone have insight on Lassen Volcanic National Park conditions this weekend? Is still pretty snowy?

I am doing a trip up to Lassen this weekend! I have a dog and am staying near Red Bluff. We were planning to do hikes in the nearby national forest/BLM land in the mornings with the dog, and then spend our afternoons in Lassen exploring (leaving dog at the Airbnb).

What are some cool hikes/places to check out in Lassen that we can do in under six hours? Additionally, I would welcome recommendations for dog-friendly hikes near (but outside) of Lassen!

I am doing a trip up to Lassen this weekend! I have a dog and am staying near Red Bluff. We were planning to do hikes in the nearby national forest/BLM land in the mornings with the dog, and then spend our afternoons in Lassen exploring (leaving dog at the Airbnb).

What are some cool hikes/places to check out in Lassen that we can do in under six hours? Additionally, I would welcome recommendations for dog-friendly hikes near (but outside) of Lassen!

Curious about moving up from D to C league, and how to know you’re ready?

Last season D felt perfect. We had a month or so off between winter and fall season, so I did a bunch of skating and stick handling practice during that time.

This season, we’ve played 5 games and I have 12 points so far. I have had two hat trick games, and during one of which I was playing D (all shots from the D area of the offensive zone). I also just generally feel like I’m holding back a bit because some people are still super new skaters and can’t keep their feet.

I’m curious if I should try and move up to C next season? How do you know when you’re ready?

Curious if anyone else has figured out this issue working in big law. I do not recall this being a problem when I was a junior associate, but for a lot of my third year and all of my fourth year so far I have found it hard to stay focused and locked in to get things done. I feel like I have to work like ten hours to bill six hours because I can’t get my distracted ass to focus on anything for more than like 20 minutes at a time unless it’s a pretty mindless assignment. It’s weird because, in my personal life, I can get locked in on researching things that interest me for many hours at a time without any trouble.

Is it because the work requires more thinking and is less rote now that I’m a few years into practice? Another possible explanation is ADHD—I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid but was never treated because my parents didn’t think it was real. Or maybe I just don’t like this job? Idk.

It’s frustrating because I want to be more productive but I just can’t seem to keep my brain locked in for very long at all without getting distracted.

Anyone else experienced this? What did you do to solve the problem?

To my knowledge, SF Bay Area is not on the table currently. However, here’s my argument for future Bay Area expansion:

First, the Bay Area has a thriving women’s sports scene and is hungry for more. We’ve got the following pro women’s sports teams already (or coming soon):

* Golden State Valkyries (WNBA)
* Bay FC (NWSL)
* San Francisco volleyball (LOVB)
* Bay Area Falcons (Ultimate Frisbee)
* Golden Gate Storm (WNFC)
* WPBL San Francisco (WPBL)

The Valkyries and Bay FC have seen a lot of success so far (in terms of attendance, not necessarily performance…). The Valkyries have been selling out the Chase Center stadium!

Second, the Bay Area loves hockey and has had a longstanding fervor for the Sharks! Sharks fans have got to be some of the most dedicated hockey fans out there, particularly now that Macklin Celebrini is making the team relevant again.

Finally, the Bay Area has a thriving women’s rec hockey scene. There’s a very well-established women-only recreational hockey league with hundreds of members.

All that to say, I think the Bay Area would be a solid contender for a team in the coming years.

I got my allergy shots about an hour ago and am having a weird reaction. I’m on maintenance but just had my shots remixed and had to miss one of my two shots last time. So I had six weeks between shots for one of my vials and two weeks between shots for the other.

I felt okay, just normal arm pain, when I left the clinic. But now I’m having some sudden crazy discomfort in my nose and throat. My tonsils feel swollen and I have this feeling of pain and itchiness in my nose/ear/upper throat area (where they all connect). It feels kind of hard to swallow. Eyes are itchy and my nose is running. Again, none of this when I got up this morning. I already am on a double dose of Zyrtec (one pill last night and one this morning).

Is this a normal shot reaction that I should just wait out, or should I call the allergist?

ETA: I called and they said to take another Zyrtec and wait a bit to see if it goes away, and to EpiPen myself if I start struggling to breathe. Does anyone else have experience with this? Feeling alarmed to say the least

Obviously there’s no all star games for PWHL, but if you were to craft your dream team of current PWHL players, no restrictions, who would be on your dream team and what would your lines be?

Here’s mine:

**Forwards**

Stacey / Poulin / Roque

Coyne-Schofield / Knight / Bilka

Watts / Fillier / Turnbull

Zumwinkle / Heise / Kaltounkova

**Defense**

Winn / Keller

Stecklein / Barnes

Tabin/ Ambrose

**Goalie**

Frankel

Desbien

Phillips