u/Cold_Pomegranate7039

I feel like I'm an extrovert with social anxiety but I'm not sure. I see that one thing which divides enfps and infps is social extroversion even though Ne doms don't mean social extrovertion. I'm not sure whether I'm an enfp or an infp.

Trying to understand two things, social extrovertion Vs a introversion and how it relates to enfp Vs infp.

Obviously it's not an objective analysis or so, I just wanna know what it's like to be a social introvert as an infp.

I generally want to talk to someone all the time but I don't. Sometimes Idk how to, sometimes I get anxious. Once the momentum is built, it's nonstop. I'm not fond of spending time alone for that long, but ofcourse to get a social high, I have to meet people in my wavelength.

I always feel like, why don't they talk to me more or why not hangout more or I wish I had someone to share it with whenever I find something exciting or problematic.

It's not that I don't have friends but 3 to 4 isn't sufficient.

I see a lot of people say early 20s are about fun and exploration and that late 20s mean settling in terms of career, relationships etc.

Is it so for you people?

Is it because most people follow the same path of getting a degree, internships in early 20s and so obviously by late 20s they can settle down?

In my personal experience, I can't definitely think age has anything to do with it. I don't feel anything differently just because I've gotten older.

But I do get comments from people like, "I didn't think someone in late 20s would like to play that game!" or "it's time you got married". It's confusing.

I feel like people associate being 26 as 260 years old lmaoo

So my bfs best friend is liked by all his friends. They seem to remember her and want to hangout with her and such. My bf told me about her with a lot of admiration and a lot of people know her through him. But me despite being his gf, none remembers me.💀

I don't want anyone to dislike her, this isn't just about her either but I feel that people neutrally like me or like me a little. And comparing myself to her is the easiest way to explain this situation. None is rude per se but yeah. When I'm with my bf, people like him more rather. 👀💀💀

I'm not sure I understand what makes someone likeable. This girl, I too like her a lot but also found her to be very annoying. I thought she was confident but also attention seeking and rather pays attention to unnecessary business of others. And judges people prematurely. What's likeable about her is I think she is charismatic. Something in her energy and the way she talks. None is without flaws and I definitely like her too. I like her authenticity.

But what makes someone rememberable or very likeable? I think I am not as knowledgeable as they are, maybe it's that. And idk about anything to depth because I struggle with multiple interests. I don't think I've ever been liked by many people anyway. People have said impressive from time to time but that's it.

I'm extroverted but not outgoing, so it does matter a bit much that I never feel liked enough.

Any ideas? What makes you like someone a lot? Or even memorable?

Hello fellow ENFPs,

Let's say you wanna do something, spend your vacation with friends or start a business,

1. Approximately how many ideas do you get?

2. What proportion of those ideas do you actually act on?

I'd like to know it as a ratio 🙈🙉

Me,

I get about 8 to 10 ideas I think and around 3 of them them turn into action. 💀 I'll say 10:3.

I usually want to do them all immediately but lack of resources or not knowing how to get through obstacles get in the way.