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Hi guys, I (F,19) need advice about my best friend of six years, (F,19). Around the end of last year, my best friend got her first boyfriend and overtime I could tell she was distancing away through her behaviour and effort. However, I also got a boyfriend around that same time. Admittedly, I love my boyfriend so much and we spend a lot of time together as well, but I still make the effort to talk to my friends and go out when I can.

Anywho, since the end of last year— things really haven’t been the same since it seems like she devotes her full time and attention to her boyfriend. Beforehand, she used to be a super social person and was always down to party and go out for drinks ect, though now she is literally the opposite, and only wants to go out if her boyfriend comes along.

She’s lost all her personal interests, her identity and personality. I’ve brought it up a couple of times how I personally feel hurt by this, as it’s literally my best friend. Obviously, she promised that she would change though nothings ever really changed and we just continue to distance. One time she even turned and said that we weren’t happy for her and her relationship. They now practically live together, and I barely see her at all and when I do, she’s either calling or texting him 24/7.

Also not to mention— he isn’t financially stable and spends his money gambling most of the time, so she pays for a lot of things. He’s also already cheated on her, however she’s taken him back. Multiple occasions her boyfriend has said weird comments about my body, joking about three ways, ect. However she doesn’t believe it’s an issue and it’s just a joke.

Anyway, a couple of times I’ve reached out asking if she’d want to go out and the first time she did in a while, she had to leave early because he was waiting at home, which I was pretty hurt by.

She also didn’t want to go out clubbing or drinking or anything for my birthday because she wasn’t with him, which I’m again pretty hurt by and I feel it’s disrespectful. I don’t really know what more I can do anymore. She reached out asking to hang out last week, but that’s only because her boyfriend was out with the boys.

She has asked me to hang out this week, but I’m not sure if I really want to anymore because she doesn’t put any effort to make time to hang out with her friends until they don’t wanna talk to her anymore.

I’ve been contemplating whether I really want this friendship to move forward, even though it’s sad to watch it go down the drain, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore and it’s obvious. I just need advice whether I should actually cut contact with her because I feel like me venting how I feel to her isn’t gonna help, cuz it hasn’t the last like three times. I’ve been with her through thick and thin and all her difficult obstacles in her life and it doesn’t seem to be reciprocated at all.

I’ve talked to my other close friend and she honestly doesn’t really seem too affected by it either so I don’t wanna talk about it / bring it up with her again. I also just really need an unbiased perspective on it because I’ve been physically and mentally struggling with this for a while, and I’ve expressed this to her, but nothing has come of it✌️

Hi guys, I (F,19) need advice about my best friend of six years, (F,19). Around the end of last year, my best friend got her first boyfriend and overtime I could tell she was distancing away through her behaviour and effort. However, I also got a boyfriend around that same time. Admittedly, I love my boyfriend so much and we spend a lot of time together as well, but I still make the effort to talk to my friends and go out when I can.

Anywho, since the end of last year— things really haven’t been the same since it seems like she devotes her full time and attention to her boyfriend. Beforehand, she used to be a super social person and was always down to party and go out for drinks ect, though now she is literally the opposite, and only wants to go out if her boyfriend comes along.

She’s lost all her personal interests, her identity and personality. I’ve brought it up a couple of times how I personally feel hurt by this, as it’s literally my best friend. Obviously, she promised that she would change though nothings ever really changed and we just continue to distance. One time she even turned and said that we weren’t happy for her and her relationship. They now practically live together, and I barely see her at all and when I do, she’s either calling or texting him 24/7.

Also not to mention— he isn’t financially stable and spends his money gambling most of the time, so she pays for a lot of things. He’s also already cheated on her, however she’s taken him back. Multiple occasions her boyfriend has said weird comments about my body, joking about three ways, ect. However she doesn’t believe it’s an issue and it’s just a joke.

Anyway, a couple of times I’ve reached out asking if she’d want to go out and the first time she did in a while, she had to leave early because he was waiting at home, which I was pretty hurt by.

She also didn’t want to go out clubbing or drinking or anything for my birthday because she wasn’t with him, which I’m again pretty hurt by and I feel it’s disrespectful. I don’t really know what more I can do anymore. She reached out asking to hang out last week, but that’s only because her boyfriend was out with the boys.

She has asked me to hang out this week, but I’m not sure if I really want to anymore because she doesn’t put any effort to make time to hang out with her friends until they don’t wanna talk to her anymore.

I’ve been contemplating whether I really want this friendship to move forward, even though it’s sad to watch it go down the drain, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore and it’s obvious. I just need advice whether I should actually cut contact with her because I feel like me venting how I feel to her isn’t gonna help, cuz it hasn’t the last like three times. I’ve been with her through thick and thin and all her difficult obstacles in her life and it doesn’t seem to be reciprocated at all.

I’ve talked to my other close friend and she honestly doesn’t really seem too affected by it either so I don’t wanna talk about it / bring it up with her again. I also just really need an unbiased perspective on it because I’ve been physically and mentally struggling with this for a while, and I’ve expressed this to her, but nothing has come of it✌️

Hi guys, I (F,19) need advice about my best friend of six years, (F,19). Around the end of last year, my best friend got her first boyfriend and overtime I could tell she was distancing away through her behaviour and effort. However, I also got a boyfriend around that same time. Admittedly, I love my boyfriend so much and we spend a lot of time together as well, but I still make the effort to talk to my friends and go out when I can.

Anywho, since the end of last year— things really haven’t been the same since it seems like she devotes her full time and attention to her boyfriend. Beforehand, she used to be a super social person and was always down to party and go out for drinks ect, though now she is literally the opposite, and only wants to go out if her boyfriend comes along. She’s lost all her personal interests, her identity and personality. I’ve brought it up a couple of times how I personally feel hurt by this, as it’s literally my best friend. Obviously, she promised that she would change though nothings ever really changed and we just continue to distance. One time she even turned and said that we weren’t happy for her and her relationship. They now practically live together, and I barely see her at all and when I do, she’s either calling or texting him 24/7. Also not to mention— he isn’t financially stable and spends his money gambling most of the time, so she pays for a lot of things.

Anyway, a couple of times I’ve reached out asking if she’d want to go out and the first time she did in a while, she had to leave early because he was waiting at home, which I was pretty hurt by. Not to mention, this guy has cheated on her and she still took him back. She also didn’t want to go out clubbing or drinking or anything for my birthday because she wasn’t with him, which I’m again pretty hurt by and I feel it’s disrespectful. I don’t really know what more I can do anymore. She reached out asking to hang out last week, but that’s only because her boyfriend was out with the boys. I’ve been contemplating whether I really want this friendship to move forward, even though it’s sad to watch it go down the drain, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore and it’s obvious. I just need advice whether I should actually cut contact with her because I feel like me venting how I feel to her isn’t gonna help, cuz it hasn’t the last like three times. I’ve been with her through thick and thin and all her difficult obstacles in her life and it doesn’t seem to be reciprocated at all.

She has asked me to hang out this week, but I’m not sure if I really want to anymore because she doesn’t put any effort to make time to hang out with her friends until they don’t wanna talk to her anymore.

I’ve talked to my other close friend and she honestly doesn’t really seem too affected by it either so I don’t wanna talk about it / bring it up with her again. I also just really need an unbiased perspective on it because I’ve been physically and mentally struggling with this for a while, and I’ve expressed this to her, but nothing has come of it✌️