u/CodAggressive8217

I am now almost 31. I did not lose my virginity until this year with this woman I met (she’s 32 now), and she started cheating very early on. She did a piss-poor job of hiding it too, I found out everything the day she started doing it.

One of the men knocked her up and I pretended to just kind of accept it and move on, even saying I’d help raise the child. But in truth, I figured I’d learn sex from her then move on to a woman who doesn’t cheat on me and get pregnant. I was planning to leave when the child was born so that I don’t fuck the kid up.

She is nearly due. And for 7 months now, she has been going to therapy and repeatedly apologizing for what she did when we started dating. And she thanked me for forgiving her and agreeing to help raise her kid. She appears to be legitimately remorseful and I’m just realizing it. I thought she was bullshitting me just to fool me into helping her raise her kid, but she hasn’t asked me to sign anything stupid yet. I found her asking her best friend for advice to prove that she’s sorry (she left her phone out), and she agreed to not force me to sign any papers to prove it.

Simply put, I still left her, I was never able to forgive her for what she did. I stayed with her to gain experience, that was it.

I’m asking because I’m alone on yet another holiday. After a whole decade of incessant awful luck, I didn’t lose my virginity until 29. Then the woman I find cheats the whole relationship. I stayed just to gain experience, then I ditched her because she got knocked up and she wanted me to raise her affair baby. Tests were done, there’s no way I am this kid’s father.

I was with her for about a year (just three weeks ago), but I am still worried about this backfiring.

I swear I'm not even trolling any of you, I'm just now feeling very down on my luck. I made a similar post on another account but idiots brought it down to negative karma, so here I am.

I didn't lose my virginity until 30 and I stayed with my first gf until I was 31. However, she was not faithful (cheating ALL THE TIME) and made excuses for it. It ended with me leaving her. I wanted to leave her as soon as I learned she was doing that, but I suffered through it and stayed for a year just to get experience. I was rejected a few more times because they still thought I was too inexperienced.

I now want to ask out a lifelong friend who moved somewhere long ago and recently moved back but I’m afraid she’ll just reject me like the rest of the women who met me (due to lack of experience). The only reason I didn’t ask her out sooner was because she lived in a place I couldn’t afford. She couldn’t afford it either now, which is why she’s back, and I wonder if proximity changes whether I should or not. Should I even bother, we are the same age?