u/Classic-Art9638

hey all,
my LO, 15months, always has a congested nose. he’s been this way since we first brought him home. every doctor visit, every message to the office, his pediatrician says it’s just how kids are. his nose is so stuffed that he is constantly mouth breathing and when i go to suck it out, put nasal drops in, or even put a humidifier on it doesn’t help. he is at the age where i can give him a little bit of allergy medicine and that isn’t helping either.
his dad also has this problem and he went to an ENT to get checked out and it’s resolved. my son’s pediatrician doesn’t want us to get a second opinion for some reason she just keeps giving us medicine and advice that i’ve already tried. i feel bad because he doesn’t eat as much as he wants to or drink because his nose stops him.
has anyone else had this problem?? how did you get it resolved? i’m trying so hard to advocate for my child but his doctor is making it so hard.

my 15 month old can eat— apparently because at daycare they say he eats a lot but at home he just plays with his food and doesn’t eat anything. how do i redirect him? i am a FTM and kind of frustrating when he likes the food but wont eat it. he will throw the food on the ground or spread it around his high chair table.

i have tried to take the food away— he laughs then cries then i tell him “throw bad, food eat” like caveman talk

i also tried smaller portions — still throws it and laughs

tried utensils — throws the utensils and says “uh oh” or shrugs “what happened”

he still uses bottles too but i’ve been limiting it to only a bedtime one. he is super hungry but just wants to play… his weight has gone down and im getting concerned

TL;DR: snooped through my bf phone and found him lusting over women and i need help to confront him but don’t want to tell him i snooped through his stuff.

so we have been together for about 2-3 years, i’m not sure because we were just fwb before an actual relationship. we have had ups and downs before like any normal couple duh. we also have a 1yr old together. i have still been struggling with PPD and i don’t put myself together as i used to. i’m fatter, uglier, just all around not what i used to before motherhood. i snooped through his phone the other day because i was curious to see what was on it.. wasn’t expecting to find anything because we haven’t had a rough patch in a while. i found on snapchat him swiping up on girls story’s saying they’re pretty, another chat asking one where she stayed at, and the one that topped it off is he hearted a girls story’s just asking who got money and a big 🍆 (gross).. she was like a s*x influencer…

after seeing these, i literally got so sad and felt so disgusted with him and myself. i feel like if i worked on myself then he wouldn’t feel like he had to lust after other women. i do a lot for him and he does a lot for me but i felt like we were in a good place.. i guess not. how do i confront him about this? he hates when i go through his stuff so he would get upset at me for doing it but im the one who should be upset because of what i found… lol